Our sex lives go through seasons just like nature, phases of our kids, parenthood, etc. Things can change for one spouse but not the other.

There is no quicker way to tension than one partner expecting something totally different that the other is ready to give or receive.

When changes occur, we get a chance to redefine our needs/wants. The quicker we do this, the greater chance for mutual understanding of our sex season. This can bring some peace to the potential chaos that comes with transition.

There are seasons where I need a day of mental pep talks and physical preparedness to be ready to give to the intimacy of my marriage. And there are other times that I am up for some fun at the mere mention.

Things change, and it’s okay. Hormones change everything. Stress adds to the need to decompress. Kids change our ability to focus. And in a global pandemic life changes daily!

Here’s to defining what season your sex life is in, and finding a safe space to communicate about it.