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Sam and Erica's Marriage Podcast - 014 - Emotional Needs, Affection and Sex

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Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage Part 2 (Affection & Sexual Fulfillment)

Episode 014

June 17, 2019

Introduction
  1. Welcome
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  • The 2nd part of our series on Meeting my Spouse’s Emotional needs. Affection and Sexual Fulfillment
    • Discussion

        Erica: How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. ( See episode 13)

    • Get dialogue going between husband and wife if nothing else

    Recap See episode 13 for details

    Questionnaire to identify your emotional need

     

      1. What are my emotional needs? Questionnaire
        1. Affection (Erica talks about this) As it turns out this is my #1 need Scripture ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:10‬ ‭“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”‬‬
    • Non sexual way of showing he cares
  • Makes us feel like we are the most important person to you

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    • Things you used to do before you were married
    • Men were not raised to show affection
    • Tell him what you like
    • Practical ways to meet your spouses emotional need for Affection

     

        1. Sexual Fulfillment (Sam talks about this)
    • The misunderstanding
    1. Sex is as important to a man is as affection is to a woman and vise vera but we dont get it.
    Drive
    1. Testosterone makes it a biological thing
    Sexual Awareness
    1. Men, most while their still boys, discover their sexuallity early and therefore usually bring more understanding of how to have a pleasurable sexual experience into a marriage.

     

    • Motivation
    • That sexdrive, the pleasure and the connection all motivate a man for women its a lot less biological and much more about intimacy and the emotional connection
    • Practical ways to meet your spouse’s need of Sexual Fulfillment

     

    1. How do I feel/respond if my needs are not being met?
      1. Resentment
    • Frustration- only restaurant - 1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
    Anger (“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”) “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,”‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:26‬
    Insecure
    Withdraw
    Lonely
    What happens in my marriage if my needs are not being met?
    1. Disconnect/Drift
  • Affairs/Temptation
  • Lashing out James 3:6 “The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.





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  • Now that you have a better idea of what your spouse’s emotional needs are try to focus on meeting his/her # 1 need this week. It may be awkward at first but so was that first date. Give each other grace as you exercise this muscle. You can do it!
    • RESOURCES

     

    Bible

    His Needs, Her Needs- Building an Affair Proof Marriage Willard F. Harley, Jr.

    https://amzn.to/30TX9xc

     

    For Married Men Only- Dr. Tony Evans

    https://amzn.to/31016k3

     

    For Married Women Only-Dr. Tony Evans

    https://amzn.to/2QGP4Ht

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