Self-abandonment, people-pleasing, insecure attachment—in this episode, I'm exploring a pattern I see every single day in my therapy and coaching practice, and one I've struggled with myself.

I'm talking about the painful cycle of choosing someone else's comfort over your own, repeatedly pushing down your desires to keep the peace, and staying in relationships that don't work for you because self-betrayal feels easier than speaking your truth.

For years, I abandoned myself without even realizing it. I worked hard to please others because I believed if they were okay, I would be okay too. But I learned the hard way that prioritizing other people's needs over my own (especially for those of us with the anxious attachment style) leads to resentment, anger, and losing ourselves completely.

In this episode, I share the crucial difference between being flexible and actually betraying your values. I help you understand why being well-liked never satisfies our deeper need to be truly seen, appreciated, and valued. And I invite you to identify the people who love you for exactly who you are—these are the ones worth holding onto.

If you're ready to stop abandoning yourself, create genuine connection, and become deeply aware of your own desires, I hope you'll tune in.

Come Home to Yourself: Healing from Self-Abandonment

BECOMING RELATIONAL MINI-GUIDE

About me: I'm a therapist and community member on my own healing journey—and I LOVE to honor and amplify the ways we are embracing our humanness, showing up fully in the world, and utilizing our relationships and communities to heal and experience joy. I'm SO happy you're here with me.

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