Episode 282 is about innovation.
Don't judge a book by its cover. When Dave Selinger was an early employee of Amazon, he led the research and development arm of Amazon's data-mining and personalization team. He co-founded Redfin, which helped change the status quo in real estate. Now he has his own company called Deep Sentinel. David is on the autism spectrum but he never let that stop him from living life to its fullest potential - instead, he harnessed what talents and skills came naturally to him. In order to devote time to both work and home life, David makes sure his family gets all of the love they deserve.
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Quick Timestamps
00:06:35 Dave's first computer
00:07:29 Trouble connecting with others
00:11:18 Noticing patterns in my life
00:14:19 Fitting In
00:15:43 Epiphany at 9 years old
00:16:36 High Functioning autism
00:20:44 Social norms and adverse effects
00:23:49 Parental support and issues
00:28:15 Meeting your kids where they are
00:30:34 Dialing in your response rates to people
00:37:46 Leaving college to work for a startup
00:39:51 Definition of loss and failure
00:44:29 Work is important, it's just not everything
00:48:15 I'm going to work my ass off, just won't let it poison my family
00:52:43 Amazing years - working with Jeff Bezos
00:54:13 Joining amazon
00:59:45 Starting Redfin and disrupting the RE market
01:02:47 Encouraging my kids to be engaged with the world
01:05:37 Morning exercise is a budgeting exercise


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❤️ Website: www.deepsentinel.com


Separating from the Inauthentic Identity You Created with Dave Selinger - Episode 282

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- Implementing active listening techniques in your relationship.
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- Communicating your needs and desires more effectively to your partner.
- Handling communication breakdowns in a more productive way.
- Strategies to prevent communication breakdowns from happening in the first place.
- How to incorporate & practice active listening
- How to build upon & strengthen your current communication skills to strengthen your relationship with your partner.


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Effective, Clear, and Powerful Communication with Meredith & Ian Lobas - Episode 312

What you will learn in this episode:

 Strategies for rebuilding physical trust by creating a safe and supportive environment
 Tips for rebuilding financial trust by being transparent and honest about financial matters
  Techniques for establishing clear boundaries and expectations around financial matters
  Setting clear boundaries & Expectations around physical & financial goals. 
  How to ommunicate effectively about what you want from your partner physically. 
  Addressing past traumas & triggers that affect your physical & financial world. 
  Why building intimacy gradually is massively important
  Staying patient with yourself and your spouse as you build the foundations back up. 
  Creating a positive physical environment for you & your spouse to feel safe. 
  How to set clear financial goals together and stick with them. 
  The benefits of creating a joint budget.
  Why practicing transparency will get you farther faster. 
  Set financial expectations & boundaries with each other and honoring your commitments. 
  Getting clear about each others relationship with money and how to help each other grow through it. 
  How to practice regular financial check-ins with your partner. 
  Why celebrating small wins & staying positive is crucial to your foundation & future. 
  Addressing underlying issues quickly and purposefully. 



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Trust Transformed: Resetting Financial and Physical Trust with Your Spouse with Meredith & Ian Lobas - Episode 311

What you will learn in this episode as well as questions to ask yourself and your partner to gain clarity & traction quickly! 



 Ways to rebuild competence trust by improving decision-making and follow-through skills



 What specific decision-making or follow-through skills do you need to work on to rebuild trust in your relationship?

  What specific actions can you take to improve your decision-making and follow-through skills?

  How can you hold yourself accountable to follow through on commitments and decisions?

  How can you communicate your decisions and actions to your partner in a way that builds trust?

  What barriers or challenges might you encounter in rebuilding competence trust, and how can you overcome them?

  What support or resources do you need to successfully rebuild competence trust in your relationship?

  What systems & structure can you put into place to ensure that you will be consistently rebuilding competency & reliability trust?



  Tips for rebuilding communication trust by being honest and transparent with your partner:



  What fears or concerns do you have about being honest and transparent with your partner?

  How can you communicate your feelings and needs in a way that is honest and respectful?

  How can you actively listen to your partner and validate their perspective?

  What specific steps can you take to rebuild trust through honest and transparent communication?

  How can you repair trust if you have been dishonest in the past?

  What role does empathy play in rebuilding communication trust, and how can you cultivate it in your relationship?



  Techniques for improving communication skills and building a deeper understanding of each other's needs and perspectives:



  What communication patterns or habits do you need to change to build a deeper understanding in your relationship?

  How can you actively listen to your partner and seek to understand their perspective?

  How can you express your own needs and feelings in a way that is clear and respectful?

  What techniques can you use to avoid defensiveness and conflict when discussing difficult topics?

  How can you build empathy and understanding for your partner's perspective, even if you don't agree with them?

  What role does self-reflection and self-awareness play in building a deeper understanding in your relationship?




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Restoring & Rebuilding Communication & Competence Trust In Your Marriage with Meredith and Ian Lobas - Episode 310

Rebuilding Emotional & Reliability Trust with Meredith & Ian Lobas - Episode 309

What you will learn in this episode:
- The 6 Trust Types
- How they are broken
- How they can be repaired
- Why you are breaking trust and How to stop repeating the cycle 
- Our story of how we broke and repaired each one of these
- An exercise you can use to start doing the work now!
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Separating from the Inauthentic Identity You Created with Dave Selinger - Episode 282

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