Self-Schooled

How do we help our kids get the nutrition they need without creating fear, pressure, guilt, or shame around food?

In this episode, I’m talking with registered dietitian and mom of three Nicole Cruz, Registered Dietitian, founder of Nourish Together and host of The Intentional Table podcast, about what it looks like to raise kids who can trust themselves around food.

We talk about:

• How well-meaning food rules can unintentionally create shame
• Why our own relationship with food matters so much
• Ellen Satter’s Division of Responsibility: parents decide what, when, and where; kids decide if and how much
• How to support picky eaters without becoming a short-order cook
• Why safe foods, repeated exposure, and low pressure matter
• What intuitive eating actually means — and how we can help kids stay connected to their own hunger, fullness, satisfaction, and body cues

Learn more about Nicole Cruz + Nourish Together: https://nicolecruzrd.com/

Follow Nicole on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolecruzrd/

Watch Nicole’s free training on raising an empowered eater: https://nicolecruzrd.easywebinar.live/register

✨ Grab the free Self-Schooled Parent Toolkit: https://www.self-schooled.com

What helps kids stay curious, motivated, and connected to who they really are?

In this episode, I’m talking with educational psychologist, professor, researcher, and longtime unschooling parent Dr. Gina Riley about intrinsic motivation and Self-Determination Theory — a framework that has shaped both her academic work and the way she raised her own son.

We talk about:

• The three things that support intrinsic motivation: competence, autonomy, and relatedness
• Why freedom and choice matter so much in learning
• What it looks like to let children develop interests that we might not have chosen for them
• How unschooling supported Gina’s son in becoming his own person
• Why knowing your values can make parenting decisions feel much clearer
• The importance of protecting curiosity, joy, and the precious time we have with our kids

Explore Self-Determination Theory: https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/

Learn more about Dr. Gina Riley: https://ginarileyphd.com/

✨ Grab the free Self-Schooled Parent Toolkit: https://www.self-schooled.com

What if, instead of starting with what our kids are doing wrong, we started with what’s already strong?

In this episode, I talk with Gallup-certified strengths coach Jill Soucy about strengths-based parenting — a way of understanding ourselves and our kids that shifts the focus from fixing weaknesses to noticing, naming, and developing the strengths that are already there.

We talk about how our own strengths shape the lens through which we see our children, why the very same trait can look like a problem in one environment and a superpower in another, and how curiosity can help us understand what’s actually underneath our kids’ behavior.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why knowing your own strengths can change the way you understand your kids
• How deficit-based thinking — especially in school and special education — can shape the stories kids learn about themselves
• Looking at neurodivergence and differences through a strengths-based lens
• Why your child may be doing something for a completely different reason than you assume
• How to help kids “name it, claim it, and aim it” so they develop language for what makes them uniquely them

Go Deeper

Want to discover your own strengths — or your child’s?

→ VIA Character Strengths Survey — a free character strengths assessment for adults and youth
Take the VIA Character Strengths Survey

→ CliftonStrengths + Clifton Youth StrengthsExplorer — Gallup’s strengths assessments for adults and kids
Explore Gallup’s Strengths-Based Parenting resources

→ Strengths Based Parenting by Mary Reckmeyer — the book Heather mentions in the episode, which includes resources for discovering both parent and child strengths

Connect with Jill Soucy

Jill is a Gallup-certified strengths coach and founding partner of Innate Force Coaching & Consulting, where she works with individuals, families, teams, schools, and organizations to help people understand and use their natural strengths.

Website: innateforce.com
Email: [email protected]

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Understand your kid. Trust yourself. Find your own path.

Explore the Self-Schooled Parent Toolkit and more at self-schooled.com.

What is Self-Schooled all about? Heather DiNino shares what inspired the podcast, the ideas behind Self-Schooled, and what you can expect from each episode as we explore child-led learning, alternative education, parenting, and what it can look like to rethink school.