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The KunikaRathore Show

By Kunika Singh rathoreEducationSelf-Improvement
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The KunikaRathore Show episodes

  • It’s ok to switch - Ep - 7 - Mental You with Kunika
    It’s ok to have a new dream
    It is ok to have a new passion
    It’s ok if it is not working out
    It is ok if the job you have been dreaming about since your school days doesn’t excites you anymore
    It is ok if you are 40 and want to start over again
    But it’s not ok to still being there after knowing that you don’t belong to that place
    5 min
  • How to change a habit ? - Ep - 6 - Mental You with Kunika
    WE all have some guilty pleasures or habits in life that we really want change or delete but It doesn’t seems so easy as it sounds
    It can be of eating, drinking, smoking or staying with negative people.
    And There is a tomorrow that we all have that never comes when we will actually start working on changing these habits.
    And I am not saying that I have always been so pro in this, I also have been through this cycle
    Where I also used to think or fool myself that I can drop this habit anytime. But in reality the only things that used to get dropped is the idea to try drop my habit.
    Ok I think it is a lot of criticism for now let’s jump to the topic
    before I get into the process I wanna you to know we can never delete a habit just like that from our life, It took a large amount of time for your brain to build up this habit. once we learn it then it is there in our nervous system .
    Now your head must be popping up with some questions
    and the answer to all the questions is one that we don’t need to delete it from inside. We just need to change it .
    And I haven’t discovered this solution it is from a book that was written after a careful study and research
    So we just don’t directly jump into doing something
    But there is a 3 step procedure we or our brain follow to complete any task.
    We start from cue then routine and then reward
    So to start anything activity we need a cue and then we do the routine we have set to receive the reward after completing the task
    let me give you a very basic example for this let say we eating food - we start from feeling hungry which is the cue here and then we eat food the routine and satisfaction we receive after that is the reward
    But how can we stop this cycle ?
    Changing the routine that’s where we need to work and we call it Habit reversal therapy
    We need to find the craving that is driving our behaviour and what reward we receive after the routine
    And change your routine according to them
    Let’s say you have a habit of smoking so
    If you want to stop smoking ,ask yourself, do you do it because you love nicotine or because it provides a burst of stimulation or structure to your day or a way to socialise ?
    And if because of the stimulation then replace the routine with
    a quick sets of pushups or Stretch
    Find another routine that can provide king of similar rewards. And replace it with the current
    But remember this therapy can help you to change your habit but you have to be disciplined and consistent with the new routine.
    4 min
  • Her Things - Ep - 5 - Mental You with Kunika
    It’s impossible to understand women
    You can never know what’s going on inside a women’s
    they don’t say what they actually mean
    Girls can talk for hours
    A happy woman is a myth
    Women asks for equality but also wants special treatment
    And many more like this that women gets to hear from every second person and I am not saying that these are not true they all are but not the way people say it or think
    and in this episode I am going to give you that another view of some of these statements that people give like if they are getting paid for it.
    And also about how to understand women
    What they say or do and what they actually mean?
    9 min
  • Power Pillar - Father - Ep - 4 - Mental You with Kunika
    from now our Friday episode is going to be a little different.
    I want to make it a little interesting for you people
    so From now instead of having a normal conversation episode we are going to have a Friday activity episode
    where I will give you task to work closely with you to make you smile and feel enough and after completing the task you have to send me your videos, texts or picture messages anywhere we are connected through and I am also attaching the links to connect with me at the bottom of description :)
    So Let’s start from today -
    It’s father’s day this Sunday so this Friday activity is going to be for all the loving fathers and for their unconditional love.
    As we all know. that Father’s are not really good at expressing love or care but nobody loves you or cares for you more than him and he has it’s own ways of showing it.
    They are the real Santa and the super hero for us :)
    They always keep our needs first and try to give us the best life possible. He made us what we are today and don’t ask us anything in return. We usually praise mothers more when it comes to sacrifice, love or care but I think father is not anyway behind in that it’s just he does everything silently.
    He sacrifice and adjust all his life to give us whatever we asked for or not asked for but he knows
    He is the one who choose our happiness over his own
    He will wear anything but will het us the best clothes or the one we want
    He Gave us the best education possible
    Who always taught us to live with respect and
    Who smiled when we did something great and taught us the lesson when does something wrong
    Who made me what I am today
    So Let’s just be a little more nice to the human being who has been so good to us even when we were not and taking all our tantrums and sometime our frustrations when it’s not even because of him.
    Okay so let’s hop on to the activity because this will never end.
    So the activity is - make him smile.
    I am giving you 3 options here just select what you can and let’s make our power pillars smile.
    - Cooking one his favourite dishes if you know how to cook
    - Arrange a movie date with him but at home of his choice
    - a good massage section for him wihile Talking to him about his life when he was young and share a little about yours or take any suggestion from him about something he is proud of
    Most important tell him that you love him and appreciate for what all he has done for you and no one can take his place :)
    And do share your picture, story or video with me so that I can show it to my dad and make him smile too.
    So before I really start crying let’s end this episode here and go and celebrate it with his and this time his happiness over ours and his smile over everything
    Let’s make him smile :)
    Voice message link - https://anchor.fm/kunikarathore/message
    Instagram - @kunikarathoree
    5 min
  • Self Love - Ep - 3 - Mental You with Kunika
    Nowadays everyone tells each other that you should love yourself and it is the ultimate peace
    And let’s accept this that we are also one of them and we also tell people the same thing that how they should love themselves
    Yes we all know that how other people should love themselves but did we realise that we don’t know how to love ourselves
    so do you really think this is self love ? Shouldn’t it be about ourself first
    Aren’t we faking it all the time ? Or fooling ourselves ?
    okay let me ask you this - tell me something about yourself ?
    And it’s not an interview so don’t give me your biodata , I am asking about what you like ? What makes you happy ?
    And I am looking for and answer that defines you
    And If you were blank the second I asked this question to you then you know what it is all about
    and some of you might not be able to answer this question right now because that’s something you have never given a thought about
    and that’s one steps towards knowing what self love is actually about
    It is not our fault here actually we have seen this all our life just around us, nobody ever talked about what self love is and that we are enough,
    Instead we have seen that you always need someone else to feel loved
    Our families always taught us that you will feel happy and complete once you have someone in your life to love you care for you
    you need a partner to be happy,
    We have learned to be dependent on someone else for even the basic decisions in our life
    When we were young it was our parents and after that it is our partner we just need someone to decide for us that what we are going to do with our life
    And we never got a chance to think what we love or like ?
    And I am not saying that you should live alone shouldn’t be in a relationship or shouldn’t get married that is also important but I am saying that you should not do it for care or to be loved or to take decisions
    It should be an ad on to what you already have or to share it
    But how to love yourself suddenly when the whole life we have been doing just opposite to it
    So self love is not a one day thing you can’t change a habit that you have been building for years now
    It is a journey where you will gradually learn to fall in love with you where you will be enough for you and ready to take your decisions and being responsible for it
    but you need to give some time to it
    Let’s start with introducing ourself to us
    asking us - who we are ? What we like or dislike ?
    And here we need to be very much honest with ourself
    N Add one by one to our routine whether it is reading, cooking, dancing or anything
    One thing at one time
    and give it 21 days
    then add another thing and keep on adding one in every 21 days interval
    And never change or adjust for anyone let them accept you as the real you :)
    Then start disconnecting yourself from the people not everyone at one go but gradually and spend that time with yourself
    And slowly decrease the time of you being available for everyone every time
    I mean be there when they need you but not for the one who talk to you only when they need you
    Prioritise your things
    so write everyday what you want to accomplish and don’t write 100 things
    Start with few and start with the ones that you can complete early.
    Note your growth and celebrate every small thing about you.
    and yes the most important just forgive yourself for all the mistakes and accept your short comings and focus work on your strengths
    And when you will become parent just keep in mind to teach your child that love starts from self.
    That’s all for today guys
    Hope this helps
    Keep listening and sharing with the people who you think need to hear this and believe what I said -
    love K !
    6 min
  • How we actually feel ? - Ep - 2 - Mental You with Kunika
    one thing that we master while becoming an adult is hiding how we actually feel.
    so when someone ask us “How are you ?”
    without giving it a thought how you are actually feeling in that particular moment your answer would be “I am fine”
    And the most weird part is that the one who is asking you this would also be expecting this only
    Nowadays nobody is actually interested in knowing how you feel and somewhere unconsciously you also know this because you are also a part of that league
    there are times we actually feel low from inside, will spend all day having a proper noted discussion with our mind about it
    and still won’t share it with anyone
    But sometimes all we actually need is to talk
    Talk about all the discussions that are happening inside us.
    Sometimes all we need is someone who just can listen without judging us or who can tell us exactly what we already know but denying the whole time
    it’s true because we become so much biased when it is about us
    So we try to find every possible reason to stick to that thing and sometimes not even need that reason
    And we are so weird that when we feel bad we do certain things that will make it worse listening to sad music and relating ourself to it
    and it just doesn’t happens when we feel bad but also when we feel good
    Nos we don’t do things to make us feel better
    We still manage to turn anything good into bad
    by making a proper list in our mind that how it can get worse and will feel worse for the things that haven’t happened yet.
    I mean even if things turn out bad as per any. one of the way from your list says
    Then don’t you think so you are going to go through the same pain twice
    So shouldn’t we put our mind to rest and let the things actually happen and let us embrace that little surprise
    and what if something good happens
    we think We don’t share because somewhere we don’t want to go through that pain or embarrassment but actually we are already going through it by thinking about it
    then why we don’t share
    what is the actual reason behind that
    The reason is we don’t want to let people know the effect they make on us
    We somewhere feel that being in pain or showing that we care will make us look weak and people might not value us the way they do
    But if they do value you more because of the same reason that you care.
    It needs to come out to let you feel free.
    and Its ok to feel bad
    It is an emotion that exists in you. But it’s not the only one
    We complicate things by giving them more attention than they require
    Just ask yourself can you do something about it if yes then do it and if no then accept n let it go
    Move on to something else
    You know what you actually can control is you so change yourself.
    And one mistake we all do is that we don’t communicate
    I mean if they don’t know what the problem is then how can you expect them to fix it just share
    Not asking you to share every small thing you are going though like your stomach cramps but to share how they made you feel just communicate
    And don’t tell every second person that what kind of problem you are having with them but to the ones who really are effecting you
    And if you don’t like something speak because that’s how you can fix it
    And I want to give you the three best advices
    If you really want to happy and in peace.
    if you are putting special efforts for anyone don’t expect something in return but you can expect the basic rituals of every relationship that’s a must.
    And give every relationship it’s freedom to explore don’t bound it with rules
    And third everyone and everything people, work, passion or hobby is a part of your life don’t make it your life :)
    So guys communicate.
    6 min
  • What’s RIGHT or WRONG? - Ep - 1 - Mental You with Kunika
    is it right ?
    To ask someone for help
    telling someone the truth
    Taking first step towards somebody
    Saying sorry first
    To let it go and leave
    To not to make any efforts
    To have sex before marriage
    To expect
    Is it right ?
    This is the question we keep asking to ourselves in different ways from initiating a conversation to the big life changing decisions
    We try to just fit into the right or wrong we have seen or heard from the people around us
    is there anything like universal right for every situation that everyone will accept
    is there any team sitting somewhere who is deciding the right or wrong for everyone and releasing the guidelines time to time ?
    I know it sounds funny but in everyone’s head there is those 4 people or the society whom they don’t even know
    make a huge impact on the decisions they make.
    But I believe there is nothing like right or wrong
    It’s what you believe or like
    let me give you a little real view of it
    For some people smoking is not right and for some it gives them peace
    For some wearing short clothes is not right and for some it’s the the way they like it or feel comfortable in
    For some having sex before marriage is wrong and for some it’s another way of showing love
    So who is wrong or who is right ?
    Cann’t decide right ?
    right is different for everyone according to their beliefs or likes
    Some people just say it out loud and most of the others just accept what society decides for them.
    Where do you see yourself between these two ?
    It’s your life and shouldn’t you be deciding what you should do with it ?
    Why to do something just to be accepted
    Don’t you think so your decisions should be based on what makes you feel happy or allow your conscience to be in peace
    If it is right for you then it is right no matter who thinks what
    It’s your life and only your are responsible for it
    any decision you have taken keeping your happiness on priority is right
    you are not being selfish at all
    to spread or give happiness to the people around you
    Don’t you think so you should be happy first ?
    It is more like if you have water in your glass then only you can pour it to other people.
    So the next time you ask yourself this question instead of thinking about the acceptance of the people around you think is it going to make you happy
    But what if we are unable to understand what is right or wrong
    whenever you don’t know or get stuck just see the situation through three parameters :
    - Is it going to get me peace or happiness
    - Is it going to teach me something good
    - Is it going to get me money
    And if it is a yes for any of these then you know why it is right :)
    But still it is right for you only.
    It will be wrong if you force someone to do what you think is right
    Whether it’s your parents, partner, friends or colleague or anyone
    You can suggest and leave it up to them to make the decision
    But choose what makes you happy and it will come out right to you.
    That’s all for today Guys see you on Friday now :)
    Hope this helps.
    Love K.
    5 min

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Welcome to The KunikaRathore Audio Show, hosted by woman entrepreneur, CEO, vlogger, and speaker Kunika Singh Rathore. Everything thing we go through everyday is an opportunity that can be bagged by a method or rule wether it’s mental health or business. You will learn those methods or rule here with me.