Separate Together

Separate Together

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Separate Together episodes

  • Melissa Goes Back to Law School! (Not Really)

    This week Melissa is in Ottawa attending a conference on Access to Justice and it's been bringing up memories of Law School.

    Melissa gives Cody a crash course on Law School; the intensity, the courses and the friendships made along the way. If Cody was considering Law School before, she may not be now.
    40 min
  • What People Misunderstand about Family Law

    This week Melissa explains to Cody what most people get wrong about Family Law. Unlike say, Criminal Law, Family Law is not punitive. It's not concerned with dissecting a past incident between strangers but rather figuring out how to transform a deeply personal relationship.

    This becomes even more complicated when there are children involved. Melissa explains how quickly things can go south when you go into a divorce or separation looking for validation.

    35 min
  • Can You Have an Ethical Prenup?
    This week Melissa changes Cody's mind about whether or not you can have an ethical prenup. Like so many parts of Family Law, the way we approach the prenup is changing. Melissa explains how the prenuptial agreement can become an empowering document meant to evolve with each family as they structure their intentional life together. By inviting both parties into this process, Melissa them structure a future built on mutual love and compassion.
    42 min
  • Is It Really Possible to Flat Fee When It Comes To Divorce?

    This week Melissa and Cody discuss flat fee services and divorce. One Family Law offers flat fee services, but it requires everyone to come to the table prepared.

    They also discuss what happens when information is missing or emotions take over, and how quickly fees can escalate.

    Ultimately flat fees can offer clients predictability during a very uncertain time, but they require work from all parties.

    40 min
  • Why Do People Wait to Get Divorced?
    This week Cody asks Melissa why so many people wait to actually file for divorce. It seems like people are ok with getting a lot of the big life transitions dealt with but when it comes to actually filing the paperwork the process stalls out. Melissa provides some insight into why this is and how this leaves people vulnerable legally.
    35 min
  • The Legal Lives of Mormon Wives Part 2
    Well, the situation between Taylor and Dakota took a turn so Melissa and Cody decide to focus this episode of the pod on Miranda and Chase, and their (seemingly) healthy coparenting relationship. Melissa highlights what she thinks is the key to a successful coparenting relationship and both Cody and Melissa remark on the 'quiet work' of acceptance and how transformative it can be.
    42 min
  • The Legal Lives of Mormon Wives Part 1
    Melissa and Cody binged the first five episodes of Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and they want to talk about it! How do you coparent when you can't quit each other? How do you put your child first when you're wading through your own parenting trauma. While it may be too early for the law to intervene for Taylor and Dakota and how they approach their situationship it sounds like it's going to be a key player in the other Wives possible separations.
    43 min
  • Kedits Earnest Warning To Tradwives

    This week Cody introduces Melissa to Kathryn Edwards (keds_economist), one of her favourite TikTok creators and a talented economist. They discuss her recent Substack newsletter "My Earnest Warning to Trad Wives".

    Melissa and Cody dive into the nuances of spousal support, and bring in Kathryn's anecdotal wisdom having been raised by an mother who was a Family Law Attorney.

    Both Melissa and Cody ultimately land with Keds that there's not point on pitting Trad Wives against Working Mothers but rather working together to ensure the entire system is working for all kinds of families.

    43 min
  • One Year Later...

    Most clients will sort out their separation agreement and then wait about a year to sign and submit their divorce application. Melissa and Cody talk about the astounding changes they see in their clients after they've spent a year acclimating to their new way of life. A lot can change in a year.

    29 min
  • SAHM Gets Blindsided by Divorce
    This week Melissa and Cody discuss a creator on TikTok who has gone viral for making videos about how she was blindsided by her divorce after being a stay-at-home mom for the last decade. They get into the nuances of spousal support and how it is supposed to function in a divorce or separation. Melissa also highlights the importance of interdependence not codependence in a healthy relationship.
    37 min

About Separate Together

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Separate Together is a podcast about all things divorce. We break down the big legal stuff, the small but crucial details, and everything in between.We're here to show you that divorce doesn't have to…