Most founders talk about near-death experiences, but few admit the brutal truth: sometimes the company survives, but you lose pieces of yourself you can never get back.
James Lo had 2 weeks left before bankruptcy, watched a team member become a stalker after layoffs, and wrestled with whether building venture-scale companies requires abandoning your deepest values.
This is his unfiltered reckoning with what it really costs to build.
🧠 What You'll Learn
▪️ How to survive the 48-hour countdown to bankruptcy
▪️ Why consensus-building will destroy your startup - and the conflict framework that saves it
▪️ The hidden psychology of why deep friendships at work become emotional time bombs
▪️ How Sequoia plays a 10-year game most founders never see coming
▪️ Why the "spend money to grow" VC playbook is fundamentally broken in 2025
▪️ The automation-first hiring philosophy that could revolutionise early-stage companies
📖 Chapters
0:00 - Intro
1:24 - Two Weeks From Bankruptcy
4:58 - "We Were Completely Wrong..."
7:45 - The Portuguese Holiday That Nearly Killed Us
10:21 - When Deep Friendships Become Toxic at Work
15:17 - From Hong Kong Activism to Silicon Valley
22:13 - "You Look Down at Your Footsteps, Walk Upward in Flow"
25:16 - Why Activism and Entrepreneurship Are the Same (And Different)
30:47 - The Guilt of Abandoning the Movement
35:20 - How We Pivoted After Raising (And Why Antonio Still Backed Us)
40:04 - How Sequoia Scouted Me for 2 Years Before I Knew It
46:18 - The 30-Person Founder Speed Dating Experiment
50:12 - How to Test Co-Founder Chemistry in Crisis
55:46 - From Consensus Builder to Conflict Embracer
60:21 - Why "Hire Your Way Out of Problems" Will Kill You
65:16 - The Controversial Truth About VC Growth Mentality
70:19 - Building Vision from Personal Problems (Not Top-Down Idealism)
78:53 - How Simplicity Reveals Unexpected Vision
88:00 - The Team Member Who Became a Stalker
95:17 - Balancing Ruthlessness with Humanity
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