Screen Time Stories: Parenting Techniques for Raising Tech Natives

Our guest today offers insight into the power of parenting within a supportive village. 

 

Casie Fariello is the CEO of Other Parents Like Me, a peer-led online support community for parents or caregivers with kids struggling with mental health and substances. Other Parents Like Me offers curated and identity-based peer led support groups every day, and every week they offer talks from leading experts and authors to help parents navigate the specific challenges that they face. 

 

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Our guest today, Jenifer Joy Madden  of Durable Human, joined us last season to give a broad overview of babies and screentime. On this episode, she shares her thoughts on a new study just published in JAMA Medicine.

 

The study looks at developmental delays in infants and toddlers in relation to how much time they spend with screens. We examine two subgroups, moms with postpartum depression and those who are socioeconomically impacted, who are mentioned in the study as allowing their babies to consume more screen time. 

 

Jenifer Joy Madden is a health journalist, digital media educator, community advocate, and parent. She wrote two books: The Durable Human Manifesto: Practical Wisdom for Living and Parenting in the Digital World and How To Be a Durable Human: Revive and Thrive in the Digital Age Through the Power of Self-Design. And she gave an incredible TEdx Talk.

 

Check out Jenifer's parenting course, "Supercharge the Brain and Language Development of Your Baby or Toddler" and use 25OFF to save 25% on registration.

https://durableu.teachable.com/p/supercharge-baby-toddler-brain-and-language

 

 

You can find more info on Screen-Induced Syndrome, also known as "Virtual Autism" here: https://durablehuman.com/ToddlerScreenSyndrome

 

Last, find out more about the 988 crisis hotline here: https://durablehuman.com/988

Andrea Davis, founder and CEO of Better Screen Time shares her thoughts and research on 

getting your child their first phone. She encourages everyone to work witht heir child to identify their level of readiness by using her self-evaluation form. 

Also in this episode, Andrea shares how to Untangle Teens and Tech, giving snippets from her course.

Kim Hopkins, the Director of Outreach at Lives in the Balance, shares the formula behind the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model and the reason she started (and continued) using it in multiple residential facilities over a decade ago. 

 

CPS is the evidence-based, trauma-informed, neurodiversity affirming model of care that helps caregivers focus on identifying the problems that are causing concerning behaviors in kids and solving those problems collaboratively and proactively. The model is a departure from approaches emphasizing the use of consequences to modify concerning behaviors. In families, general and special education schools, inpatient psychiatry units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities, the CPS model has a track record of dramatically improving behavior and dramatically reducing or eliminating discipline referrals, detentions, suspensions, restraints, and seclusions.

Jose Santana spent eight months making a concerted effort to quit video gaming. and almost a year later, says he'll never play a video game again. 

 

In this week's episode, 16-year-old Jose joins Julie to share his personal experiences growing up in this digital world, and expresses his love/hate relationship with modern technology and social platforms.

 

Kids and teens are especially encouraged to listen to Jose's story to hear about his past experience with gaming addiction, his current life as a small-business owner and intern, and his goals for the future.

 

Cool fact, Jose is a student advisor to the Digital Wellness Lab. 

 

And as mentioned in the episode, here's a link to Jose's pastor-dad's YouTube channel for all of you Spanish-speakers. And here's Jose's channel.

Julie is joined by Jenifer Joy Madden, a digital wellness expert, health journalist, digital media educator, community advocate, and parent, to talk about how screens during the first three years of a child's life can impact their future. 

 

Jenifer founded the Durable Human in 2009 as a platform to inspire adults and children to cherish, strengthen, and protect their unique human assets, capabilities, and perspectives in a complex and increasingly digital world.

 

Her words and videos have informed millions on news outlets ranging from The Washington Post to the Children and Nature Network to her website, The Durable Human. A veteran of ABC News, Jenifer is an independent multi-media reporter and a lead adjunct professor for TV news graduate students of Syracuse University’s S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications.

 

Jenifer distilled her life’s work and experience into two books (so far): The Durable Human Manifesto: Practical Wisdom for Living and Parenting in the Digital World and How To Be a Durable Human: Revive and Thrive in the Digital Age Through the Power of Self-Design.

Download a free e-copy of the Manifesto here.

In this episode, Julie asks Catherine Knibbs, a Child Trauma Psychotherapist, how the Attachment Theory influences kids and their interaction with technology.

 

Cath is a Clinical Doctoral Researcher, Consultant, Public Speaker, Author, Child Trauma Psychotherapist and member of the VUWG. She writes about and works with cybertrauma, which is any trauma that occurs through an internet ready device.

 

Watch Cath's TedX Doncaster Talk 

 

Pre-oder Cath's latest books:

Children and Sexual-Based Online Harms: A Guide for Professionals

Online Harms and Cybertrauma: Legal and Harmful Issues with Children and Young People

Our kids live in a digital world. We can't treat their interaction with tech as a separate piece of their lives. In this episode, Shelley Delayne helps us understand how to avoid being hyper-focused on the tech piece of parenting and instead, incorporate it holistically.

Clayton Cranford, the owner of Cyber Safety Cop and a 20-year law enforcement veteran, gives us insight on kids and tech from his professional perspective 

 

Clay is one of the nation’s leading law enforcement educators on social media, child safety, and behavioral threat assessments and the author of “Parenting in the Digital World.” 

 

Cyber Safety Cop Screen Time Worksheet

Today, with Dr. Bradley Zicherman of Stanford Medicine Children’s Health, we’re going to go over the impact that screens have on our kids’ mental health, and the rise of suicides in youth.

 

The goal is to bring awareness to a subject that’s hard to talk about and to help spot patterns in our own kids.

 

In 2020, the CDC named suicide as the second leading cause of death in 15- to 19-year-olds. A 2018 study on teenagers found links between depression, suicidal thoughts, and the increase in screen time, which all started to rise around 2010—making the researchers believe that smartphones create a negative impact.

 

If you ever feel that your child needs immediate help, dial 988 to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. 

 

Let's make sure we’re setting a good example to our kids by letting them know that you see a therapist. Put down devices and look for activities to do as a family. Create a space that makes you and your family feel safe. Be empathetic. And the easiest one, that’s often hardest to put into action? Let's have fun together.