Nowadays everyone tells each other that you should love yourself and it is the ultimate peace

And let’s accept this that we are also one of them and we also tell people the same thing that how they should love themselves

Yes we all know that how other people should love themselves but did we realise that we don’t know how to love ourselves

so do you really think this is self love ? Shouldn’t it be about ourself first

Aren’t we faking it all the time ? Or fooling ourselves ?

okay let me ask you this - tell me something about yourself ?

And it’s not an interview so don’t give me your biodata , I am asking about what you like ? What makes you happy ?

And I am looking for and answer that defines you

And If you were blank the second I asked this question to you then you know what it is all about

and some of you might not be able to answer this question right now because that’s something you have never given a thought about

and that’s one steps towards knowing what self love is actually about

It is not our fault here actually we have seen this all our life just around us, nobody ever talked about what self love is and that we are enough,

Instead we have seen that you always need someone else to feel loved

Our families always taught us that you will feel happy and complete once you have someone in your life to love you care for you

you need a partner to be happy,

We have learned to be dependent on someone else for even the basic decisions in our life

When we were young it was our parents and after that it is our partner we just need someone to decide for us that what we are going to do with our life

And we never got a chance to think what we love or like ?

And I am not saying that you should live alone shouldn’t be in a relationship or shouldn’t get married that is also important but I am saying that you should not do it for care or to be loved or to take decisions

It should be an ad on to what you already have or to share it

But how to love yourself suddenly when the whole life we have been doing just opposite to it

So self love is not a one day thing you can’t change a habit that you have been building for years now

It is a journey where you will gradually learn to fall in love with you where you will be enough for you and ready to take your decisions and being responsible for it

but you need to give some time to it

Let’s start with introducing ourself to us

asking us - who we are ? What we like or dislike ?

And here we need to be very much honest with ourself

N Add one by one to our routine whether it is reading, cooking, dancing or anything

One thing at one time

and give it 21 days

then add another thing and keep on adding one in every 21 days interval

And never change or adjust for anyone let them accept you as the real you :)

Then start disconnecting yourself from the people not everyone at one go but gradually and spend that time with yourself

And slowly decrease the time of you being available for everyone every time

I mean be there when they need you but not for the one who talk to you only when they need you

Prioritise your things

so write everyday what you want to accomplish and don’t write 100 things

Start with few and start with the ones that you can complete early.

Note your growth and celebrate every small thing about you.

and yes the most important just forgive yourself for all the mistakes and accept your short comings and focus work on your strengths

And when you will become parent just keep in mind to teach your child that love starts from self.

That’s all for today guys

Hope this helps

Keep listening and sharing with the people who you think need to hear this and believe what I said -

love K !