Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage Part 3 (Intimate Conversation & Physical Attractiveness)

 Episode 015

June 25, 2019 

1. Welcome 

     Erica: How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. (See episode 13) 

• Get dialogue going between husband and wife if nothing else

Recap See episode 13 for details 

 Questionnaire to identify your emotional need 

1. 1. What are my emotional needs? 
      1. Intimate Conversation (Erica talks about this) #2 most important Emotional need for women.

• First emotional need met in an affair (Willard F. Harley) 

• Intimacy ( PKJ- Into me I ALLOW you to see) 

• How am I doing?

• How am I feeling? 

• What do I think? 

• Ryan’s question 

• Dating vs Married Conversations 

• Dating getting to know each other from the beginning 

• Married continuing to get to know other (lifelong journey) 

• Date night conversations 

• We have different reasons for talking 

• Men talk to relay information-head to head (example- sports stats)

• Women talk to connect-heart to heart (I’m feeling this way)

• Women are eager to share with other men the problems they are having in the relationship 

• Give her a reason to want to talk to you 

• Reasons he won’t talk to me 

• Nagging Prov 27:15 “A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm;”

• Critical 

• Monopolize Conversation 

• Conversation Volly 

• Practical ways to meet your spouse’s emotional need for Intimate Conversation 

1. 1. 1. Physical Attractiveness (Sam talks about this)

• People with this need want their spouse to be hot

1. To be physically attractive

• Some men (people) could care less...they have other emotional needs that are much more important.

• Its not about looking like someone else but being the best, sexiest, healthiest, hottest version of you.

• Love me as I am!

• To a person that has this emotional need those are fighting words

• Physical Attractiveness seems like a trivial need...unless it yours (But they all do to someone that doesn’t have them)

• A person with this need takes it personally when its met and personally when its not.

• A good indicator that this may be high on your spouse’s list is if they put a lot of energy into their appearance.

• Practical ways to meet your spouse’s need of Physical Attractiveness