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What do you really value? Not what you say matters to you, but what your everyday choices reveal. In this episode of Seeing What’s Here, Vanessa and Pablo start with something as simple as expensive coffee and buying flowers for no reason, then follow the conversation somewhere much deeper.

Money is only one way we assign value. We also spend our time, attention, and energy and sometimes the things receiving the most from us are the very things we claim don’t matter. So what happens when we stop looking at our stated values and start looking at the evidence of how we actually live? We explore the difference between cost and value, usefulness and beauty, inherited ideas about what’s “worth it,” and the uncomfortable gap between what we say we value and what our lives demonstrate.

Maybe knowing what you value begins with noticing what you’re already giving your life to.

Links referenced in this week's episode. 

Book: Emotional Money by Corree Roofener https://a.co/d/02mR0jlL

Natural Law Course by Tom Barnett https://www.thehumblekingdom.com/offerings

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What happens when life seems to be speaking directly to us? In this episode, Vanessa and Pablo explore synchronicity, the coincidences that feel too timely, personal, or meaningful to dismiss. Vanessa and Pablo share several experiences from their own lives, from the strange foreshadowing and retrospective echoes surrounding Panther’s death, to finding their new homes.

We consider whether these moments are Divine providence, intuition, pattern recognition, or simply coincidence and whether we need a definite answer. How can we remain open to meaning without turning every event into a sign? Perhaps synchronicity is not always an instruction to follow, but an invitation to slow down, pay attention, and see what is here.

Links referenced in this week's episode: 

Selective Attention Test

https://youtu.be/vJG698U2Mvo?is=Dpuj-sKqMebDZofL

Dr. Quantum: Double Slit Experiment 

https://youtu.be/NvzSLByrw4Q?is=R8atdJOMWBMfJ8MR

The Book Of Dust trilogy by Philip Pullman 

https://drdavidhamilton.com/synchronicity/

Synchronicity: Meaningful Patterns In Life 

https://youtu.be/oGTbxUk0oK0?is=XaJJy6HTA_6D52iS

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Why is setting a boundary often harder than continuing to tolerate something that isn’t working? In Episode 20, Vanessa and Pablo explore what boundaries really are, why we need them, and why saying “this no longer works for me” can bring guilt, discomfort, and second-guessing. Vanessa shares how these questions have surfaced in her own life through relationships and her recent decision to resign from her job.

Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people or shutting ourselves off from life. Sometimes they are how we stop giving our time and energy to situations that leave us depleted and begin directing them toward what genuinely matters. Join us for an honest conversation about knowing when enough is enough, accepting that others may not understand our choices, and creating space for the life we actually want to build.

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This is a deeply personal and emotional episode for Vanessa as she begins processing the tragic loss of her beloved cat, Panther. We don’t choose every loss, limitation, or circumstance that enters our lives, but within the life we’re given, some freedom remains. 

Join us for a raw and occasionally choppy conversation, sprinkled with trauma, tenderness, and unexpected laughter, as we explore grief, the limits of free will, the difference between choosing healing and controlling its outcome, and how love might find a new place to live when it can no longer be expressed in its familiar form.

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What do we do with the parts of ourselves we would rather deny? The anger, envy, selfishness, or desires that could hurt others? In Episode 18, Vanessa and Pablo explore the difference between Jung’s shadow and Judaism’s evil inclination (yetzer hara), and ask whether integrating our darkness means accepting it, acting on it, or transforming the energy hidden within it. This conversation challenges the idea that authenticity means following every desire and offers a more responsible path: recognizing what lives within us, uncovering the legitimate need beneath it, and consciously choosing what form it will take.

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How well do we really know ourselves beyond our roles, relationships, and responsibilities?

In Episode 17, Vanessa and Pablo explore what it means to know yourself authentically and why “I don’t know who I am” can sometimes mean, “I know more than I’m willing to admit.”

They examine the tension between desire, social conditioning, and personal values. Is every desire an expression of your true self? Should society’s expectations determine what is acceptable? Or does self-knowledge require something deeper: the ability to face what is within you without automatically obeying, judging, or hiding from it?

This conversation invites you to look beyond labels and preferences, notice the different voices operating within you, and consider which ones you are consciously choosing to strengthen.

Maybe knowing yourself isn’t about finding one final definition. Maybe it’s about developing the honesty to see yourself clearly, the discernment to choose deliberately, and the courage to admit what you already know.

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We all say we want honesty, but do we really?

When Pablo and I brought a whiteboard to our local farmers market with one simple question, "What's something you wish people talked about more honestly?" the very first response surprised us. An older woman looked at the question, shook her head, and quietly replied, "That would be bad. Very bad."

Her answer wasn't about honesty itself, it was about what honesty can cost. Rejection. Alienation. Hurting the people we love. Losing our place in a family, community, or identity we've spent years building.

In this episode, we explore why honesty is so difficult, what we're really protecting when we hide parts of ourselves, and whether the greatest barrier to honesty is fear of the truth or fear of what the truth might change.

Along the way, Pablo dives into the fascinating etymology of the word honesty, tracing it back to the Latin concept of honor (honos). Rather than simply meaning "truthfulness," honesty was historically connected to dignity, public honor, and how we hold space for another person. We explore how this older understanding invites us to recognize the inherent worth—and perhaps even the divine image—in another human being, even when we disagree with them or find their truth uncomfortable.

Join us for a conversation about the tension between truth and belonging, the courage it takes to be seen, and what honesty may really be asking of us.

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We live in a world full of books, podcasts, therapy, coaching, and endless promises of the next breakthrough. But what if none of those things can do the one thing we're hoping they'll do?

In this episode, Vanessa and Pablo explore the difference between gathering information and experiencing transformation. They discuss the temptation to keep searching for the "right" method, why relief isn't always the same as growth, and how the deepest changes often happen in the ordinary, unseen moments when life doesn't go according to plan.

The real work doesn't happen when you finish the book. It begins when reality invites you to live what you've learned.

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Have you ever looked back on something you once believed with complete certainty and wondered, How did I ever see it that way?

In this episode of Seeing What's Here, we explore the invisible "frames" through which we interpret the world. From relationships and work to faith, conflict, and identity, our experiences are shaped not only by what happens, but by the meaning we assign to what happens.

As our perspectives evolve, we can feel both liberated and unsettled. If our understanding keeps changing, is there anything solid to stand on? Is wisdom about finding the "right" frame, or becoming aware that we're looking through one in the first place?

Join us as we unpack why two people can witness the same event and walk away with completely different stories, and how learning to notice our own lens may be the first step toward seeing what's actually here.

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What happens when you're forced to slow down?

This week, Pablo shares what it's been like navigating a painful hip injury that has kept him from doing work he loves. Vanessa reflects on why being questioned about her own productivity struck such a deep nerve, and why she finds herself judging both herself and others through the lens of "getting things done."

Is productivity simply about contributing? Or have we quietly turned it into a measure of human worth?

In this conversation, we explore the stories we tell about work, rest, laziness, identity, and the uncomfortable ways we evaluate ourselves and each other. Rather than offering easy answers, we invite you to notice the assumptions you've inherited about what makes a life meaningful.

Maybe your value was never meant to be measured by your output.

We'd love to hear your thoughts. When do you feel most valuable and why?

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