Scarred Sons Podcast

Abandonment | The Scars of Being Left Behind

Abandonment can be loud, like someone walking out, or quiet, like the moment you realize you were never a priority.

In this episode of Sit With A Scarred Son, I open up about one of the deepest scars I've carried: abandonment. I share how the feeling of not being chosen followed me into adulthood, shaped my relationships, and led me to believe I had to earn love by being everything everyone needed me to be.

We talk about the weight men carry in silence, the fear of being left behind, and how abandonment can show up as people-pleasing, overperforming, and struggling to let people go.

I also reflect on the role faith, therapy, and brotherhood have played in my healing, and what I've learned about accepting that not everyone is meant to remain in our lives forever.

Healing doesn't mean the scar disappears. Sometimes it means learning not to let that scar determine how we love, trust, and show up in the world.

If you've ever felt forgotten, overlooked, or afraid of being left behind, I invite you to sit with me.

You're not alone on this journey. Welcome home.

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MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES

You don't have to navigate your healing journey alone. If you're considering therapy or looking for professional support, these resources may help you take that first step.

Spring Health – Mental health care and therapy resources
https://www.springhealth.com/explore-care

Psychology Today – Find a licensed therapist near you
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Scarred Sons Podcast is a space for honest conversations, encouragement, and personal reflection. I am not a licensed therapist, and these conversations are not a substitute for professional mental health care.

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Keep becoming the man you needed.

Peace and love.

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How Faith, Therapy & Brotherhood Help Men Heal | Cedric Green

You can be “doing fine” on the outside and still feel empty, overwhelmed, and tired of carrying everything alone.

In the first installment of Conversations with Scarred Sons, I sit down with Cedric Green, a therapist, coach, husband, father, and brother, for an honest conversation about healing, faith, brotherhood, and the scars we carry as men.

We explore how life's experiences shape us, how unresolved wounds show up in our relationships and everyday decisions, and why so many men struggle to ask for help.

Cedric shares practical insight into what it looks like to begin therapy, how to find the right therapist, and why healing requires intentional work beyond the therapy room.

We also discuss people-pleasing, establishing healthy boundaries, grief, self-reflection, and learning to recognize the triggers that keep us in familiar cycles.

And through it all, we come back to faith. What does trusting God look like when life isn't going according to plan? How do we learn to release control and lean on His understanding rather than our own?

Proverbs 3:5 — "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding." (KJV)

This conversation is a reminder that healing isn't about pretending the scars don't exist. It's about acknowledging them, taking accountability, and doing the work to become the men we're called to be.

You don't have to have it all figured out, and you certainly don't have to walk this journey alone.

Welcome home.

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Host: Ty | Scarred Sons Podcast 
Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healing.ty/
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Special Guest: Cedric Green 
Therapist | Coach | Husband | Father 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_green.c/

MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCE

Thinking about starting therapy but unsure where to begin?

Cedric mentions Psychology Today, a resource that allows you to search for therapists based on location, specialties, insurance, and other preferences.

Find a therapist:  
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

https://www.springhealth.com/

Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for personal reflection, encouragement, and education. While our guest is a mental health professional, this conversation is not a substitute for individual therapy or professional mental health care.

CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION

Healing isn't a journey we're meant to walk alone.

What part of your story are you ready to face? What is one area of your life where you're learning to heal?

Take some time to reflect on these questions, and consider sharing this conversation with a brother who may need to hear it.

If this episode resonated with you, follow Scarred Sons Podcast on your favorite listening platform, and consider leaving a rating or review to help more men discover this space.

More conversations are coming. More stories will be shared. And there's room for every man willing to begin the work.

Your scars are part of your story, but they don't have to define your future.

Until next time, Lord willing.

Peace n' love. 🤎

Follow the show for new weekly episodes, discussing a journey of healing, growth, and becoming the man you were meant to be.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

Life has been feeling like a roller coaster I cannot pause, and the wild part is how quickly I volunteer to ride again. One minute I am relieved I made it through the last turn, and the next minute I am already chasing the next goal. Work, business, marriage, health, purpose, responsibilities, even sleep. When everything matters, the question is not how to get off the ride. It is how to decide what deserves me next.

I walk through the real tension of competing “good” things: building Scarred Sons with intention while also running a business that pays the bills, handling a demanding sales schedule, and trying to be fully present as a husband when the inbox keeps calling my name. We talk about decision fatigue, the mental strain that builds after choosing all day, and how that exhaustion can turn a normal evening into an internal courtroom. I also unpack how my scars shaped a deep pressure to keep my word, sometimes at the cost of rest and long term clarity.

Then we get honest about the armor. The professional armor, provider armor, husband armor, the “I got it” armor. I share why I protect a simple space where I can take it all off, refuel, and stop performing. I also bring faith into the decision making, reflecting on Isaiah 40:31 and what it can mean to wait on the Lord as a way of renewing strength, not just surviving another day.

If you have been carrying more than you need to, trying to stay ahead of opinions and expectations, this conversation will help you name what matters and choose with more peace. Subscribe, share this with another scarred son, and leave a rating and review so more men can find the show.

Follow the show for new weekly episodes, discussing a journey of healing, growth, and becoming the man you were meant to be.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

Being the dependable one can feel like a badge of honor until you realize it has quietly turned into constant access. I’m Ty, and I’m unpacking the moment I had to admit something hard: I can lead teams, solve problems, and show up for everyone else, but still struggle to lead myself when it comes to my time, my energy, and my boundaries. 

I share a real story from therapy that exposed a pattern I didn’t want to see, how I unintentionally trained people to expect my availability, and why my therapist’s reminder hit so deep: nothing is broken, I just need an update. We get into the difference between compassion and ownership, including the tension in Galatians 6 about bearing burdens while still carrying your own load. If you’ve been stuck in people pleasing, overcommitting, or living by everyone else’s urgency, this will help you reset your approach to self leadership and boundary setting. 

We also talk about fear disguised as “good leadership,” the cost of automatic sacrifice, and why your calendar tells the truth about your priorities. I’ll give you the exact questions I’m learning to ask before I say yes, plus a mirror moment to help you figure out who really has the wheel in your life. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a rating or review so more scar sons can find the show.

Follow the show for new weekly episodes, discussing a journey of healing, growth, and becoming the man you were meant to be.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

Most of the stress we live with isn’t caused by one big moment. It’s built slowly when we wait until life is directly in front of us before we move. A simple question from my wife while we’re driving opens a mirror for me: am I playing chess or checkers with my own life?

I break down the difference in a way that hits real life decision making, not just a board game. Checkers is reactive, one move at a time, answering whatever is right in front of you. Chess requires strategy, thinking ahead, and making intentional moves that protect what you’ll need later. That shift exposes how easy it is to let everyone else’s needs fill your schedule, your emotions, and your priorities until you’re wondering why you have nowhere left to go.

We also get honest about the deeper layer: many grown men learned to survive, read the room, and keep people happy, but were never taught to plan three moves ahead for themselves. I talk about the difference between seeking wisdom and seeking permission, how other people can respond from fear or comfort, and why growth can change your conversations and your circle. Then we break it down to practical steps: planning your day, showing up to therapy with direction, communicating in marriage before frustration turns into passive aggression, and accepting that real growth often costs comfort.

If you feel uncertain about the future, don’t assume you’re lost. You might just be growing. Listen now, then share the episode with a Scarred Son who needs it, and subscribe, rate, and review so more men can find this safe space.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

Hunting season isn’t about what you bring home, it’s about how you prepare, what you prioritize, and what you refuse to chase anymore. I’ve spent the last few weeks reflecting, praying, and getting honest about the next season of my life. What I found is simple and uncomfortable: if I don’t hunt with intention now, I’ll keep starving later, even if things “look” successful from the outside.

I’m naming four pursuits that actually sustain me: peace, mental stability, financial freedom, and partnership. We talk about how easy it is to put conditions on peace, debt-free, bigger business, fewer problems, and how that mindset quietly moves the finish line. I share a real practice that helps me reset before I walk through my front door, so I don’t dump the weight of the day onto my wife. Peace isn’t perfect circumstances; it’s learning how to breathe while you’re walking through difficulty.

We also get into men’s mental health and mental stability, especially the way one negative thought can spiral into ten. I explain what I’m learning through faith, therapy, and brotherhood, and why focus matters more than most of us realize. Financial freedom shows up here as options and the ability to build, not just “getting rich,” and partnership as participation, communication, and showing up emotionally, not only physically.

If you’re trying to grow, heal, and lead yourself better, press play, then share what you’re hunting right now. Subscribe, leave a rating and review, and send this to a friend who needs a reminder that scars are part of the story, not the end.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

Healing can feel like it’s on pause until the right person finally says the right thing. But what if that moment never comes and life keeps moving anyway? Ty opens up about the quiet pain of waiting, not just for a conversation or an apology, but for a version of someone that only exists in hope. The result is a hard, honest realization: disappointment often comes less from reality and more from the expectations we keep replaying in our minds. 

A simple sign cuts through the noise, a bright red cardinal passing his truck window on an ordinary day. It doesn’t fix the relationship or answer the big questions, but it changes what he notices. From there, Ty reflects on father wounds, gratitude, and the people who actually showed up: family members who provided stability, a wife who stands close, brothers who check in, mentors, therapy, and a renewed sense of purpose. If you’re navigating family trauma, abandonment, or the pressure to prove you were worth choosing, this conversation offers a grounded path forward that blends personal development, mental health tools, and faith. 

Ty also breaks down the difference between letting go and giving up, then challenges us with a “mirror moment” that gets uncomfortably specific: who are you still waiting on, and what part of your life has been standing still while you wait? Anchored by Isaiah 43:18-19, the message is about perceiving the new thing God is doing right now and choosing to unlock your own freedom instead of demanding it arrive through someone else. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a rating or review so more scarred sons can find their way home.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

Waiting for someone to finally show up for you can feel like loyalty, love, or hope, but it can also be the quiet reason your life stays stuck. I’m talking about what I’m learning in real time: how to let go of expectations, disappointment, and the version of people I needed them to be, while still protecting my marriage, growing my business, stabilizing my finances, and staying committed to therapy and healing.

I get honest about how this plays out at home, especially when “love” becomes performance. I share how I used gift giving to overcompensate, how that missed what my wife actually wanted, and how leadership is not just what I can do at work but who I choose to be in my personal life. We also dig into the hard truth that “nobody is coming” can be the most freeing sentence you ever accept, especially if childhood emotional abandonment trained you to keep waiting for safety, guidance, and validation.

Faith and reflection guide the next step. I read from Isaiah 43:18–19 and talk about what it means to stop dwelling on the past without pretending it did not matter. Then we hit a Mirror Moment with questions you can take into your week: what are you holding on to, what is it costing you, and what would it look like to let it go and still keep living?

We close with practical, daily habits that build peace and confidence over time, from deeper connection with your spouse to small health choices that support your mental health. If this conversation helps you, subscribe, leave a review, share it with someone who needs it, and follow us on Instagram at ScarredPeriodSons. What are you ready to stop waiting on today?

Follow the show for new weekly episodes, discussing a journey of healing, growth, and becoming the man you were meant to be.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

“Deal with it” might be the most common advice men get and the least explained. I’m Ty, and I’m putting honest words to what happens when you’ve been carrying trauma, mistakes, family pain, and silent pressure for years, then someone tells you to fix it with a sentence. If you’re a scarred son who stays moving because sitting still makes you spiral, you’re not crazy, you’re trying to survive. The question is how to heal without getting stuck and without running. 

We talk about the heavy reality behind the headlines, especially Black men harming themselves or others, and how feeling unseen can push people toward dark thoughts. I share why “reach out” doesn’t always land, why love has to be felt, and why consistency matters when someone’s vulnerability has been used against them. “Dealing with it” isn’t a single tactic. It’s learning to face what you’re carrying, give it the right space, and keep choosing forward motion that isn’t driven by pain. 

We also get into belief before proof, pulling from John 20:29, and how faith and self-belief can create the possibility of change when you don’t see results yet. Then we slow down for a mirror moment: are you avoiding it, drowning in it, or finding a way to face it and still move forward? I open up about strained relationships with my parents, the decision to detach, and the hard work of reopening communication with grace, while also learning to embrace support beyond blood. 

If you’ve ever felt alone in a crowded room, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more scarred sons can find a place to breathe and heal.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.

One casual conversation can expose the belief you’ve been living with for years. A customer tells me, with zero hesitation, “This is gonna be a good week,” and then gives the simplest secret I didn’t know I needed: believing it will be good. That hit me because when you’ve been through enough letdowns, belief stops feeling natural and starts feeling dangerous. You protect yourself, expect resistance, and eventually you stop expecting anything good at all.

We dig into why belief isn’t pretending everything is fine. It’s refusing to let your current situation become your final outcome. I talk about the moment belief is required most: when nothing around you confirms that things are getting better. If you’ve been tired, pressured, or tempted by shortcuts that promise quick relief, I speak to that edge too, because clouded judgment can make permanent choices feel reasonable. Your story is not over, even when today feels heavy.

Then we turn inward, because mindset and self-talk shape how we show up. I break down the cycle of doubt: thinking patterns create decisions, decisions create outcomes, and outcomes “prove” what you feared. We pause for a Mirror Moment to ask what you truly believe about your life right now and when that belief shifted. I also share a faith anchor from Philippians 1:6, reminding us the work started in you is still in progress, and connect that to confidence at work, relationships, and learning to lead with value rather than people-pleasing.

You’ll leave with practical steps to rebuild belief, protect your mental health, and get off autopilot: check your internal language, limit what feeds your doubt, get around people who believe, start small, and stay engaged with your schedule so life doesn’t run you. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone, and leave a review so more scarred sons can find their way back to belief.

Follow the show for new weekly episodes, discussing a journey of healing, growth, and becoming the man you were meant to be.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with another Scarred Son on his healing journey.

This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you need help, please seek support from a licensed mental health provider.