This is the follow-up to last week’s episode on good women vs bad women, and it’s for both men and women. We’re breaking down what “secure” actually looks like, what unhealed patterns look like under pressure, and why confidence or success doesn’t automatically mean emotional security. Then Ana ends with a 5-question diagnostic you can run on yourself to see where you’re solid, and where you’re still reactive.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• Why confidence, dominance, and success are not the same thing as security

• The core difference: secure men create stability, unhealed men seek control

• Why provision doesn’t replace presence, and work can become a hiding place

• The truth about chemistry vs character, intensity vs intimacy

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Enneagram Personality Testhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

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