Knowing God is impossible without love and without loving God. Strict obedience, if unthinking and unfeeling, is a form of hypocrisy towards God. That obedience is a form of deception and lying; you are obeying because you are calculating the costs and benefits for entirely selfish, idiosyncratic and narcissistic purposes. While that obedience is better than disobedience, it is not a lofty objective on the moral plane. If you do not learn to be truthful towards your Lord, you do not learn to be a truthful human being. A person who obeys solely out of fear is someone who lacks truthfulness and honesty, and who will not come to know the Lord.
To have a loving relationship with God, you must first commit yourself to transparency and honesty about your relationship with God; you must commit to something other than simple, blind, unthinking, unfeeling obedience. As an Ummah, that is supposed to be our aspiration. If we are diligently working towards that aspiration, we learn to be truthful human beings and the bonds between the Ummah itself grow to become sincere and truthful bonds. The Ummah becomes accustomed to being truthful about itself and with itself.
One cannot engage in self-determination without being honest with oneself about themselves, others, and God. One of the most often-quoted and misrepresented Quranic verses that disempowers Muslims and robs them of their sense of self-determination is taken from Surah An-Nisa (58-59) and states in part, “All believers, obey Allah, obey the Prophet, and obey your rulers…”. The implication is that obedience to rulers is the equivalent or equal to obeying God and the Prophet, and basically conveys that the way you practice your faith should be subservient to those in power; that those in charge should decide all material matters that affect your life, and that your job is to simply do rituals without turning the rituals into a means of empowerment; that self-determinative autonomy is left to those in power, not you.
This is a complete and total corruption of God’s revelation. Every imam that cites this Quranic passage to justify injustice, suffering, inhumanity, narcissism, self-interest or the destruction and deconstruction of the Muslim Ummah is corrupting God’s word.
First, God gives us a penultimate statement: your guide and objective is justice. Second, in principle, you should aspire to obey God, the Prophet, and whoever is in charge. However, if there are disagreements – not disagreements with God or with the Prophet, but disagreements among the people, which includes the rulers, then there must be a method, procedure, or instrumentality to resolve such disputes so that taghut (injustice, despotism, oppression, corruption, lies and deception) will not prevail.
Rulers are considered to be among the people and must represent the will of the people. God made it clear in Surah An-Nisa that those who rule over you must in fact represent you, but beyond that, your compass in life must be justice.
Ours is the religion that 1400 years ago, the Prophet said, “If you are in a place, in a town, in a city that becomes afflicted by the plague, neither enter nor leave.” In other words, quarantine. This if not remarkable for our day and age, but it is remarkable that the Prophet was teaching the procedure for quarantine 1400 years ago. When the Prophet was asked, “But if we stay in the city, we might die,” his response was, “Yes, you might die. But then you are sacrificing yourself for the good of others and you die a martyr.” This religion taught the ethics of humanity before philosophical ethics matured to what it claims to be today.