Divorced Muslims: A Second Chance

In this episode, we are joined by Brother Sigma who discusses the impact of marriage apps on the British Muslim community. He explores whether these apps have improved or damaged the marriage search, the cultural stigmas surrounding divorce, and the influence of social media on perceptions of relationships. The conversation also delves into the motivations for marriage, the role of fear in decision-making, and the importance of making oneself available for marriage.

00:00 Introduction

01:29 Apps: Improved or Damaged the Marriage Search

09:59 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?

12:53 Marriage: Optional or a Priority?

14:24 Fear-Based Marriages and Their Implications

17:52 Online Toxicity and the Marriage Search

21:47 Delaying Disclosure of the fact that one is divorced

25:12 Financial Responsibilities in Marriage

29:38 Red Flags vs. Green Flags

33:16 Solutions to Finding a Spouse

36:27 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

42:20 Rapid Fire Round

44:32 Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Layla who is Single, Never Married. Layla is a paediatric doctor, who shares her journey from nursing to medicine, influenced by her brother's serious injury and the care he received. She discusses the challenges of balancing her demanding career with societal expectations regarding marriage, emphasising the importance of finding a partner who supports her professional aspirations. Layla also reflects on her marriage search experiences. At the end, Laya completes a talking marriage profile, given that she is searching for a spouse.

00:00 Introduction

01:21 Why did Layla become a doctor?

02:25 Journey to becoming a doctor

03:41 Being a doctor and not being married: Is there a connection?

05:00 Has being a doctor stopped you from getting married?

07:14 Experiences in the Marriage Search

18:52 How important is financial stability in a man?

23:43 Mahr Requirement

25:57 Would Layla consider a Divorcee?

26:07 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

28:28 Apps

34:17 Delaying Disclosure of the fact that one is divorced

35:24 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

36:05 Green Flags v Red Flags

37:21 Solutions to the difficulty of finding a spouse?

39:26 Game: Red Light / Green Light

40:19 Rapid Fire Round

42:54 Marriage Profile

45:44 Farewell

In this compelling episode, we are joined by Zara, a social media influencer. Zara has an Instagram and TikTok page with the handle: @zarascookierjar. Both these social media pages aim to raise awareness in relation to Domestic Abuse.

In this episode Zara shares her personal experience with a manipulative marriage, the journey through abuse from a narcissist, and her path to recovery. Her story highlights the importance of faith, community, and self-awareness in overcoming life's challenges. Zara also provides her views on general subjects relating to the marriage search.

00:00 Introduction

01:26 Zara's Divorce Story

16:11 How did Zara Bounce back from Divorce?

19:19 Zara's Marriage Search as a Divorcee

26:43 Impact of Divorce on Zara's Marriage Search

27:51 Why are British Muslims finding the marriage search difficult?

30:51 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

33:06 Marriage Apps

34:25 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?

37:30 Is the Marriage Crisis Self-Inflcited?

40:08 Family Involvement: Advice v Control

41:33 Delaying telling a potential that one is Divorced

43:27 Fear Based Marriages

45:35 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

46:59 Green Flags v Red Flags

47:36 Solutions to the difficulty of finding a Spouse

49:06 Game: Red Light / Green Light

50:36 Rapid Fire Round

52:57 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Brother Mizan, a Marriage Coach. Mizan has his own TikTok page – @advice.with.mizan and Instagram page – @advicewithmizan. You can also contact Mizan directly via email: [email protected]

Mizan discusses the complexities of marriage counselling, the causes of divorce, and the challenges faced by individuals in the marriage search. He emphasises the importance of communication, compatibility, and the need for healing from past traumas. Mizan also addresses the role of faith in counselling, the impact of societal views on divorce, and offers practical advice for those preparing for marriage. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding oneself and setting realistic expectations in the search for a spouse.

00:00 Introduction

01:58 Marriage Counselling

04:12 When do people need marriage coaching?

05:02 What are the main causes of divorce today?

06:49 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

09:23 Key Elements of a Healthy Marriage

11:18 Conflict Resolution in a marriage

13:10 Incorporating faith into Counselling without judgment

17:10 Red Flags in a Marriage

18:23 Overcoming Trauma from a Divorce/previous marriage

21:31 Unhealed Trauma from unlawful relationships

23:22 Can Abusers Change?

28:04 How to prepare for marriage

29:13 Standards vs. Unrealistic Expectations

32:07 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search

33:41 Family Involvement: Advice or Control?

35:43 Delaying telling a potential that they are divorced

37:46 Fear-Based Marriages

39:44 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

40:41 Is Marriage seen as Growth or Social Validation?

42:16 Green Flags vs. Red Flags

42:26 Are British Muslims Emotionally unavailable but Spiritually articulate?

44:30 Solutions to Finding a Spouse

45:35 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:15 Rapid Fire Round

48:48 How to contact Mizan

49:18 Farewell

In this episode, we are joined by Brother Farook. Farook runs his own social media pages: Instagram, TikTok and YouTube - @disqualified_dads. These pages raise awareness of the plight of non-resident parents.

Brother Farook shares his personal journey through divorce, the challenges of being a non-resident parent, and the struggles within the family court system. He discusses the emotional impact of divorce, the importance of self-improvement, and the realities of navigating the modern Muslim marriage market. Farook emphasises the need for open communication and understanding in relationships, while also addressing societal expectations and the stigma surrounding divorce. Farook also discusses the subject of polygamy. He concludes with insights on personal growth and the qualities he seeks in a future partner.

Farook also completes a marriage profile at the end. So if you fit his criteria and he fits yours, then do get in touch!

00:00 Introduction

01:47 Farook's Divorce Story

06:47 Impact of Divorce

09:59 Relationship with children

15:07 Bouncing Back from Divorce

19:24 Farook's Social Media Pages, Coaching and Martial Arts

24:56 Marriage Search Post Divorce

26:02 Farook's challenges in his marriage search

33:01 Is a man's worth defined by his wealth?

36:18 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

38:14 Polygamy

40:16 Delaying disclosure of the fact that one is divorced

44:56 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

46:12 Green Flags v Red Flags

46:51 Solutions to the difficulty of the marriage search

48:44 Game: Red Light / Green Light

50:01 Rapid Fire Round

52:02 Marriage Profile

53:23 Farewell

In this episode, we are joined by Alina – a 26-year-old sister who is Single Never Married.

Alina shares her experiences and challenges in her search for marriage as a British Muslim. She discusses the difficulties of finding a suitable partner, the connection between mental health and the marriage search, and the role of family in the marriage search. Alina also addresses the stigma surrounding divorce, the unrealistic expectations set by social media, and the influence of apps on the marriage search landscape. Throughout the discussion, she emphasises the importance of self-awareness, communication, and positivity in the journey towards finding a life partner.

Alina also attended our Marriage Event in July 2025. She discusses her experience of this event. Alina was one of the most popular sisters at this event!

Alina also completes a marriage profile at the end of this episode – so if you fit her criteria and she fits yours then follow the instructions and who knows you may just end up getting married!

00:00 Introduction to Sister Alina

02:22 Alina's Marriage Search Experiences

07:08 Alina's Marriage Event Experience

10:08 Why are British Muslims finding it hard to get married

11:47 The Connection Between Mental Health and the Marriage Search

13:29 How important is Fincancial Stability in a man?

14:21 Alina's Mahr Requirement

15:23 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

17:04 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search

18:56 Marriage: An Option or a Priority?

19:33 Polygamy

22:03 The Marriage Search Crisis: Self inflicted?

25:23 Family Involvement in the Marriage Search

27:15 Delaying telling potentials that you are divorced

28:45 Is fear a valid reason to marry?

30:00 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

30:53 Green Flags v Red Flags

31:31 Potential Solutions to the Marriage Search

32:38 Game: Red Light / Green Light

33:53 Rapid Fire Round

35:24 Alina's Marriage Profile

In this episode, we are joined by Sister Tareena. Tareena runs a social media page on Tiktok with the handle: @thatgirl.tamtam. Tareena’s page is about healing people giving them hope. Tareena offers one to one advice for sisters who want to discuss their problems. If any sister wants to contact her you can email her: [email protected]

Tareena shares her personal journey through divorce, the challenges she faced, and her insights on the marriage search as a divorcee. She discusses the emotional impact of her divorce, the importance of self-discovery, and the societal expectations surrounding marriage. Tareena emphasises the need for realistic expectations in relationships, the role of parental involvement, and the stigma attached to being divorced. She also offers advice on overcoming heartbreak and the significance of trusting in Allah's plan.

00:00 Introduction

01:25 Tareena's divorce story

04:28 The Impact of Divorce

06:38 Mistakes and Regrets in Marriage

10:01 Bouncing Back from Divorce

11:16 Marriage Search as a Divorcee

17:24 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

19:14 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

20:09 The Role of Marriage Apps

21:55 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?

23:31 Self-Inflicted Marriage Search Crisis

24:34 Family Involvement: Advice v Control

27:30 Emotional Intimacy without Commitment

29:22 How does one get over heart break?

33:20 Delaying telling a potential that you are divorced

38:25 Fear based Marriages

40:20 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

42:30 Green Flags v Red Flags

42:41 Solutions

43:52 Once an Abuser always an Abuser?

44:52 What Tareena does and how to contact her

45:52 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:25 Rapid Fire Round

48:40 Marriage Profile

49:47 Final Thoughts

In this episode, Sister Asiya shares her personal journey through marriage and divorce, discussing the challenges she faced, the decision to leave her marriage, and the impact of her experiences on her personal growth. She reflects on the expectations and standards in relationships, the stigma surrounding divorce, and the complexities of seeking a new partner as a single mother. The conversation also touches on the role of family in marriage decisions, the influence of marriage apps, and the broader marriage crisis within the Muslim community.

00:00 Introduction

01:10 Asiya's Divorce Story

06:19 Taking the Khula route

07:52 Experience of the Khula Process

09:45 Impact of Divorce

11:14 Mistakes made in the marriage

13:04 Bouncing back from divorce

15:38 Being a Single Mother and looking for marriage

18:37 General Questions

25:41 Family Involvement in Marriage Decisions

29:27 Stigma of Divorce in the Muslim Community

31:51 The Role of Fear in Marriage Decisions

33:01 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

34:31 Red flags v Green Flags

35:03 Solutions

35:55 Game: Red Light / Green Light

35:59 Fun and Games: Red Light, Green Light

37:21 Rapid Fire Round

39:01 Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Radiya – a social media influencer. Radiya’s TikTok handle is @p.s.wegotthis

Radiya shares her personal journey through divorce, discussing the emotional impact it had on her mental health and the lessons learned. Radiya describes divorce as a shattering experience and for six months, she struggled to cope, questioning the path she had followed and the societal expectations that had shaped her decisions. This introspection opened her eyes to the importance of self-awareness and understanding one’s motivations, leading her to encourage others to reflect on their own lives.

The conversation explores the challenges faced by British Muslims in the marriage market, including cultural pressures, the stigma surrounding divorce, and the role of marriage apps. Radiya emphasises the importance of emotional maturity, understanding one's own needs, and the significance of green flags in relationships. The discussion also touches on the influence of family in marriage decisions and the need to redefine success beyond marital status.

00:00 Introduction

02:05 Radiya's Divorce Story

04:21 Impact of Divorce

05:53 Mistakes in the marriage

06:42 Bouncing back from divorce

07:25 Why are British Muslims finding it hard to get married

09:41 Older generation v new generation

11:50 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

13:38 Paradox of Choice

15:35 Green Flags v Red Flags

17:55 Has marriage become an option rather than a priority?

21:54 Apps: Improved or damaged the marriage search?

25:03 Family involvement: Advice or Control?

28:05 Fear based marriages

31:22 "I was good enough to talk to but not good enough to marry"

33:17 The Stigma of divorce

36:06 Society Perception: Divorced Men v Divorced Women

37:56 When to reveal to a potential you are divorced

40:12 Solutions to the marriage search

46:22 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:45 Rapid Fire Round

48:54 Farewell

In this episode, Imran shares his personal journey through divorce, discussing the prevalent issues within the Muslim community regarding marriage and divorce. He reflects on the causes of his divorce, the challenges of co-parenting, and the impact of divorce on personal identity. Imran emphasises the importance of community support, compassion, and empathy in navigating relationships post-divorce. He also addresses the stigma surrounding divorced individuals and the marriage crisis faced by British Muslims, advocating for the creation of safe spaces for singles to meet and connect.

Also Imran launched his own podcast to share experiences and support others going through divorce. Imran’s podcast is called ‘The Divorced Muslim Dad Podcast’.

00:00 Introduction

02:00 Imran's Divorce Story

15:12 Impact of Divorce

21:26 Bouncing Back from Divorce

28:56 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

41:04 Delaying telling a potential that you are divorced

43:33 Society Perception: Divorced Men v Divorced Women

46:37 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:22 Rapid Fire Round

49:53 Marriage Profile

52:01 Final Thoughts