Evan opens episode 102 by discussing co-parenting logistics around summer camp during divorce, then introduces the episode’s focus on sleep and relationships with guest Dr. Wendy Troxel, a sleep scientist and clinical psychologist. On the docket, Evan argues most “blindside divorces” reflect long-standing issues, and he frames “pickleball divorce” as a relationship problem, not a sport problem. In overrated/underrated, Evan calls expert witnesses and early prenup discussions underrated, and labels the Stanley Cup and Costco parking lots overrated. Troxel explains sleep is a social behavior, addresses stigma around sleeping separately, outlines the bidirectional cycle between sleep loss and relationship conflict, and recommends communication strategies and a nightly phone-free ritual (high-low-compliment). She notes divorce can disrupt sleep architecture, prioritizing sleep regularity and support, and criticizes the term “sleep divorce,” citing data that 31% of couples sleep apart occasionally.

Topics

00:49 Summer Camp Co-Parenting

03:46 Sleep Episode Setup

04:55 Docket Blindside Divorce

07:17 Docket Pickleball Drama

10:43 Overrated Underrated Begins

10:59 Expert Witnesses Matter

12:51 Prenups Early Talk

14:19 Sports And Costco Rants

18:49 Sponsor Break

20:40 Interview Dr Wendy Troxel

23:12 Social Sleep And Stigma

25:24 Sleep and Relationship Health

26:22 Sleep Communication Loop

28:34 Therapy and Sleeping Apart

31:23 Stigma and Sleep History

34:33 Dating and Chronotypes

37:28 How to Talk About Sleep

39:03 Divorce and Sleep Recovery

42:11 Sleep Divorce Explained

44:58 Gender Differences in Sleep

47:49 Kids and Family Sleep Habits

49:54 Nightly Ritual for Connection

52:28 They Said It Quotes Game

58:18 Infant Sleep Side Topic

01:00:10 Final Wrap and Thanks

Guest Dr. Rachel Glik returns to examine family estrangement, social media’s influence, misconceptions parents have, trauma language, reconciliation steps, when reconciliation may be unsafe, grieving “living loss,” healing despite no contact, pain-to-growth reframing, and forgiveness, reacting to quotes from Anne Lamott, Mark Twain, and Leo Tolstoy.

Topics

03:51 Whats on the Docket

04:13 Gray Divorce Reframed

06:34 Co Parenting After Divorce

09:44 Kids See It Coming

11:39 Overrated Underrated

15:17 Mini Golf Red Flags

17:03 Sponsor Break

18:59 Dr Rachel Glick Returns

19:38 Estrangement Trend Explained

21:26 Social Media Therapy Speak

22:06 Parents Blind Spots

23:31 Trauma Labels And Tolerance

24:58 Reconciliation Done Right

26:38 When Reconnection Is Unsafe

28:05 Grieving A Living Loss

30:07 Healing Without Contact

31:49 Pain Into Growth Steps

35:26 Apologies And Forgiveness

37:57 Boundaries With Compassion

39:46 They Said It Quotes Game

48:12 Closing And Final Thoughts

Evan and Producer Dave celebrate episode 100 of the Schein On podcast, reflecting on the show’s focus on human stories behind divorce and relationships and previewing guest Allison O’Brien. On the docket, they discuss Carl Pavano’s public prenup fight and how divorce litigation can become humiliating and permanent, especially for children. Allison O’Brien, a communication and leadership development consultant, explains damaging myths about communication, including assumptions about listening and body language, and stresses preparing to listen, using inquiry, and asking strong open-ended questions. She connects listening to leadership trust and workplace wellbeing, shares her TED Talk experience about growing up in a high-conflict divorce and later navigating an amicable divorce and friendship with her ex for her children’s sake, argues divorce isn’t necessarily failure, and warns that blame and ego fuel conflict while collaboration can improve outcomes.

More on Allison: https://www.lq-listeningintelligence.com/

Topics

00:44 Episode 100 Milestone

01:17 Why This Podcast Exists

04:07 Meet Allison OBrien

04:57 Docket Pavano Prenup Drama

06:19 Divorce Gets Personal Public

09:34 Overrated Underrated Begins

10:03 Winning The Divorce Myth

13:22 Reconciliation After Separation

14:43 Food Trucks Take

16:35 Road Trips Relationship Test

23:01 Allison On Listening Myths

25:51 Intent Versus Impact

28:06 Preparing To Listen

32:34 Listening As Leadership

36:05 Workplace Connection Research

39:10 From Work To Divorce

39:22 Her TED Talk Vulnerability

40:00 Fear Before the Talk

41:15 Pride in Amicable Divorce

42:38 Why Divorce Choices Matter

44:36 Breaking the Conflict Cycle

52:41 Childhood Scars and Shame

56:21 Redefining Divorce Success

01:00:39 Blame and Emotional Inertia

01:03:30 Ego Free Co Parenting

01:06:56 Divorce as Leadership

01:09:49 Quotes on Listening Clarity

01:15:57 Knowing People Better

01:20:12 Wrap Up and Thanks

The guest is Robi Schlaff, former director of the Westchester County Office for Women and executive director of the Westchester Family Justice Center, who explains building coordinated domestic violence and child abuse initiatives, including a Domestic Violence High Risk Team and multidisciplinary investigations, and the challenges of implementing policy across agencies and police. She critiques family court delays and discontinuous hearings, addresses misconceptions about domestic violence risk and offender presentation, discusses burnout boundaries, shares a survivor’s courageous public testimony, and advises friends and neighbors not to urge leaving but to connect victims with experts or call police if in immediate danger.

Topics

02:32 The Docket Dear Annie

03:39 Supporting Friends After Divorce

08:40 What Not To Say

11:40 Overrated Staying For Kids

14:02 Prenup Infidelity Clauses

15:50 Reputation In Divorce

16:50 Mocktails And Divorce

18:17 Inventing A Show Mocktail

19:39 Margarita Banter

20:05 Museum Gift Shop Debate

24:27 Meet Robi Schlaff 

25:06 Making Change in Government

26:09 What Makes Policy Work

28:37 Family Court Fixes

32:49 Misconceptions in DV Cases

36:06 Public Risks and Outreach

38:39 Burnout and Boundaries

43:41 Leadership Secret Sauce

45:20 Survivor Courage Story

47:11 What Neighbors Should Do

48:27 Episode Wrap and Thanks

Evan interviews award-winning director Elizabeth Lo about her documentary Mistress Dispeller, following Teacher Wang’s work with a wife, husband, and mistress in China, and explores empathy, cultural “saving face,” legal/ethical challenges, filmmaking style, and the documentary marketplace.

Topics

00:46 Season Intro and Guest Tease

01:17 Producer Banter and Setup

02:40 On the Docket: Shaq Divorce

04:14 Kids and Divorce Reflections

07:46 Parenting After Separation

10:22 Overrated/Underrated Begins

10:50 Legal Takes Business and CPAs

13:56 Co Parenting Communication Rules

15:54 Fun Picks Cornhole and Photobooths

20:38 Introducing Elizabeth Lo

21:29 Mistress Dispeller Origin Story

22:31 Teacher Wang Philosophy on Pain

23:59 Cheating Husbands Beyond Villains

26:01 Wives Culture and Saving Face

27:36 Directing Without Taking Sides

30:00 Editing With Restraint

30:20 Could It Work In The West

31:56 Legal And Ethical Minefields

34:01 Reconsent And Participant Protection

35:27 Mistress Beyond Villainy

36:43 What Mistress Dispelling Reveals

38:14 Participant Reactions And Trust

40:23 Filmmaking Style And Craft

42:15 Motivation And Doc Market Shift

44:19 Monogamy Love And Reflection

47:20 Future Love Stories

49:04 They Said It Quotes Segment

56:28 Documentary As Poetry

01:01:00 Wrap Up And Farewell

Evan delves into the complex world of divorce and relationships, spotlighting how financial dynamics impact these processes. The episode features an insightful discussion with journalist and author Josie Cox, who talks about her article on the rise in divorce rates when women out-earn men and her new book, 'Women Money Power: The Rise and Fall of Economic Equality.' The conversation covers the psychological and financial aspects of divorce, societal expectations, and the gender pay gap. Additionally, the episode presents the popular segment 'Overrated Underrated' and explores recent headlines in the world of divorce and family law.

Topics

00:38 Season Six Kickoff and Reflections

03:54 Explosive Divorce Headlines

10:13 Overrated or Underrated: Divorce Edition

19:41 Interview with Journalist Josie Cox

28:38 Generational Shifts in Financial Dynamics

29:25 The Surprising Conservatism of Younger Generations

32:10 The Evolving Perception of Prenuptial Agreements

35:27 Financial Literacy and Gender Inclusion

39:42 The Gender Pay Gap: A Deep Dive

46:21 Addressing Gender Inequality in Professional Sports

52:00 Closing Thoughts and Future Directions

53:01 Fun Segment: They Said It

A rich conversation with Dr. Pepper Schwartz, an acclaimed sociologist, sexologist, and bestselling author. Dr. Schwartz discusses the importance of communication and intimacy in relationships, debunks myths about sex and aging, and provides practical advice for individuals at different stages of life. The episode concludes with a segment called 'They Said It,' where Dr. Schwartz offers her perspectives on notable quotes related to love, sex, and relationships.

Topics

02:40 Reflecting on 2025 and Looking Ahead to 2026

04:47 The Power of Pause and Measuring Success

07:18 Reflecting on Past Episodes and Guests

11:21 Discussing Relationships and Marriage

16:06 Dating Post-Divorce and Intimacy

26:12 Financial Planning and Divorce

34:11 End of Year Reflections and Future Plans

38:49 The Physical Benefits of Climax

39:22 Sexuality After Age 50

42:00 Gray Divorce and Sexuality

43:53 Misinterpretations in Human Sexuality

47:56 AI Companions and Relationships

50:25 Reality TV and Marriage

54:12 Politics and Love

57:13 Advice for Different Ages

59:03 Communication in Relationships

01:02:09 Rituals to Keep Chemistry Alive

01:07:56 Famous Quotes on Love and Sex

Evan is joined by communication experts Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski, co-authors of 'Outwitting the Manipulator.' The episode delves into recognizing and responding to manipulation in real-time, particularly within the context of high-conflict divorces and everyday relationships. Topics include common manipulation tactics such as gaslighting and love bombing, managing post-divorce parenting, and the significance of premarital counseling. The podcast also features a discussion on handling manipulation from leadership in the workplace and offers practical advice for those dealing with manipulators. The episode concludes with the fun segment 'They Said It,' where Evan and guests analyze famous quotes related to manipulation.

More on Robin & Dennis at https://www.outwitinrealtime.com/

Find Outwitting the Manipulator: The Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/outwitting-the-manipulator/id1644706232

Topics

02:39 Holiday Struggles During Divorce

05:48 Co-Parenting During the Holidays

11:18 Life After Divorce: Remarriage and Moving On

13:06 Overrated or Underrated: Fun and Legal Topics

24:06 Interview with Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski 

36:51 Understanding Manipulative Personalities

37:34 Can Manipulators Change?

38:15 Manipulation Tactics in the Workplace

39:29 Mastering Skills to Handle Manipulation

43:11 Manipulation in High Conflict Divorces

44:17 Communicating with a Manipulative Ex

47:06 Spotting Manipulation in Legal Cases

59:09 Quotes on Manipulation

01:04:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Evan dives into the complexities of divorce and addiction with featured guest Erin Khar, author of 'Strung Out'. The episode covers Erin's personal journey through a 15-year heroin addiction, her approach to recovery, and her advice on navigating relationships plagued by substance abuse. The conversation also touches on broader societal issues, such as the stigma around addiction and the flawed family court system. Listeners will find practical advice on handling the holiday season amidst divorce, the nuances of parental alienation claims, and thoughts on cultural phenomena like Taylor Swift. The episode concludes with an engaging segment featuring quotes from notable figures and a lively discussion on the underrated cranberry sauce.

Topics

00:15 Divorce and the Holiday Season

05:26 AI Relationships and Legal Challenges

12:04 Overrated or Underrated: Pop Culture Edition

23:14 Interview with Erin Khar: Addiction and Recovery

36:15 Addressing Skeptical Senators on Harm Reduction

36:47 The Economic Argument for Medicated Assisted Treatment

39:05 Personal Reflections on Writing a Memoir

40:40 The Dichotomy of Heroin Use

43:39 The Unwinnable War on Drugs

45:41 Advocating for Harm Reduction and Community Support

50:51 Balancing Advice and Personal Experience

52:51 Lessons from Beverly Hills 90210

54:40 Changing the Language Around Addiction

56:31 Parenting and Personal Accountability

01:14:05 The Importance of Sharing Your Story

01:19:36 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In Episode 93 of The Schein On Podcast, Evan talks to Dr. Tracey Dalgleish, a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss her latest book, 'You, Your Husband and His Mother.' The conversation delves into the intricacies of the relationship triangle between husbands, their wives, and mother-in-laws. Tracey provides actionable advice for couples aiming to strengthen their marriage while managing familial boundaries. The episode also touches on significant issues such as the current state of divorce law, the value of farmers' markets, and the communal joy of fantasy sports leagues. Additionally, listeners get treated to the engaging 'Overrated/Underrated' and 'They Said It' segments, making for a well-rounded and insightful episode.

Topics

00:33 Exploring Divorce Dynamics with Dr. Tracey Dalgleish

02:47 The Impact of Equal Custody Laws

08:42 Overrated or Underrated

25:08 Navigating Boundaries with Family

26:26 Practical Tools for Tough Moments

28:25 Personal Struggles and Professional Insights

30:12 The Power of Vulnerability in Therapy

34:01 Shifting Perspectives on Marriage and Divorce

35:27 Balancing Professional and Personal Life

38:53 Advice for Couples in Therapy

42:58 Co-Parenting After Divorce

44:42 Reflecting on the New Book

46:48 Fun Segment: They Said It

52:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts