I know you're sitting there watching Felicia down the street who DOES all the things.  She's on all the committees and does everything with all of her kids.  And you're judging her a bit and you are annoyed with her a bit.  CHECK YO SELF momma.... Why are you comparing yourself to her in the first place?  Why is she so triggering for you (what do you have inside that's  not healed or whole)?  What boundary do you need to set so that you are showing up as the best version of you and so that you can quit judging her?

One of the hardest parts of a blended family situation is co-parenting.  There are so many emotions that come into play on all sides of the coin.  It is also one of (if not THE) most important parts of blending a family.  It is CRITICAL for all of the adults to "play nice" and get along.  

This conversation was so powerful, because Cara and I both wear the hats of Mom + Step-mom.  We get to bring all the perspectives!

Cara Wray is a Mindset & Relationship Coach helping mothers nurture the relationship between themselves, their spouse and their children. She is a mother and step mother to 4 beautiful children and she believes your strongest beliefs become your reality.

How you can connect with Cara:

Free FB Community:  The Sacred Mama Co.

Email:  [email protected]

Personal FB - https://www.facebook.com/cara.finkwagner

IG - https://www.instagram.com/the.sacred.mama/

As single moms we’re ALWAYS running on empty, each day we sleep and recharge just enough to fill our metaphorical tank to about ¼ tank, just enough to get through the next day.  It’s why we are always on edge, we always feel like everything is about to unravel.  We DO all things.  We "people please" because that's the path of least resistance.  We say things like, “no, I’m fine - really.  I love doing (all the things) and honestly, letting my ex have his way - it keeps the peace and makes my life easier."

BULLSHIT!!!

You are people pleasing to keep the peace and it's BLOWING UP IN YOUR FACE!  You are drowning in chaos that you don't need to.  It all comes down to setting some boundaries for yourself - AND STICKING TO THEM!!!!

Another awesome conversation with an incredible human!  LOVED chatting with Ashley about the importance of honoring YOU & taking the big scary leaps, even when they don't make sense and even when they disrupt your stable + comfortable life.

ASHLEY MARTIN is a motivational speaker, small biz strategist, multi-passionate creative and life empowerer. With her down-to-earth personality and inspiring (and oftentimes hilarious) stories, she guides and encourages those who are stressed-out to slow down and step out of their comfort zones to create a life full of balance, beauty and freedom. Her mission is to help you to find joy and peace by taking risks, trusting your intuition, and unapologetically standing up for what you want. Ashley lives in the Lake Minnetonka area with her handy husband Chad, her best bud dog Maggie, and a sweet cat named Dubbadoo.

Do you have something that is tugging at your heart? A decision that you know in your brain sounds crazy...but kind of crazy awesome? Grab her free guide on the website below to help you discern your next right step ---> 10 Questions to Ask Before You Jump

Where can you find Ashley?

website: www.ashmasterflash.com

email:  [email protected]

IG: @ashmasterflash

FB:  @ashmasterflash

Yep - I said it!  It is quite literally part of your DNA to trust your motherly instinct and yet almost daily we seek the validation of other parents.  And, in the same breath we tell our kids, "If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you follow them?"  We tell them that their friends' opinions don't matter but that's not what we're modeling for them.  You want independent thinkers?  BE an independent thinker.

Sarah is another single momma.  She's also an Empowerment Coach for Single Moms & Human Design Facilitator for their Children.  We met during a mastermind with one of our mentors.  Honestly, this is another episode with so many juicy nuggets that it's hard to summarize.  However, she EPITOMIZES what it means to find your self-worth and start creating a magical fucking life!!!  She's the momma of two boys and she is CRUSHING it right now - finding all the things that light her up and bring her joy, AND - she's sharing the journey with her kids.  Sarah is also an early childhood educator and well versed in Human Design.  She uses those two skill sets to CRUSH the #singemomgame.

Connect with Sarah:

IG:  instagram.com/sarahjyorke

FB:  https://www.facebook.com/sarah.yorke.33

... it's because we throw it around like a meme.  "I need a day of self-care."  "What I wouldn't give for time to do self-care."  Seriously - self-care is not a LUXURY!  While things like bubble baths, manicures, a quiet night with wine and Netflix... those things are important and I'm here for those 1111% - that is NOT self-care.  Self-care is healing old wounds, doing things DAILY that nurture ourselves.  It is just what the term says, "self-CARE".   It means feeding our minds, caring our body and nurturing our spirit.  That should not be diminished to a "special event" - it should be part of our daily practice.

Returning guest, Corina Sowada and I revisit some of our juicy topics about #singlemomlife, dating and knowing your own worth.  

Ways to connect with Corina:

IG:  @corina_unleashed

Podcast:  Deep Breaths & F* Bombs

I can't even summarize all of the incredible things we chatted about in this episode.  Emily brings such an incredible energy and no-nonsense perspective to healing, getting in touch with your feminine archetypes and a whole host of other topics!!!  

Where to find Emily:

[email protected]

www.facebook.com/emily.c.turner

www.instagram.com/emily.c.turner

https://www.facebook.com/groups/rawqueens/