Many of us make assumptions about interracial relationships, but do we really understand how interracial couples experience their relationship together? whether they see themselves as “interracial”? and what struggles and challenges they face?

In this episode, we sat down with our lovely friends Dabi and Jon to discuss how they perceive and negotiate their journey as a couple of different races and cultures.

In our 90 minutes together, they shared how they came together, their views and experiences as an interracial couple, relationships with family and outside influences, the value of each other’s culture in their relationship whilst documenting the joyful and challenging moments. They also offered tips on how they overcome them.

One key thing we learned among many is that while we may see interracial couples and immediately see the differences in their skin colour, for them that takes the backstage as their identities and personalities remain the glue that holds them together.

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Okay, let's start by saying that the idea that men & women (heterosexual) cannot be friends is antiquated.

But it’s also not that simple.

In some ways, some of us see opposite-sex friendships the same as same-sex friendships. We initiate them for the same reasons like shared interests, companionship, good times etc.

But are these the only ‘coincidental’ ’reasons?

Are there any other reasons and motives why we form & maintain opposite-sex friendships?

And are our motives always what we think they are?

So in this episode with @itss_yemi, we shared our understandings of opposite-sex friendships.

All 3 of us have quite a number of opposite-sex friends, so we had rich experiences to reflect on.

We shared how we managed physical attraction, we reflected on those friendships that began by coincidence vs with motives, & we also questioned each other's motives of maintaining opposite-sex friends while in romantic relationships.

We also used theories from scientific studies to question our motives in such friendships.

So, why do we form or maintain opposite-sex friendships?

Well, that answer seems to depend on whether you think like a man or a woman.

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Growing up in certain parts of the world can be an extreme sport, with some areas being more extreme than others.

For those of us who grew up in Nigeria, living with some levels of insecurity is kind of the norm.

From kidnappings to carjackings, religious killings, armed banditry, ethnic clashes and more, these violent crimes have increasingly become regular signatures that characterise life in Nigeria.

The odds are that majority of us have encountered such violent crimes, crimes that have brought us uncomfortably close to an encounter with death.

So in this episode, we invited Omotola to join us as we shared our individual terrifying experiences with crime and insecurity, experiences that could easily have been fatal. 

One thing we relearnt in this episode is that although everyone has a right and a reason to be resentful towards others and about life, we all also have a reason or two to be grateful.

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One of the modern social norms that we all voluntarily practice in our 20s or 30s, compared to a century ago, is the postponement of childbearing.

This is usually because we delay marriage, or pursue educational or career goals, or wish to first secure some economic stability.

Because of this, the common thing we are often taught or seek out to be aware of is knowing how to protect against pregnancy during our pursuit of these other goals.

But during this phase, rarely do we ponder on the state of our fertility or reproductive health. And maybe that’s normal.

However, should that be the case 🤔?

Improving one's knowledge about fertility should be part of a normal conversation in our social circles, the same way we talk about our career, finances, travel and everything else.

This is why we put this episode together with Ojuolape, and we had lots of fun and lessons doing so.

We spoke about the stigma around the early fertility conversation, the rising infertility rates in the world, the social pressure of pregnancy expectations, abortions and a lot more!!!

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The history we all share is replete with injustice, often spearheaded by people and systems in power.

If you take a historical journey through the 20th and 21st centuries, you might easily spot infamous Tyrants who have spurred injustice across all continents.

In this episode, we used the Tyranny Playbook from the Netflix docu-series, HOW TO BECOME A TYRANT, as a guide to see possible repeating patterns of tyranny in our present world. 

As Nigerians, we couldn’t avoid the reality of what the #EndSARS protests from last year have revealed about our government in power, and using the Tyranny playbook gave us the vocabulary to try and understand how close or far we are from living in a truly tyrannical society. 

This episode got more animated as we took the tyrannical playbook into the context of cancel culture, modern social justice, and everyday social participation. 

It was not a rosy debate. 

But for us, the value we believe you will get from this episode lies in the personal and societal reflections that we hope it spurs you into making while listening. 

Set your alarms and notifications because you don't want to miss this when it drops! 

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If you believe in a “higher power”, what do you think about others who don’t? If you don’t believe in any “higher power”, what do you think about those who do?

It’s not very common that people of different beliefs sit down together to discuss and debate their thoughts with the intention to learn and understand. This is what we tried to do in this episode with Sydney.

We sat down on our armchairs with Sydney to explore agnostic atheism and scepticism about God and aimed to prove that learning can occur in the presence of varying beliefs or stances about God without having heated or radical debates.

Without giving any spoilers, we can promise you that this episode was a fantastic conversation and a sincere discussion that is very much worth a listen regardless of your beliefs.

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To kick off our sixth season, we tackled the concept of involuntary celibacy, and why this state of mind is perceived as a social reality by certain groups of men.

The world as we know it does not have one understanding of masculinity. While researching for this episode, we were fascinated to learn that there’s a community of men out there who have bonded over the perception that they are unable to attract women and have therefore labelled themselves victims of gendered oppression.

These are the men branded as ‘Incels’.

On this episode, we tried to make sense of such male victimhood and talked about why certain men hold hostile and violent views towards women and blame women for their low place in the social hierarchy.

We questioned whether this case of male victimhood was a ‘western’ problem or whether traits of this ideology exist within our own culture as Africans. We questioned whether African men also demonstrate male victimhood, possibly in different ways.

One conclusion we couldn’t settle on was whether the idea of male victimhood is a disease with its origins rooted in a dystopia or a symptom of something much deeper that we all have played a part in.

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Wolé and Tobi are back for the sixth season of The Yellow Pill!

Wondering why we changed the name of the podcast? Listen to this episode to hear our back-story!

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