Have you ever noticed that right when you decide you really want to change your life… everything suddenly seems to go wrong? Or you've committed to something and something steps in the way?

The car breaks down.

You get sick.

Your kid loses it.

Something unexpected drains your energy, and before you know it, you’re right back in the same place again. Stuck.

In this week’s episode of Real Conversations with Kelly, Kelly and Heatherar we’re having a very honest conversation about self-sabotage, insecurity, and the ways we unknowingly block the very things we say we want.

We talk about the idea of calling these moments “contrast.” Not failure. Not punishment. Just contrast. Life is showing up and asking us who we are going to be in the middle of it.

Are we going to spiral?

Give all our energy to the problem?

Or are we going to recognize what’s happening, protect our energy, and keep moving forward anyway?

Because at the end of the day, self-love is really at the center of all of it. The way we respond to obstacles says a lot about what we believe we deserve.

This episode speaks to women who really do want more in their lives, but seem to have obstacles show up at the last minute. Kelly and Heather talk about how these "contrast" moments are actually created by ourselves. The subconscious, aka our beliefs, wants us to be comfortable. And when that comfort is tested, it will seek out obstacles to bring us back to the level we are used to.

Kelly and Heather also talk about energy levels and how choosing to stay in a higher position can free you from the "contrast" moment.

If this episode speaks to you, we would love to hear from you in the comments:

Where in your life do you think you’ve been self-sabotaging?

And if you know another woman who needs this conversation right now, send it to her. ❤️

If you are ready to take a deeper dive into how you operate and why these obstacles might be showing up, we invite you to immerse yourself in The Soul's Matrix: Know Thyself program. You can find it here:

https://www.kellynewlon.com/programs.

Share what your most powerful insight was. We'd love to know!

About the podcast:

Welcome to Real Conversations with Kelly and Heather — where we have honest conversations about growth, healing, identity, relationships, confidence, and what it really looks like to evolve as women in midlife. Our goal is to help women reconnect with themselves, stop living by default, and start creating lives that actually feel aligned.

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