Self Developed Life

Confronting The Corrupt Family Court Custody System*

Fact: 1/3 of children do not live with biological fathers & 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

Parental alienation describes the process and result of psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards a parent or other family members.

We dive deep & get incredibly personal and vulnerable in this podcast #48 that unfortunately many parents will experience (share this with anyone who can benefit)

"Parental Alienation & Family Court" is an EPIDEMIC that is DESTROYING families and no one is really addressing it until my guest Eric Scharfenberger shot a video in a family courtroom where he absolutely called out the corrupt family lawyers that make millions by targeting parents against each other in an attempt to stretch out the court proceedings to make more money and make the non custodial parent (mostly fathers) pay 1000's of $ to fight to even get 'visitation access' ever see their children again.

It's absolutely disgusting.

That video of his went viral with over 1 million views & thousands of comments - I play the audio in the into of our interview and is posted in comments below)

This is the most important and also most personal topic I have covered in this podcast series and it has taken me months get up the courage to release this, and I am choosing to it today, March 5th which is my son Ethan's 15th birthday.

(Which I have sent emails to his mom to have a skype call set up with him and to be able to send him his presents, and got no reply, which is unfortunately common and not surprising basically happens every year...

What is surprising is how a person/parent can be so sociopathic to rob their child from a healthy loving relationship from their other parent and tell the child 'they don't need that other parent in their lives")

Very few people know the whole story of the absolute hell I have been through to not only maintain a relationship with my son, but to even have contact with him after his mother and I broke up years ago, which resulted in a 10 year intense court custody case that I basically got completely screwed over in, and I for the first time ever reveal all the details in this episode...

As a result of these 10 years in court fighting for my fatherly rights, I basically lost all my 'rights' as we settled out of court and in doing so it has been 5 years since I have been 'allowed' to visit my son, for zero reasonable reasons other than his mother saying he has a new dad now, that being her new husband.

Thought looking at the facts from a surface level, guys like me, Eric and millions of other parents who are not living with or spending tons of time with their children may appear to be "dead beat dads / moms" however you never know the circumstances or the legal reasons why they are not invited or allowed to have the unrestricted access to their own children because of this 100% corrupt family court system.

Which is so sick and twisted I could rant on forever about that.

“How to Have a Successful Divorce & Start Dating Post Separation” with my anonymous guest “Victoria” from Amsterdam who is living the Eat, Pray, Love Life after her divorce. However she is still very close friends & will be connected for life with her ex husband as she says why that’s important in this interview...

Topics covered:

Love life after 12 years of marriage

Why staying in a bad relationship is so costly (emotionally, mentally, spiritually & physically)

Prenuptial agreements

Alimony support

Biological clock for having children

In this podcast episode #47, & relationship mini-series #5 we go deep around how to be civil thru a separation & how to approach dating after divorce.

A # of my recent coaching / counseling clients I’ve been working with have reached out for support bc of either a bad breakup / separation to get their lives back on track after a messy divorce. ( & as always on these podcasts I offer a free 1 on 1 call to help anyone deal with anything, PM to book a session)

With over 50% of the population dealing with the drama of #divorce this is solid info to share with all those newly separated couples on a healthy way to break up and successfully move on...

**PS I have one of the best dating coaches / PUA from Dr.Phil & The Today Show coming on the podcast this week, what questions would you like me to ask him?**

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The last couple of episodes in this relationship mini-series interviews were focused on how to get a more successful love life where I had on dating coaches, Tinder Pros, and a sex / porn addict.

(previous & future episodes here: -> https://linktr.ee/quintoncarlin

Thought I would balance things out & finally release this super old recording from 2 years ago that I recorded with my close friend, 梁贤虹 from China before she moved away.

As mentioned in the interview, we briefly dated until she chose to live a life of celibacy and a simplified single life instead of pursuing an active dating life, like basically everyone else does our age.

You can hear her reasons why here...

This just happened last weekend & then telling his fiancé what happened after opening up their relationship to “open” status”

Quote of the episode "walking around Bali is like porn in real life walking around everywhere"

What an intense & interesting episode this conversation was in Part 3 of the “Vday Relationships Mini Series” with my “anonymous guest” who shares his deep struggles with porn & sex addiction that led to a drunken affair on his bachelor party on Gili Island just days before this recording and how he told his fiancé....

We talk about how porn produces the dopamine rush similar to cocaine / heroin and why many people become sex addicts due to the unrealistic expectations that porn creates in search for that perfect partner.

If you have issues around this checkout SAA (Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous) and the speaker I mentioned that leads many men’s retreats for porn addiction coaching is Matt Fraud.

If you know someone who can benefit from this feel free to share this episode with them & as always I offer a free confidential coaching / counseling 1 on 1 call, PM to book a time.

For more deep discussions of self development episodes like this feel free to listen to past interviews & subscribe for more to come in link in comments below 👇

#sex #porn #addiction

SDL Podcast #44: "Mastering Online Dating (2500 Tinder Matches & 1st Date Tips), Engagements, Breakups & Deep Emotional / Trauma Healing Therapy with Dolan Ramsay in this special Vday Relationship Mini-Series Ep #2. 

If you are single this past valentines day, (or want to soon be single 😉 this is an episode to check out on how to match and meet your future partner via apps like Tinder, Bumble and the many others... We went VERY deep into unexpected territory in this raw & authentic conversation that many people experience, but don't talk about...at least publically (but that is what my show is about, deep personal development conversations) 

Dolan is a friend of mine from Vancouver who has been on 25 different dating apps, had 2500 matches and 1000's of conversations and connections with women all over the world. He also runs a very successful 7 figure business and we talk about dating challenges for busy professionals. 

PS Both of us just unexpectedly shared deep, personal & private experiences such as engagement break ups & abortions that we have not shared anywhere else. We did not plan on sharing any of this but we decided to still release this unedited episode in an attempt to create a space and healing for others to do the same because when you talk about issues like this, that is 1/2 of the healing. PPS Google "Rachels Vinyard" for support and therapy for anyone who has experienced the physical and emotional pain from an abortion.

If anyone needs to reach out to chat, both of us are accredited coaches/counselors and here to support you if you feel the need to connect about anything confidentially via PM either of us and def follow what Dolan is doing in his personal development businesses. Audio links are in comments below to subscribe to the podcast and youtube channel and please leave a review on itunes here 

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 #relationshipgoals #tinder #valentines #love #dating #engaged

We go deep into how to attract, communicate & be intimate with & keep your ideal partner. 

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https://katyamorozova.typeform.com

This is part one of a mini-series of episodes about dating & relationships with industry experts. 

(upcoming topics include mastering dating apps, porn & sex addiction, celibacy, soul ties & dealing with divorce & custody struggles) 

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Dating & Relationship coach Katya Morozova goes deep into dating and relationships. 

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Brian Swan "12 years of friendship, 10 years non stop travel with his Unstoppable Family & 2 Mil+ earned via Click Funnels Social Media Branding Agency PLUS raising a famous fashion designer 11 y/o daughter”

As Tim Ferriss said "this is the real 4 hour work week family"

I met Brain & his family at a business conference in Cancun Mexico in 2007 and we instantly hit it off and he's been one of my best friends ever since.

As I say in this interview since then "Swano The Unstoppable Surfer" as his instagram name says has been kinda like an older brother to me taking me under his wing as he was one of my first "lifestyle design mentors" teaching me to follow my passions of surfing and world travel like he has done.

Since then we have traveled all over the world together, Mexico, Europe, Cali, Vegas, Miami and now hanging out here in Bali having some wine at his villa in Canguu.

Follow this power couple Brain & his wife powerhouse, Rhonda& their entrepreneur 11-year-old fashion designer daughter @ https://www.instagram.com/unstoppablefamily and can find their personal accounts from there.

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I met these two cousins while traveling in Bali and was blown away by the non profit they helped create Www.trekrelief.org

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Facebook just told me I’ve been living in Asia 8 years ago today (which makes sense bc I remember flying into China during Chinese New Year which is today)

My plan was to be away only 6 months & only brought this backpack... ya well, time flies & plans change.

So to celebrate this I’m going to be doing this FB Live Podcast Recording about “The Pros & Cons of living abroad in Asia”

I’ll be breaking down all the places I’ve traveled to, like Tokyo, Osaka, Hong Kong, Vietnam, Shanghai, Taiwan, Bangkok, Seoul, Busan, Philippines been 4 times, Jeju Island 3x, Bali 3 times (where I’m currently based now)

if u have any question about traveling or living here comment below or ask during the video stream & I’ll answer them 🙂 

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