Intro: 

Welcome to “Say WHAT!! Say HAYES!!” Podcast. We are your hosts Derrick & Dalina, & we are “The Real Hayes’s”. 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

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Fellas/Ladies, have you ever wanted to know something about our female/Male counterparts but never had the chance or opportunity to ask? Well, today is the day! I have compiled the top 10 most desirable questions we as men/women want to know about our beautiful, wonderful, talented women/men!

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Intro: 

Welcome to “Say WHAT!! Say HAYES!!” Podcast. We are your hosts Derrick & Dalina, & we are “The Real Hayes’s”. 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

Thank you…Like, Subscribe and Share! Hit notification bell button, so you can be notified when we drop new content.

Ask yourself are you worth a relationship or marriage?

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Welcome to “Say WHAT!! Say HAYES!!” Podcast. We are your hosts Derrick & Dalina, & we are “The Real Hayes’s”. 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

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How many are guilty of having New Year resolutions and find that in just a few months those resolutions are out the door? 

What were some of those resolutions and have you ever heard of some that were just plain Crazy? 

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Funny New Year Resolutions that we’ve heard

1. Go vegan for six months and inevitably give up.
2. Stock up on fresh fruits and vegetables — and eat them before they turn into green mystery goop in the back of the fridge.
3. Sign up for a marathon that I bravely will not actually run.
4. Go on a vitamin and supplement shopping spree and finish at least one bottle before I give up.
5. Stop lying to myself about following New Year’s resolutions.
6. Go viral on TikTok.
7. Pick movies on Netflix swiftly and decisively so that, you know, I actually hit play before falling asleep.
8. Refuse to acknowledge the entirety of 2022 during social gatherings.
9. Post “New Year, New Me (JK)” on social media
10. Have eyebrows that are symmetrical.
11. Keep kicking ass and taking names, because detailed record-keeping is important.
12. Actually going to the gym and working out instead of wearing workout clothes 24/7.
13. Read more (or at least turn the subtitles on while binge-watching TV).
14. Wake up before noon on the weekends.
15. Don’t text that toxic person back. You know the one. We all have one.
16. Fart in front of my squad with no shame.
17. Stop making lists that include making more lists.
18. Be OK with having to make more than one trip from the car to bring in groceries. The human arm can only hold so much.
19. Floss every day — and not just with wild abandon in the week leading up to a cleaning.
20. Book that bougie trip.
21. Actually put on a full outfit for Zoom calls (although let’s be real, business-on-top-PJs-below never hurt anyone).
22. Get waxed without feeling obligated to make awkward small talk.
23. Stop forcing my family to make New Year’s Resolutions. Word to the wise: Eight-year-olds DGAF.
24. When meeting with friends, I will stop telling the same jokes. Or I’ll make new friends.
25. Harness every bit of willpower I have to not hit the elevator button repeatedly in a futile attempt to make it go faster.
26. Tell the doctor the truth when they ask how many drinks — alcoholic or caffeinated — I have in a month.
27. I will pick fewer Internet fights.
28. I will finish all DIY projects I started.
29. I will be unashamed of the fact that I’m wearing pajamas in public.
30. I will become an internet celebrity
31. I will celebrate obscure holidays.
- [ ] National Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day (January 31st): Wrap everything in your cubicle in bubble wrap, from your chair to your stapler to your insulated coffee mug. 
- [ ] National Public Sleeping Day (February 28th): Bring a pillow and blanket to work and nap under your desk during your lunch break. Bonus points if you also wear an old-timey stocking cap while sleeping. 
- [ ] National Two Different Colored Shoes Day (May 3rd): Wear two different colored shoes. This could be as subtle as wearing the same shoe style in different colors, or as obvious as pairing a cowboy moot with a stiletto heel.

Welcome to “Say WHAT!! Say HAYES!!” Podcast. We are your hosts Derrick & Dalina, & we are “The Real Hayes’s”. 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

Thank you…Like, Subscribe and Share! Hit notification bell button, so you can be notified when we drop new content.

Happy Kwanzaa! 

Today is the first day of Kwanzaa “Umoja” First principle which means to strive for unity in the family, community, nation and race.

2022 is almost over! Another year is about to be placed in the book of time. Is it important to reflect on it or should we just look forward to the future 2023 and what’s to come?

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Episode 8: “Mental Health in Black Families“ Why don’t we talk about it? 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

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( we are not licensed therapists or MDs; we’re only offering advice based on our own personal experiences and personal research) 

What is mental health?

Can we talk about MENTAL HEALTH in black families? Why?

Why is mental health important for overall health?

Can your mental health change over time?

What is Mental Illness? 

How common are mental illnesses in our community?

What causes mental illness?

5 steps to mental wellbeing
Evidence suggests there are 5 steps you can take to improve your mental health and wellbeing. Trying these things could help you feel more positive and able to get the most out of life.

https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/guides-tools-and-activities/five-steps-to-mental-wellbeing/

Episode 7 “Mistakes Vs Bad Decisions“

Intro: 
Welcome to “Say WHAT!! Say HAYES!!” Podcast. We are your hosts Derrick & Dalina, & we are “The Real Hayes’s”. 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

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Title: “Mistakes Vs Bad Decisions”

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Why do you think people often dismiss their bad decisions by reclassifying them as mistakes?

Why is it important to know and understand a mistakes from a bad decision?

Why do you think people make bad decisions?

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Intro: 
Welcome to “Say WHAT!! Say HAYES!!” Podcast. We are your hosts Derrick & Dalina, & we are “The Real Hayes’s”. 

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

Thank you…Like, Subscribe, share & hit notification button.

Title: “Gender Roles & Stereotypes”

Gender roles influence a wide range of human behavior, often including the clothing a person chooses to wear, the profession a person pursues, the personal relationships a person enters, and how they behave within those relationships. Although gender roles have evolved and expanded, they traditionally keep women in the "private" sphere, and men in the "public" sphere.

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What are gender role/stereotypes you know about from the past and present?  

How do gender roles impact a marriage/relationship?

What are the causes and effects of gender stereotypes in relationships today?

This podcast was created for you! 

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

“We’re not perfect but we’re perfect for each other!!”

Perfect: defined as..

“having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.”

We’re NOT perfect!!

We believe that (black) Love ,(black) Marriages and (black) Relationships do exist by and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

 
When most people hear “holiday” it makes them think of people, shopping, parties and sales.  Truthfully many holidays are becoming commercialized and traditions are becoming trivialized.  We Believe that Traditions Matter!

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Why do traditions matter? 

What family traditions have impacted you? Positively or Negatively! 

What are some of your favorite holiday songs?

What are your favorite holiday movies?

What traditions would you like to continue or create?

Ways to Simplify Holiday Gift-Giving and Reduce Stress

https://oregoncounseling.com/article/ways-to-simplify-holiday-gift-giving-and-reduce-stress/ 

3 Ways to Avoid the Holiday Blues

https://eugenetherapy.com/article/3-ways-to-avoid-the-holiday-blues/

Giveaway:

This holiday season, we will be adopting one working family for Christmas.  Please submit your nominations explaining why you or another family should be sponsored and provide specific details.  Completed nominations should be sent via email to [email protected] by November 25th; be sure to leave a  “Submitted” comment in the comment section once sent.  The Christmas winner will be announced on December 5th.  All information will be included in the description.  Please like, subscribe and share. 

Once again we would like to thank each of you for the support.  Please continue to like, subscribe, and share to all of our platforms.

We believe that (black) Love, (black) marriages, and (black) relationships do exist and that they should be discussed, showcased and celebrated through Faith, Family and Fun!

Todays podcast is all about "Dating in a Marriage"

Why is it important? Why isn't dating a regular thing in many marriages today?

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5 reason why its important to date your spouse regularly (link below)

- [ ] Fun 
- [ ] Intimacy
- [ ] Reminder of LOVE
- [ ] Sacred Space
- [ ] Priorities 

https://isaiahcounselingandwellness.com/top-5-reasons-why-its-important-to-date-your-spouse/


5 Love Languages

https://5lovelanguages.com

List of dating Ideas:

- [ ] Take a cooking class together
- [ ] Take a road trip and explore
- [ ] Romantic picnic w/ out cell phones
- [ ] Go to a wine tasting
- [ ] Take a pottery class
- [ ] Go see a play
- [ ] Go to the museum 
- [ ] Jazz/music in the park
- [ ] Volunteer
- [ ] Skydiving 
- [ ] Camping
- [ ] Go to a concert
- [ ] Work on a project together
- [ ] Sit on your patio with drinks and snacks watching the stars
- [ ] Take a dance class
- [ ] Enjoy board game night
- [ ] Enjoy a nature walk
- [ ] Go bike riding 
- [ ] Work out together
- [ ] Try a foreign restaurant 
- [ ] Couples spa day
- [ ] See a comedy show
- [ ] Bowling etc.

Giveaway:

This holiday season, we will be adopting one working family for Christmas and awarding $150 in groceries to a family in need for Thanksgiving.  Please submit your nominations explaining why you or another family should be sponsored and provide specific details.  Completed nominations should be sent via email to [email protected] by November 19th; be sure to leave a  “Submitted” comment in the comment section once sent.  The Thanksgiving winner will be announced on November 21st and the Christmas winner will be announced on December 5th.  All information will be included in the description.  Please like and share. 

Once again we would like to thank each of you for the support.  Please continue to like, subscribe, and share to all of our platforms.