Author of "Codependent Attachment Personality Patterns," Heidi Rain, shares how unmet needs in childhood show up in adult relationships, what these behaviors can actually look like, and how to break a cycle you're tired of feeling stuck in. Plus, an awesome template for healthy relationships.

Full episode with Heidi Rain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain

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Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, describes insidious relationship patterns, their origins (and their impact) including: the pressure to mind-read, feeling engulfed or suffocated, oversharing mature information, tasks that aren't age-appropriate, living vicariously or "best friends" parent-child dynamics, and more. Plus, how to give yourself grace if you're caught in any of these cycles, and steps you can take to create new behaviors.

Full episode with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/316bfe5c/how-enmeshment-trauma-impacts-every-relationship-you-have-with-dr-kate-balestrieri

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Amie McNee, Author of We Need Your Art: Stop Messing Around And Make Something, to discuss the importance of creativity for our health, communities, and more. They chat about the challenges and rewards of being a multidisciplinary artist and multi-hypenate, offer insights into their own rituals and approach to work, as well as share practical tips and mindset shifts for overcoming perfectionism, rejecting burnout culture, and thriving in your unique creative practice.

Plus:

+ Why Creativity Is The Missing Link In Health & Wellness Narratives

+ How To Choose Yourself (and Your Art) vs. Waiting on Gatekeepers

+ The Illusion of Scarcity and Competition in the Creative Space

More episodes related to this topic:

Publishing, Podcasting, and Creative Entrepreneurship with Lindsey Smith and Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/23bfb9d7/qanda-publishing-podcasting-and-creative-entrepreneurship-with-literary-agent-lindsey-smith-and-podcaster-delanie-fischer

10 Powerful Journal Prompts with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/f034e4d1/10-powerful-journal-prompts-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cook

Why We Love The Artist's Way By Julia Cameron with Delanie, Taylor, and Kelsey: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/21aa97b2/why-we-love-the-artists-way-by-julia-cameron

The Power of 1 with Te’Jani, The Artist Behind The Latest Self-Helpless Theme Song: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22447af0/the-power-of-1-with-tejani-the-artist-behind-the-latest-self-helpless-theme-song

Exploring Perfectionism with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d69d8eee/exploring-perfectionism-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer

How A Collage Changed My Life with Tatum Elizabeth: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/245a1122/how-a-collage-changed-my-life-with-tatum-elizabeth

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Delanie Fischer answers the question from a patron, "What's Your Favorite Documentary?" and shares a bit about 20 documentaries that have been discussed, or mentioned, on Self-Helpless through the years by guests and hosts alike.

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20 Documentaries To Watch

1. Stink! https://www.instagram.com/stinkmovie/?hl=en
2. Earthlings: https://www.nationearth.com/
3. They're Trying to Kills Us: https://www.theyretryingtokillus.com/
4. Minimalists: https://www.theminimalists.com/films/
5. The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
6. Pignorant: https://pignorantfilm.com/watch
7. Forks Over Knives: https://www.forksoverknives.com/the-film/
8. Fake Famous: https://www.amazon.com/Fake-Famous-Chris-Bailey/dp/B08VGXB8C2
9. Cowspiracy: https://www.netflix.com/title/80033772
10. The Failed Experiment: https://www.amazon.com/The-Failed-Experiment/dp/B0CQ5GYHCM
11. What The Health: https://www.netflix.com/title/80174177
12. Christpiracy: https://christspiracy.com/
13. The Smell of Money: https://www.amazon.com/Smell-Money-Elsie-Herring/dp/B0CNRGFYQS
14. Gamechangers: https://gamechangersmovie.com/the-film/where-to-watch/
15. Dominion: https://www.dominionmovement.com/watch
16. Take Your Pills: https://www.netflix.com/title/80117831
17. Blackfish: https://www.netflix.com/title/70267802
18. Seaspiracy: https://www.netflix.com/title/81014008
19. Tidying Up with Marie Kondo: https://www.netflix.com/title/80209379
20. Chimp Crazy: https://www.amazon.com/Chimp-Crazy-Season-1/dp/B0D6DR2MXV

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Licensed Psychotherapist and International & Board Certified Trauma Therapist, Támara Hill, to discuss betrayal trauma —including deceptive affection, symptoms of this kind of trauma, the initial (and ongoing) impact it can have, and a multidimensional approach to healing.

Plus:

+ Your "Life as a Platter" Analogy & Growth Mindset

+ Learned Helplessness, Enmeshment, and PTSD

+ A Journaling Ritual You Might Want to Try Next!

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Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) with Licensed Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/327baacc/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-with-licensed-therapist-nadirah-habeebullah

When My Husband Came Out: Infidelity, Divorce, and Friendship with Jessica Frew: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-infidelity-divorce-and-friendship-with-jessica-frew

How To Build Self-Trust with Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3109f4db/how-to-build-self-trust-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cook

How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/9c478f77/how-to-fix-a-broken-heart-by-guy-winch

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Krista St-Germain, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, debunks the most common myth about grief, as well as shares what practices seem to be most effective for grieving —including what's helped her navigate the loss of her then-husband.

Full episode with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germain

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Literary Agent and Best-Selling Author, Lindsey Smith, to respond to your questions about the publishing and podcasting industries, share their experience with creative entrepreneurship, and offer a peak behind the curtain of their new book, MockTales: 50+ Literary Mocktails Inspired by Classic Works, Banned Books, and More.

They're Addressing Questions Like:

+ How To Find A Lit Agent, Self vs. Traditional Publishing, and More

+ Making Money As A Podcaster, Streamlining Processes, and More

+ Navigating Fluctuating Finances, Prioritizing Projects, and More

MockTales is now available on Barnes & Noble, Target, Amazon, and most places where books are sold: https://www.delaniefischer.com/

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Jessica Frew, co-host of The Husband In Law Podcast, shares with Delanie her experience with betrayal, divorce, and healing after learning about her then-husband's affair and sexuality.

Full episode with Jessica Frew: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-infidelity-divorce-and-friendship-with-jessica-frew

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Founder of The Optimism Institute and host of Blue Sky Podcast, Bill Burke, to discuss what optimism is NOT, how we can become more optimistic about the future (and the impact of doing so), and taking simple action despite the noise of the modern age.

Plus:

+ Are Our Brains Really Addicted To Negativity?

+ The Most Shocking Health Benefit of Optimism

+ 7 Seriously Delicious Quotes To Fire You Up

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Spiritual Activism with Racial Justice Educator, Rachel Ricketts: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/255a24cd/spiritual-activism-with-racial-justice-educator-rachel-ricketts

7 Things To Keep Out Of Your Closet (For Good) with Trend Expert And Animal Advocate Ashley Frohnert: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2550df3e/7-things-to-keep-out-of-your-closet-for-good-with-trend-expert-and-animal-advocate-ashley-frohnert

The Pros and Cons of Deleting Social Media (Permanently): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2319e1a2/the-pros-and-cons-of-deleting-social-media-permanently

How To Stay Informed with Noor Tagouri: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d0c5e15d/how-to-stay-informed-with-noor-tagouri

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Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, psychotherapist, American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate, and author of Gaslighting, shares the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that you're in a cycle of emotional abuse —from dysfunctional behaviors that have been normalized in media, feeling trapped in a job where you're being mistreated, and insidious romantic relationships.

Full episode with Dr. Sarkis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2a31527c/the-psychological-impact-of-gaslighting-with-dr-stephanie-sarkis

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