This is the follow-up to last week’s episode on good women vs bad women, and it’s for both men and women. We’re breaking down what “secure” actually looks like, what unhealed patterns look like under pressure, and why confidence or success doesn’t automatically mean emotional security. Then Ana ends with a 5-question diagnostic you can run on yourself to see where you’re solid, and where you’re still reactive.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• Why confidence, dominance, and success are not the same thing as security

• The core difference: secure men create stability, unhealed men seek control

• Why provision doesn’t replace presence, and work can become a hiding place

• The truth about chemistry vs character, intensity vs intimacy

TOOLS & RESOURCES

Attachment Style Quizhttps://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/

Enneagram Personality Testhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

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In this solo episode, Ana breaks down one of the most common questions men ask, how do you know if the woman you’re with is healthy or unhealthy? Emotionally mature or emotionally immature? High value or a bench warmer?

This episode is a direct, no BS look at relationship patterns, emotional regulation, boundaries, and why so many people confuse intensity with intimacy. If you’ve ever felt on edge in a relationship or unsure if you’re settling, this one will hit.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• The difference between a high value woman and a bench warmer

• How emotionally immature women create chaos, control, and confusion 

• Why reactions vs responses matter more than chemistry

• The role emotional regulation plays in healthy relationships

• How to spot manipulation, guilt, testing, and withholding affection

• What emotionally mature women actually look like in real life

• Why intensity isn’t intimacy and chaos isn’t chemistry

• How your nervous system tells you the truth before your mind does 

• The real meaning of boundaries and how to enforce them

• Why dating someone’s potential keeps you stuck

• How your attachment style affects who you attract

• Why solitude and self-work are required before healthy love

TOOLS & RESOURCES

🔗 Attachment Style Quiz

https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

🔗 Enneagram Personality Test

https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

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A solo episode on trust, control, and learning how to actually let go.

In this episode, Ana shares what a season of solitude, transition, and uncertainty taught her about trusting God in a deeper, more embodied way. From failed recordings and life disruptions to parenting, finances, and surrender, this conversation reframes trust as a posture, not a feeling.

You’ll hear the powerful wheelbarrow story, why anxiety is often just disguised control, and how real trust looks like obedience without full context, peace without clarity, and faith without proof. Ana closes with a grounding reflection and a prayer for anyone walking through a season where nothing feels certain.

If you’ve been saying you trust God but still gripping the steering wheel, this episode is an invitation to finally get in the wheelbarrow.

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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• The most common pattern that destroys relationships—and how to break it

• Why avoidant and anxious people attract each other

• The real steps to becoming securely attached

• The difference between healing and distracting yourself

• How to handle conflict without destroying connection

• The signs someone is emotionally unsafe even when they “seem normal”

• Why nervous system regulation is the foundation of love that lasts

MENTIONS + RESOURCES

• Guest: Dr. Chris (@evolvedbychris)

• Gottman Institute (on conflict and relationship health)

• Big Five Personality Test (referenced by Dr. Chris)

• Dr. Chris’s upcoming school and community platform

DOWNLOADABLE RESOURCES
Attachment Style Quiz
Enneagram Personality Test

CONNECT WITH ME
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This episode is your wake-up call to stop falling in love with someone’s potential and start choosing real partnership. Ana breaks down why dating fantasy versions of people keeps you stuck, how to spot true character, and what a healthy relationship actually looks like. If you’ve ever ignored red flags, settled, or convinced yourself “they’ll change one day,” this one will hit home.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• How dating someone’s potential keeps you stuck, unavailable, and heartbroken

• Why chemistry alone is a trap, and why consistency matters more

• The difference between an imagined partner and the real one in front of you

• The green flags of a healthy, steady, emotionally safe relationship

• Why partnership requires two builders, not a bench warmer and a dreamer

• How to raise your standards by actually valuing yourself• Why self-investment determines who you attract

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Episode summary

Dating coach and neuroscience nerd (his words, not mine) Cody unpacks the gap—the awkward space between heartbreak and dating again. We dive into prediction processing (why your brain keeps finding the “same person” in different bodies), trauma/IFS work, no-contact, emotional safety, and how to spot the difference between emotional intelligence and emotional availability. If you’re not broken anymore but not quite free, this one’s for you.

Listen for

Why your brain “predicts” love based on old patterns—and how to update it

The gap vs. rushing back to dating (and why solitude beats isolation)

No-contact timelines and the neurochemistry of breakupsEmotional availability > emotional intelligence

Practical scripts for approaching IRL without being weird

Creating emotional safety: be curious, not furious

Key takeaways

- Your brain finds what it expects. Update the prediction → change who you’re drawn to.

- Complete the past first; otherwise you’ll recreate it.- No-contact isn’t punishment—it’s a nervous-system reset.

- Emotional availability creates intimacy; intelligence alone just creates insight.

- Curiosity, validation, and calm regulate both nervous systems better than “solutions.

”Resources & links

Cody’s program — Becoming Her: https://www.mindbrainbodylab.com/becoming-her

Cody’s site: https://www.mindbrainbodylab.com/Follow

Cody everywhere: @mindbrainbodylab

Pull quotes

-“You’re not broken anymore—but you’re not free yet.”

-“You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.”

-“Be curious, not furious.”

Call to action

If this hit home, share the episode with a friend who’s in the gap and tag @mindbrainbodylab so we can cheer you on.

Note: This conversation is for education, not therapy. If you’re dealing with abuse or trauma, please seek licensed professional support.

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In Episode 14 of "Wind In Her Hair," Ana delves into the profound theme of purpose, exploring how understanding one's purpose can transform life. She discusses the dangers of living without purpose, such as drifting and distraction, and emphasizes the importance of mental discipline and consistency. Ana shares personal stories and insights on how pain can be a pathway to discovering one's purpose, and how discipline protects destiny. The episode encourages listeners to pursue their purpose with intention and to embrace the lessons learned from life's challenges.

Takeaways:

- You cannot win in life if you cannot control your mind.- Purpose isn't a passion or a paycheck; it's obedience to your calling.

- Drifting is dangerous as it shows how far you've come from your potential.

- Pain can become your purpose, and it can be beautiful.- Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.

- Isolation, discipline, and consistency build the character to sustain blessings.

- Purpose gives meaning to your pain, and discipline protects your destiny.

- Living without purpose leads to distraction and emotional instability.

- Purpose prepares you for what's next, not waiting for the next season or person.

- Your purpose is not always going to feel good, but it will always grow you.

Resources

Discovering Your Purpose Worksheet https://drive.google.com/file/d/1J_gVfPLNJzmsj8bKmL-zhBui7SKBbQq4/view?usp=sharing

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In Episode 14, "The Gift of Isolation," Ana shares her transformative journey through a season of solitude. Discover how embracing stillness and trusting in a higher power led her to profound peace and personal growth. Ana opens up about overcoming the hustle mentality, finding authentic peace, and the importance of forgiveness and self-reflection. Join her as she explores the unexpected blessings of isolation and how it can prepare us for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to embrace your own season of growth and transformation.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

- You I don't have to strive and hustle to make things happen.

- Trusting God during isolation is a profound experience.

- Learning to rest and be still is essential.

- True authentic peace is achievable.

- Peace surpasses all understanding, regardless of circumstances.

- Letting go of control can lead to spiritual growth.- Isolation can be a time for deep reflection.

- Faith can provide comfort in difficult times.

- Experiencing peace is a journey, not a destination

- Trusting in a higher power can transform one's outlook.

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If you want to transform your relationships, start with your reflection. This week’s Wind in Her Hair episode dives into the Physical Pillar—how strengthening your body transforms your confidence, purpose, and faith.Ana shares her journey from chasing “skinny” to building real strength, from numbing pain with alcohol to finding freedom through discipline and faith.Learn how to create discipline that lasts longer than motivation.Discover why your physical health is deeply tied to your spiritual growth.Hear how honoring your body is the first step to honoring your life.Listen now and start moving toward freedom—inside and out.

In this episode, I sit down with Pryor Baird—recording artist, songwriter, and NBC The Voice finalist—to talk about what it really takes to make it in Nashville. From throwing a dart on a map that landed him here to battling burnout, heartbreak, and the relentless pressure of chasing a dream, Pryor shares the raw truth about the music industry, faith, and staying the course when everything feels impossible.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• Why success in Nashville isn’t about luck—it’s about relentless perseverance.

• The hard truth about “making it” as a recording artist (and what most people get wrong).

• How to stay grounded through heartbreak, rejection, and creative burnout.

• The one mindset shift Pryor uses to keep going when he wants to quit.

• The spiritual and emotional lessons Nashville will teach you—if you let it.

  
  

MENTIONS + RESOURCES

🎵 Listen to Pryor Baird’s music: https://pryorbaird.com

📸 Follow Pryor on Instagram: @pryorbaird

📍 The Listening Room Café, Nashville – Pryor’s upcoming residency

📘 Diary of a Player by Brad Paisley

DOWNLOADABLE RESOURCES

🎁 Two Mindset Shifts to Attract Aligned Love (Free Video + PDF) → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OWaa7A_CAew

Mindset Shifts to Attract Aligned Love

https://drive.google.com/drive/search?dmr=1&ec=wgc-drive-globalnav-goto&q=Two

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