Choose Better Thoughts

Same Fight, Different Night: A Self-Coaching Journey


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This episode is about one of those nights. The kind where something small, like a missing safe food at dinner, turns into something big. The kind where you and your partner have the same argument you’ve had a dozen times, and afterward, you don’t like how you showed up.

I take you inside a real-life moment where my thoughts led me into anxiety, anger, and shame and how I’m working through it now using the self-coaching tools I teach. Not to shame myself. Not to pretend it didn’t happen. But to understand it, learn from it, and soften my return to connection.

This isn’t an episode about being right. It’s about what happens when we’re human and how we come back to ourselves and our people after that.


What You Will Learn

How one unspoken thought can quietly drive anxiety, reactivity, and shutdown

The specific difference between showing up as a partner vs. prosecuting your partner

What the self-coaching Model looks like in real life, not just in theory

How to shift from shame to self-compassion—without bypassing accountability

Why "repair" is more powerful than perfection, and how to start practicing it


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Choose Better ThoughtsBy Amanda Doyle