As single moms we’re ALWAYS running on empty, each day we sleep and recharge just enough to fill our metaphorical tank to about ¼ tank, just enough to get through the next day.  It’s why we are always on edge, we always feel like everything is about to unravel.  We DO all things.  We "people please" because that's the path of least resistance.  We say things like, “no, I’m fine - really.  I love doing (all the things) and honestly, letting my ex have his way - it keeps the peace and makes my life easier."

BULLSHIT!!!

You are people pleasing to keep the peace and it's BLOWING UP IN YOUR FACE!  You are drowning in chaos that you don't need to.  It all comes down to setting some boundaries for yourself - AND STICKING TO THEM!!!!