Hebrews 12:7-11Discipline is necessary and unpleasant – Proverbs 19:18; Hebrews 12:11Discipline has a purpose and goalPurges evil and purifies the heart – Proverbs 20:30Drives out folly and foolishness – Proverbs 22:15Corrects condemning behavior – Proverbs 23:13-14Exodus 21:20 – Compare the word “rod” here. The rod of discipline is painful!Imparts wisdom and prevents shame – Proverbs 29:15-17; 17:25Discipline early while there is hope! Proverbs 19:18The goal is holiness and righteousness – Hebrews 12:7-11Discipline MUST be motivated by love – Proverbs 3:11-12Discipline and love linked – Proverbs 13:24Unloving punishment is destruction – Ephesians 6:4The Bible and disciplineLeaves permanent damage, scars
Painful, no permanent damage
Motivated by hatred, emotional damage
Motivated by love, emotional security
Administering disciplineStart early – Proverbs 19:18Stay balanced – Proverbs 29:15Use the rod and reproof – Proverbs 3:11-12Verbal (not shouting, Galatians 5:20)Sometimes it is sufficient – Proverbs 17:10Corporal (the rod)Never to vent anger (Ephesians 4:26)Distinguish immaturity vs defianceBe consistent, avoid extremesAdminister privatelyDon’t delay – Ecclesiastes 8:11Decide with your spousePray for wisdom – Proverbs 2:6Discipline by the Word of God – Ephesians 6:4Seek godly counsel – Proverbs 15:22The naysayersApply God’s pattern, expect ridicule – II Timothy 3:12“Spanking is abuse, ya know”“Your kids are just learning to hit others” – Colossians 3:20Discipline’s rewardDiscipline will be well worth the effort – Proverbs 10:1; 29:17Eli’s regret – II Samuel 2:17, 24; 3:13Lasting righteousness, holiness – Proverbs 22:6