Joy is not the absence of pain, but the ability to still give gratitude in the midst of it. In life we live in pain and joy, dark and light. Life is truly a journey, not a destination. The destination isn't pure joy and then nothing else hurtful happens in our life. It's being able to surrender and heal from what is bringing us pain, while still embracing that glimmer of hope and joy around us. This is why gratitude is so huge. When we can still give gratitude and embrace the joy which belongs to us, we can move throughout life in duality.