Today’s episode was never supposed to be an episode at all. When I first started thinking about this topic, I thought it was going to be a post for Distant Francophile, my blog about France and all things related to French culture, food, travel and style. I had realised while we were planning our most recent trip to France that I’m just more organised and effective when I have a holiday on the horizon. Originally, I was going to call the blog post…I’m a better human when I get to travel to France.

Initially, I started playing with the idea that I was experiencing the power that comes with having something to look forward to. We all know how sweet anticipation can taste. And I was wondering if I was actually the adult equivalent to a toddler on red cordial. But as I rolled that idea around in my mind for a week or two, I came to the conclusion that I was dealing with something bigger than anticipation. I mean I look forward to all sorts of things every day of the week - for example, coffee in the morning or slippers in the evening - and none of those small anticipations make me more effective.

So I sat with the idea for a while longer, and eventually realised what was going on. I was experiencing the power that comes from having a really clear goal. I realised that when I have a really clear vision of my future, which is effectively a goal to aim for - in this case, me travelling to France, soaking in the colours of the French Riviera and the Mediterranean Sea, I am motivated to operate at a new level. It is my future goal rather than France itself or travel that encourages me to uplevel in all the ways I mentioned earlier.

So today, I want to share some of the thinking behind this idea, and how I’m going to translate that into everyday life. Yes, this is a bit of a different episode, but I hope you find my musings on clarity and goal setting helpful.

I’ll be back again soon with another episode of Self.Styled.Life. But until then, stay fabulous.

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack.

As I'm sure you've guessed from this episode title, today we're digging into the topic of curation. 

If you’ve listened into this podcast for any time at all, you’ll know that my self-styled life framework focuses on clarity, mindset and action. And when I talk about clarity, it’s really about getting clear on what you want. And when you start really refining what you want in your life, well that’s when we start getting into the art of curation. 

It pays to curate almost everything in your life. I’m thinking about everything from the people you spend time with, the things in your home, the tasks you take on, the clothes in your wardrobe and things like the books you read, shows you watch and your social media feeds. Imagine if everything you let into your life was something you absolutely loved. How differently would you feel about your day and the world around you? I’m thinking that you’d feel uplifted and energised and excited to be alive.

And before you start shaking your head saying that you couldn’t be so intentional as to only be surrounded by things you love, know that you can and that myself and many of my clients have done exactly that. Yes, it can take time. Yes, it takes making the decision to do so over and over again. Sometimes it takes tough conversations. And yes, sometimes you’ll still find yourself watching some mindless thing on YouTube. But every move you make towards curating your life is a step in the direction of a life that feels unique and fulfilling for you. The trick is to decide you want a curated life and start refining from there.

So in this episode, I'll be talking about how you can start to curate your own life by making one decision at a time. I really hope you find this episode supports you to self-style your life.

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

Today’s episode is all about burnout. We talk about how to recognise that you might be burned out and what to do if you are. 

Because often, when people think of burnout, they imagine it involves some spectacular sort of fiery crash. Like a plane or star falling from the sky or how we might read about an influencer crashing and burning in a celebrity gossip magazine. And sometimes this is the case - a woman will be flying high, seemingly doing all of the things, and then she suddenly crashes in a dramatic way, not to be heard of again for months and months. Those around her nod knowingly at each other and mutter words like ‘well with everything she had going on, she was probably always headed for burnout’.

The thing is though, I rarely see burnout show up like that in my clients or my colleagues. Complete meltdowns happen way less often than we might think. Burnout is far more likely to show up in far more subtle ways. Ways that are so subtle that even the women experiencing them aren’t 100 percent certain that they’re actually suffering from burnout. And that’s where burnout can be particularly problematic. Because let’s face it. Burnout has never been a hallmark of any sort of fabulousness. Rather, it tends to be the reason that women find themselves in the middle of a marriage breakdown or a health crisis. And it’s driven many women to step away from careers, hobbies or volunteer activities they love. Which is precisely why knowing what some of the signs of burnout are, so that you can be on the lookout for them, and make adjustments before things get completely out of hand.

So in this episode we'll be chatting about:

1. Four subtle signs of burnout
2. How you can use my signature coaching framework of clarity, mindset and action to help you avoid or return from burnout
3. Three areas you need to be super clear on when creating a self-styled life and by extension avoiding burnout

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In today’s episode I'm answering a listener request all about what does corporate style look like in 2022! 

It’s such a good question isn’t it, especially now that some of us are able to head back into our corporate offices? Having said that, it’s worth noting that corporate style still needs to work on video, at least here in Australia. So many workplaces are reverting to work from home arrangements as Covid and the flu continue to make it difficult for teams to come together in person. 

So in this episode, I want to look at what corporate style looks like in 2022 for those of us who have been able to return to the office AND for everyone who is continuing to work from home. And let’s face it, these more flexible hybrid arrangements are fabulous for women who want to self-style their lives and careers, so long may the choice we have regarding work location continue. Which means it’s worth having the conversation in the context that corporate work is a hybrid and the we should be thinking of corporate style as a hybrid too.

In today's episode, we'll be chatting about 

1. The impact that your style can have on your confidence.
2. Why true style comes when we trust ourselves. 
3. The fact that hybrid style is definitely a thing.
4. Tips for style on video. 

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In today’s episode we talk about pre-empting - An emerging protective behaviour you need to be aware of and why it's so important. 

My favourite personal example of pre-empting occurred last year, in 2021. I knew I wanted to spend more time in my coaching practice. But I also wanted to keep working in my transformation role for a large Australian Bank. I really, really wanted the best of both coaching and corporate, which for me looks like working 4 days per week in corporate and 1 day a week coaching, at least for right now. 

But I pre-decided that outcome couldn’t be a thing. I came to that conclusion on my own, without any input from my boss. You see, I just knew he’d say no. In fact, I was completely certain. I’d informed my husband, my best friend and my coach of the outcome. Truth be told, I probably even told the cat that my role is a big one, and that no one in their right mind would say yes to a program director showing up 4 days a week. I was adamant about it. 

Thank goodness it eventually occurred to me that I’d made the decision without actually asking my boss for his thoughts on the topic. When I finally thought to have a conversation about what I wanted, I was surprised to learn that my boss not only thought I could fulfil my role working 4 days a week, but offered to find me a mentor to help me navigate my big job on a reduced working week. The answer I thought he would share was so different the actual answer - I seriously could not have been more wrong. He didn’t even need time to think about it…he agreed to my request on the spot.

So in today's episode, we'll be chatting about 

1. What is pre-empting might look like in your life
2. The importance of staying curious 
3. Common self-protective behaviours 

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In today’s episode we talk about the number one reason you feel like a fraud and what to do about it. You have no idea how often the women I work with tell me they feel like a fraud. Or they’ll reference their imposter syndrome. Or they’ll be a little less direct with their language and say things like ‘I was probably the only option’ or ‘I’m not sure why they picked me’. Which is just code for saying they feel like a fraud. 

From my experience, there is one key factor that leads women to feeling like a fraud and that comes about from the fact that you haven’t yet stepped into a new identity. For the purposes of today’s chat, we’ll think about that identity as a leader or as someone moving into a more senior role. 

So in today's episode, we'll be chatting about 

1. The number one reason you feel like a fraud and what to do about it
2. How to flip the narrative 
3. The importance of patience 

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In today’s episode we talk about how you can take care of yourself. 

It almost always breaks my heart when I ask women how they take care of themselves and they answer with words like ‘Not very well’ or ‘I don’t’ or ‘I’ve let myself go’. 

We can’t fill from an empty cup and if we want to show up fully to our careers, relationships, kids, extended families and hobbies, it pays to make sure that we are putting some time into our own well-being. So in today’s episode I want to spend some time sharing some simple ways for you to start taking care of yourself. None of the things I’ll share today have to be extravagant, expensive or difficult but they are likely to bring a smile to your face and in my mind that’s a fabulous start. 

The self-care tips I am going to be talking about are: 

1. Adding a gorgeously scented body-wash or soap to your daily shower routine.
2. Choose fabrics that are soft and gentle on your skin.
3. While you’re about it, choose outfits that make you feel good as you go about your day.
4. Light a candle and enjoy both the flicker and the scent.
5. Exercise in a way that feels uplifting and caring for your.
6. Nourish your body.
7. Buy yourself a bunch of beautiful flowers.
8. Get a massage. 
9. Stop and breathe for a moment or two every day.
10. Try tapping.
11. Spritz yourself with your favourite scent.
12. And finally - Get some decent sleep.

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In this episode, Terri Connellan and I dive deep into the topics of  wholehearted self-leadership and transitions. This was such an impactful chat and I know you'll take a whole stack of wisdom from our conversation. 

Over the course of the episode:

1. We hear what Terri has learned about self-styling her life on her journey
2. Terri shares what wholehearted self-leadership means to her
3. We discuss how to start building your version of self-leadership 
4. And we talk about finding 'golden threads and nuggets' in your life 

I loved hosting Terri on Self.Styled.Life - thank you Terri for so generously sharing your perspectives on living wholeheartedly through transitions.

About Terri

Terri Connellan is an author, life transition coach, teacher and accredited psychological type practitioner who specialises in creativity, personality and self-leadership especially for midlife women in transition to a life with deeper purpose. Terri works globally through her creative business, Quiet Writing, and her books, Wholehearted: Self-leadership for women in transition and the Wholehearted Companion Workbook, are published by the kind press. 

Wholehearted book links:

Purchase links: Australia  |  International | books2read

Wholehearted: Self-leadership for women in transition 

https://www.quietwriting.com/wholehearted-book/

https://books2read.com/b/wholehearted

Wholehearted Companion Workbook

https://www.quietwriting.com/wholehearted-companion-workbook/

https://books2read.com/b/companion

Website: QuietWriting.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writingquietly/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/writingquietly

Twitter: https://twitter.com/writingquietly

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terri-connellan/

Email [email protected]

Free resources from Terri:

Chapter 1 of Wholehearted: Self-leadership for women in transition

https://www.quietwriting.net/wholehearted-chapter-1

Personal Action Checklist for Creating more Meaning and Purpose – a free resource to help you get started on more wholehearted living: https://quietwriting.lpages.co/10-tips-mp-checklist/

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In today’s episode we talk about how well do you know yourself and three of my favourite tools to help you shine. 

Having an idea of how you’re wired and what your preferences are is fundamental to self-styling your life. You see, whilst we like to think we can control others through our words, actions and behaviours, the truth is the only thing we can control are ourselves. And the better we understand our own make-up and conditioning, the easier it is to make sense of and tailor our own responses, reactions, behaviours and patterns. It also helps  us to stop following the herd and inspires us to bring things into our lives that suit us and work well for us. These things can be everything from work opportunities to hobbies all the way through to how we spend our vacation time. And when things are working well for us, everything feels easier, more natural and way more fulfilling. 

So in this episode, I’m sharing three of my favourite tools to help you learn more about yourself.  We’ll explore: 

1. Discovering your unique Human Design
2. Using a Strengths finder
3. Learning about your Personality Type

Resources mentioned in the episode:

If you’re after a Human Design chart check out https://www.catskreiner.com/chart

Personality type - 16personalities.com

Strengths finder - https://www.viacharacter.org/Account/Register or https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/home.aspx

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Welcome to the SELF.STYLED.LIFE Podcast with Janelle Wehsack

In today’s episode I want to help you sort out everything related to leaders, managers, sponsors, mentors and coaches. All of these humans can be leveraged to help you take your career from where you are now to where you want to go. Especially if you’re super clear on where you want to go and you’re not afraid to share your career aspirations. But that is a whole lot easier to do when you know the difference between them and you’re clear on the role they can play in your career.

I tend to think of all of these people as part of my team, much like I consider the people who support me in my personal life as part of the team who help me live life in a way that feels fab for me.

We talk about these 5 different roles that can support your career growth and how;

- True leaders show up and lead no matter what.
- Managers direct the day to day work that should be brining the vision of the leaders to life.
- Mentors are really great for sharing their experience and telling you how to do a thing.
- Sponsors are the senior leaders within your workplace - and sometimes outside your workplace - who advocate on your behalf when you’re not there.
- Coaching is the opportunity for you to focus on you, your potential and your dreams and goals.

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