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Anger Is NOT the Problem, It’s the Message
You may want to grab a journal for this one.
Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions for women—especially in midlife. It’s often dismissed, minimized, or labeled. But what if anger isn’t a flaw to fix… what if it’s a signal worth listening to?
In this episode, I explore anger as wisdom and energy, not something to suppress or be ashamed of. I share my own experience—how subtle anger showed up during my marriage, how depression quietly turned into bitterness, and how unfulfilled expectations hardened into something I didn’t recognize in myself. I’ve always seen myself as a happy person, so the depth of heartbreak and anger surprised me—and eventually forced me to look inward instead of blaming outward.
What changed everything was realizing there are different types of anger. Once I could see where mine lived and how it expressed itself, I could finally begin working with it instead of against it. My hope is that these reflections help you recognize your own patterns—or help you understand someone you love.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why women’s anger is valid—and why stereotypes only make it harder to express
- The four common ways anger shows up: the Stewer, the Volcano, the Leaker, and the Constructive Expresser
- Seven root causes of anger in midlife, from hormonal shifts and grief to injustice and loss of identity
- How anger evolves with age—and why “better control” doesn’t always mean healthier outcomes
- Five practical steps to work with anger through awareness, safe expression, boundaries, and connection
Key takeaway:
Anger is not weakness. It’s information. And at this stage of life, it can become the map back to your voice and your power, if you’re willing to listen.
Reflection question:
When anger shows up this week, will you push it down… or get curious about what it’s trying to tell you?
For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.com
Research referenced:
Women’s Midlife Health Journal
https://womensmidlifehealthjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40695-016-0019-x
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Anger Is NOT the Problem, It’s the Message
You may want to grab a journal for this one.
Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions for women—especially in midlife. It’s often dismissed, minimized, or labeled. But what if anger isn’t a flaw to fix… what if it’s a signal worth listening to?
In this episode, I explore anger as wisdom and energy, not something to suppress or be ashamed of. I share my own experience—how subtle anger showed up during my marriage, how depression quietly turned into bitterness, and how unfulfilled expectations hardened into something I didn’t recognize in myself. I’ve always seen myself as a happy person, so the depth of heartbreak and anger surprised me—and eventually forced me to look inward instead of blaming outward.
What changed everything was realizing there are different types of anger. Once I could see where mine lived and how it expressed itself, I could finally begin working with it instead of against it. My hope is that these reflections help you recognize your own patterns—or help you understand someone you love.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why women’s anger is valid—and why stereotypes only make it harder to express
- The four common ways anger shows up: the Stewer, the Volcano, the Leaker, and the Constructive Expresser
- Seven root causes of anger in midlife, from hormonal shifts and grief to injustice and loss of identity
- How anger evolves with age—and why “better control” doesn’t always mean healthier outcomes
- Five practical steps to work with anger through awareness, safe expression, boundaries, and connection
Key takeaway:
Anger is not weakness. It’s information. And at this stage of life, it can become the map back to your voice and your power, if you’re willing to listen.
Reflection question:
When anger shows up this week, will you push it down… or get curious about what it’s trying to tell you?
For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.com
Research referenced:
Women’s Midlife Health Journal
https://womensmidlifehealthjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40695-016-0019-x