Why do we immediately put up walls when someone says ‘You’ve hurt my feelings’?

In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll discover the psychological reason behind this universal response and learn a simple but powerful reframe that can transform these vulnerable moments into opportunities for deeper intimacy. This insight completely changed how Shannon and I handle hurt feelings—and it will change your marriage too.

Want to make your spouse smile more, without grand gestures or big talks? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the surprisingly simple trick that shifted the tone in our own marriage (and no, it’s not what you think). You’ll hear how this one small change can create big happiness at home—and how you can try it today. Don’t miss it!

If you’re feeling stuck or wondering if your marriage therapy is even working, this is the episode where we break down the hidden signs of progress most couples miss, share why slow growth is often the best kind, and reveal what to do if things feel stagnant. Don’t give up too soon—tune in and discover what breakthrough might be just around the corner!

Ever wonder what truly creates the deepest connection in a relationship? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack the one practice that can completely transform how you and your spouse relate to each other.

Drawing from my twenty years as a marriage therapist and thirty two years from our own marriage we’ll share a simple approach that builds intimacy, trust, and understanding like nothing else. You won’t want to miss these game-changing insights!

If you’re not careful, comparison can creep in and quietly start sabotaging your relationship. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I dive into how measuring your relationship against yourself can erode trust, intimacy, and connection. Find out why comparison is more toxic than you think, how to stop it in its tracks, and how to protect your relationship from this silent killer.

Are you in the middle of a marriage separation? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about the one thing that’s pushing your spouse further away—and how to rebuild attraction the right way. Even though some of our suggestions are counterintuitive, we’ll show you how to focus on becoming the healthiest version of yourself and create the kind of transformation that draws your spouse back naturally. If you’re feeling lost, we hope this episode will give you a roadmap to hope and healing.

Feeling dismissed when you try to share your emotions with your husband? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack why your husband thinks your feelings are the “wrong” feelings—and, more importantly, how the two of you can bridge the gap. Our hope is that we can help you turn frustration into deeper connection and understanding and this transformative conversation will change how you communicate forever.

Does your wife just want to vent, but you can’t resist jumping in to fix things? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I tackle why your ‘helpful’ solutions might be backfiring—and what to do instead. Discover the surprising secret to truly supporting your wife, strengthening your connection, and avoiding unnecessary conflict. This game-changing insight will transform how you show up in your marriage!

Is your marriage feeling more like a battleground than a partnership? On this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the six simple steps that helped us rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover joy in our relationship. If your marriage feels stuck, we hope this episode offers a roadmap to lasting change.

“Do you and your spouse struggle to tackle challenges as a team? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Paul & Shannon share how they’ve learned to align their strengths and overcome ‘me versus you’ mindsets in their marriage. Discover the simple strategies that helped them turn conflict into collaboration—and how you can too!”