one thing that we master while becoming an adult is hiding how we actually feel.
so when someone ask us “How are you ?”
without giving it a thought how you are actually feeling in that particular moment your answer would be “I am fine”
And the most weird part is that the one who is asking you this would also be expecting this only
Nowadays nobody is actually interested in knowing how you feel and somewhere unconsciously you also know this because you are also a part of that league
there are times we actually feel low from inside, will spend all day having a proper noted discussion with our mind about it
and still won’t share it with anyone
But sometimes all we actually need is to talk
Talk about all the discussions that are happening inside us.
Sometimes all we need is someone who just can listen without judging us or who can tell us exactly what we already know but denying the whole time
it’s true because we become so much biased when it is about us
So we try to find every possible reason to stick to that thing and sometimes not even need that reason
And we are so weird that when we feel bad we do certain things that will make it worse listening to sad music and relating ourself to it
and it just doesn’t happens when we feel bad but also when we feel good
Nos we don’t do things to make us feel better
We still manage to turn anything good into bad
by making a proper list in our mind that how it can get worse and will feel worse for the things that haven’t happened yet.
I mean even if things turn out bad as per any. one of the way from your list says
Then don’t you think so you are going to go through the same pain twice
So shouldn’t we put our mind to rest and let the things actually happen and let us embrace that little surprise
and what if something good happens
we think We don’t share because somewhere we don’t want to go through that pain or embarrassment but actually we are already going through it by thinking about it
then why we don’t share
what is the actual reason behind that
The reason is we don’t want to let people know the effect they make on us
We somewhere feel that being in pain or showing that we care will make us look weak and people might not value us the way they do
But if they do value you more because of the same reason that you care.
It needs to come out to let you feel free.
and Its ok to feel bad
It is an emotion that exists in you. But it’s not the only one
We complicate things by giving them more attention than they require
Just ask yourself can you do something about it if yes then do it and if no then accept n let it go
Move on to something else
You know what you actually can control is you so change yourself.
And one mistake we all do is that we don’t communicate
I mean if they don’t know what the problem is then how can you expect them to fix it just share
Not asking you to share every small thing you are going though like your stomach cramps but to share how they made you feel just communicate
And don’t tell every second person that what kind of problem you are having with them but to the ones who really are effecting you
And if you don’t like something speak because that’s how you can fix it
And I want to give you the three best advices
If you really want to happy and in peace.
if you are putting special efforts for anyone don’t expect something in return but you can expect the basic rituals of every relationship that’s a must.
And give every relationship it’s freedom to explore don’t bound it with rules
And third everyone and everything people, work, passion or hobby is a part of your life don’t make it your life :)
So guys communicate.
