In this episode we are joined by Radiya – a social media influencer. Radiya’s TikTok handle is @p.s.wegotthis

Radiya shares her personal journey through divorce, discussing the emotional impact it had on her mental health and the lessons learned. Radiya describes divorce as a shattering experience and for six months, she struggled to cope, questioning the path she had followed and the societal expectations that had shaped her decisions. This introspection opened her eyes to the importance of self-awareness and understanding one’s motivations, leading her to encourage others to reflect on their own lives.

The conversation explores the challenges faced by British Muslims in the marriage market, including cultural pressures, the stigma surrounding divorce, and the role of marriage apps. Radiya emphasises the importance of emotional maturity, understanding one's own needs, and the significance of green flags in relationships. The discussion also touches on the influence of family in marriage decisions and the need to redefine success beyond marital status.

00:00 Introduction

02:05 Radiya's Divorce Story

04:21 Impact of Divorce

05:53 Mistakes in the marriage

06:42 Bouncing back from divorce

07:25 Why are British Muslims finding it hard to get married

09:41 Older generation v new generation

11:50 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

13:38 Paradox of Choice

15:35 Green Flags v Red Flags

17:55 Has marriage become an option rather than a priority?

21:54 Apps: Improved or damaged the marriage search?

25:03 Family involvement: Advice or Control?

28:05 Fear based marriages

31:22 "I was good enough to talk to but not good enough to marry"

33:17 The Stigma of divorce

36:06 Society Perception: Divorced Men v Divorced Women

37:56 When to reveal to a potential you are divorced

40:12 Solutions to the marriage search

46:22 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:45 Rapid Fire Round

48:54 Farewell