A reflection of ‘dos and dont’s for talking about childhood sexual abuse’, this time focusing on Deafness, Male Survivors and Female Abusers with Sabian. Original episode aired on YouTube. We hope you enjoy this segment while we are busy preparing for season 2 of the podcast! 

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A reflection of ‘dos and dont’s for talking about childhood sexual abuse’, this time focusing on Institutions with Wren Knight. Original episode aired on YouTube. We hope you enjoy this segment while we are busy preparing for season 2 of the podcast! 

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A reflection of ‘dos and dont’s for talking about childhood sexual abuse’, this time focusing on Sex, Sexuality and Queerness with Dr Ray. Original episode aired on YouTube. We hope you enjoy this segment while we are busy preparing for season 2 of the podcast! 

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A reflection of ‘dos and donts for talking about childhood sexual abuse', this time focusing on disclosing with Jeremy Indika. Original episode aired on YouTube. We hope you enjoy this segment while we are busy preparing for season 2 of the podcast! 

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We're taking a much needed break over the summer before we come back with our events programme. Before we do, we're leaving you with this bonus clip of Sophia and fiance Michael talking about when and if they should talk to their children about childhood sexual abuse. 

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In an extremely rare and intimate episode, Sophia interviews her fiancé Michael (also known as Tig), about how they have navigated triggers, the future, and disclosing to each other. This is the first time the two have exper discussed this part of their relationship publically. 

Note: These are the experiences of a cis m/f couple, where one person has experience of childhood sexual abuse and one doesn't. We know that this experience doesn't count for everyone, but we hope that through sharing this experience we can encourage similar discussions within other couples about what works best for them.  

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This episode is better on youtube (watch it here)

For many British Vietnamese people who have experienced childhood sexual abuse, a disclosure also comes with language and cultural barriers when translating their trauma across generations. In this very special bi-lingual episode, Sophia speaks to Rachel An Vu, a Vietnamese bi-lingual psychotherapist, about the importance of therapy, the challenges of having a disclosure conversation in Vietnamese, and advice on specific phrases you can say in both languages to communicate with your elders. 

TRANSLATION DISCLAIMER: 

In Vietnamese, the use of pronouns is essential for conveying your meaning and relationship with someone. To protect the anonymity of the people mentioned in this episode, we have opted to use the pronouns 'Elders', to represent all adults who have an older and responsible role in the family. 

Many of the phrases used are for an 'abuser in the family' context, but we have tried to use phrases that can apply to wider contexts and situations. 

A special thanks to Minh Huynh for providing the Vietnamese - English translations, and to Mai Phuong and Rachel An Vu for providing the English - Vietnamese translations. 

RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE
Find out more about Rachels Work
Vietnamese Mental Health Services
Find a Psychologist near you on Psychology Today
Find a Psychologist near you on UKCP

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What can child sexual abuse support services in the UK do to adapt to British Asian contexts? And why is this even important? Join Sophia in conversation with Dr Anujavahinie Suntharamoorthy, CAMHS psychiatrist and Director of ANBU UK, as they discuss Vietnamese and Eelam Tamil contexts. They touch on intergenerational trauma,  disclosing in cultural contexts, and advice for charities and services. 


ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
ANBU stands for 'Abuse Never Becomes Us', and envisages a future where Tamil people impacted by childhood sexual abuse can find their voice
Find out more about their work on the ANBU Website
Instagram: anbu.uk 

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PLEASE NOTE: A captioned and British Sign Language Interpretation version of this episode can be found on Youtube.

How is the experience of childhood sexual abuse different for d/Deaf people? Join Sophia (she/her) in conversation with Sabian (he/him), a deaf entrepreneur as they talk about child-on-child abuse, female abuse, and ways of listening without hearing.

Thank you to Gavin Lilley for providing the British Sign Language interpretations for this video, which you can access on Youtube, and to Hannah Daisy for recommending him.

You can follow more of Sabian's work @theuberhuman on Instagram and Tiktok.

RESOURCES MENTIONED BY SABIAN IN THIS EPISODE

Academic article about Black American Male perspectives of being abused by women.*

*Please note - in sharing resources mentioned by our co-hosts, we are not necessarily endorsing all of their content, but we do so to allow you to make up your own mind.

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What role do institutions play in childhood sexual abuse? Are they always on the side of the person who experienced the abuse… or is it more often that they choose to cover up, which can often mean siding with the abuser? Is anything being done about this? Join Sophia (she/her) and Human Rights Lawyer Wren (she/her) as they discuss the criminal justice system, work, schools and reports that are trying to change this.

DEFINITIONS

During the episode, Wren uses some legal terminology which we will define here:

Issued proceedings = The issuing of proceedings involves filling details of the claim, such as the Claim Form and Particulars of Claim, at court. The court will then serve this on the defendant for them to answer to. (Scott Rees) This usually costs money.

Settled out of Court = In law, a settlement is a resolution between disputing parties about a legal case, reached either before or after court action begins.

Actual knowledge = Actual knowledge is direct and clear knowledge where the relevant party knows of a particular item of event that causes a breach. In Wren’s case, this was that her school had seen harmful messages sent to her from her abuser.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED 

The Independent Inquiry Into Childhood Sexual Abuse

“In December 2021, the Home Office published a study into the costs relating to children whose contact sexual abuse began or continued in the year ending March 2019. The estimated cost to society exceeded £10 billion.”

The Truth Project

If you would like more information on reporting and handling your own situation, head to the ‘resources’ section of our website.

Key Messages from the CSA centre about Insitutional Childhood Sexual Abuse

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