Delanie Fischer is joined by Dr. Tara—Tenured Professor of Relational and Sexual Communication and Quantitative Research at California State University Fullerton, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and Co-Host of the iconic radio show Loveline—to unpack the “whys” behind infidelity. Dr. Tara shares the 3 main reasons people cheat, how to begin healing from betrayal, and what to consider for creating healthier relationship dynamics.

Plus:

+ 2 Sexual Health Myths Debunked

+ Serial Cheaters vs. Serial Monogamists

+ A Breakdown of Catastrophe Theory

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When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frew

Meeting Your Soulmate (While Married) and Breaking Free From "Good Girl" Conditioning with Amber Rae: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21afaab6/meeting-your-soulmate-while-married-and-breaking-free-from-good-girl-conditioning-with-amber-rae

Diagnosed Narcissist (Lee Hammock) and Clinical Psychologist (Dr. Ramani) Offer Insights Into Manipulation And Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/241deda3/diagnosed-narcissist-lee-hammock-and-clinical-psychologist-dr-ramani-offer-insights-into-manipulation-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd

Deceptive Affection, Betrayal Trauma, and Multidimensional Healing with Támara Hill: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24cc8b07/deceptive-affection-betrayal-trauma-and-multidimensional-healing-with-tamara-hill

Your Burning Relationship Questions Answered with Rachel DeAlto: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3f1ddb9c/your-burning-relationship-questions-answered-with-rachel-dealto

Is It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2230ec70/is-it-porn-addiction-inside-the-impact-neuroscience-and-recovery-with-steve-moore-and-mark-kastleman

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Astrologer Madi Murphy, Founder of CosmicRX and Author of In the Cosmic Zone: Embody the 12 Astro Archetypes to Unleash Your Genius and Activate Your Authentic Self, to discuss all things astrology—history, skepticism, archetypes, planetary transits, and leveraging your unique natal chart to create a life that feels like you. Madi also shares how her husband went from astro skeptic to believer, how she integrates a variety of tools and modalities into her practice, and even gives Delanie a live reading based on her own birth chart to explore life transitions, purpose, and what may be on the horizon.

Plus:

+ Does Your Sign Actually Dictate Your Relationships?

+ Nodal Return, Jupiter Return, and Retrogrades Explained

+ The Big Dream Madi Manifested a Little Too Hard

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What’s Your Human Design? with Krystle Alfarero: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/4eebd9b0/whats-your-human-design-with-krystle-alfarero

Enneagram Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/93ee0232/enneagram-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer

Myers Briggs Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/82eb04b2/myers-briggs-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer

The 4 Attachment Styles (And Our Quiz Results): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2283b7fd/the-4-attachment-styles-and-our-quiz-results

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dd3a637b/the-5-love-languages-by-gary-chapman

The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dfdf5c79/the-four-tendencies-by-gretchen-rubin

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer (Attempt To) Read Their Birth Charts: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2857914b/were-reading-our-birth-charts

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Amber Rae, author of Loveable, to unpack what it was like to meet her soulmate—while still married to her ex-husband. Amber shares her feelings about experiencing a lonely marriage, the days leading up to her decision to leave, how she transformed internalized shame, where she and her ex-husband are now in life and love, and lessons learned—as well as those still a work in progress. This episode offers a very honest perspective on the sometimes messy, imperfect ways relationships can start and end, and what can keep us stuck in environments that aren’t meant for us.

Plus:

+ 3 Game-Changing Tips for Writers and Creatives

+ What Your Anger Might Be Telling You

+ Amber's Favorite Journaling Exercise

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Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson

How Being Children of Divorce Has Influenced Our Relationships

How To Un-F*ck Your Relationships

Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Lisa Lange, Senior Vice President of Communications for People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals, to share what to consider before bringing an animal into your home, how to adopt ethically, and everyday care tips for promoting health and longevity. Lisa also debunks common myths, gives us insider details often kept from the public, and outlines three ways to help combat the nationwide animal homelessness and overpopulation crisis (tens of millions of animals are overwhelming shelters, abandoned on streets, etc.). This information is coming to you judgment-free—Delanie even shares about her own missteps with animals, and what she’s doing differently these days. Whether you're looking to adopt, already caring for animals, or want to be a more effective advocate, this will rattle you in the best way.

Plus:

+ Can Dogs Be Hypoallergenic? Are Cats Really Low Maintenance?

+ What Pet Stores and Breeders Don't Want You To Know (YIKES)

+ Why Open Admission Shelters Need Urgent Support (3 Ways To Help)

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Why I Couldn't Stand Vegans Before Becoming One with Ed Winters: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/31e36189/why-i-couldnt-stand-vegans-before-becoming-one-with-ed-winters

10 Ways To Be An Activist with Jamie Logan and Justina Adorno: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2699ec8c/10-ways-to-be-an-activist-with-jamie-logan-and-justina-adorno

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Going Vegan with Preacher Lawson: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1def48a2/going-vegan-with-preacher-lawson

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Danielle Hayden, CEO of Kickstart Accounting, Inc. and reformed corporate CFO, to help you build a simple, shame-free budget—no stuffy suits or cold offices required—based on your Money Personality Type (Perfectionist, Free Spender, Saver, Balance Seeker). If money stresses you out in one way or another, we get it—and Danielle shares how organizing your finances now can unlock major breakthroughs in your life and work for years to come.

Plus:

+ What Money Conversations Are REALLY About

+ Danielle's Top 4 Finance Tools and Apps

+ Your First (or Next) Step Tailored To Your Personality

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The Biggest Mistakes We’ve Made With Money: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24ab6fec/the-biggest-mistakes-weve-made-with-money

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Transform Your Finances with Certified Financial Planner, Hilary Hendershott: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d8a76b01/transform-your-finances-with-certified-financial-planner-hilary-hendershott

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Kelly Chase, co-host of the Cosmosis podcast and writer and executive producer of Cosmosis: UFOs & A New Reality (Amazon Prime and Apple TV), to discuss UAP, anomalous experiences, and the limitations of human perception. Their conversation covers the 2023 congressional hearings, the crossroads of science, history, psychology, and spirituality, leading theories about UAP, and connections to art, media, folklore—as well as phenomena like premonition dreams, intuition, synchronicities, and apparitions. Regardless of your beliefs, this is a fascinating topic worth exploring.

Plus:

+ The Most Compelling Evidence Something Unusual Is Happening

+ Why Do Some People Experience UAP and Others Never Do?

+ How Kelly Went From Skeptic To Seeker (And What Changed Her Mind)

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Board Certified Behavior Analyst, Molly Maxwell, to discuss the powerful minutiae around behavior change including the principles of reinforcement, punishment (not as scary as it sounds!), and extinction. Molly also guides Delanie through crafting a game plan for 3 different habits she's amidst building—exposing the obstacles, from all angles, that are keeping her from action and consistency. You'll never think about 30 seconds the same way again!

Plus:

+ How Perfectionism Masks Our New Habit Wins

+ The #1 Thing Lasting Behavior Change Needs

+ Are You Punishing Yourself Without Realizing?

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Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24bc636e/atomic-habits-by-james-clear

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Emmy-nominated songwriter, comedian, writer, and actress, Riki Lindhome, to discuss her personal experience with infertility and the diverse avenues she explored to become a parent—including egg freezing, IVF, adoption, and surrogacy. They also delve into Riki's creative process, and how it's evolved since becoming a mom.

Plus:

+ An Inside Look at the Surrogacy Process

+ The Moment Riki Met Her Son

+ How She Organizes Her Creative Ideas

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Steve Moore (Certified: Sex Addiction Therapist, Partner Trauma Therapist, Multiple Addictions Therapist) and Mark Kastleman (Board-Certified: Clinical Chaplain and Pastoral Counselor), co-hosts of The PBSE Podcast (Porn, Betrayal, Sex, and the Experts), to share their personal experiences with pornography and sexual addiction—including root causes, signs and symptoms, raw inner dialogue around the behaviors, their recovery process and its impact on their marriages, and how they help others heal. The research suggests—you, or someone you know, is likely struggling with this. Parents, partners, and porn consumers—don't miss this episode.

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+ A Shocking Stat About Porn and Divorce

+ How Addictive Is This Porn Thing, Really?

+ 3 Key Warning Signs You Shouldn't Ignore

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7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain

The Psychological Impact of Gaslighting with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2a31527c/the-psychological-impact-of-gaslighting-with-dr-stephanie-sarkis

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