What do you do with grief that has nowhere else to go?
In this episode of Serenity Rising, Bron sits down with Justin Anderson, known to his community as J. Vaelorin, a network engineer turned dark fantasy world builder. After losing his grandmother to cancer, Justin channelled years of unspoken grief into VaelorinVerse, a fantasy universe where mental health is the magic system. This is a conversation about carrying loss forward instead of leaving it behind, and about what becomes possible when grief is finally witnessed.
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In this episode of Serenity Rising, Bron speaks with Justin Anderson, a network engineer from Muncie, Indiana who writes under the name J. Vaelorin. Justin is the founder of Vaelorin Verse, a dark fantasy universe he built from grief that, in his own words, had nowhere else to live.
When Justin's grandmother died of cancer, he insisted on carrying her casket himself and designed her tombstone, writing the inscription Those who are loved will never be forgotten. That line is now tattooed on his arm and sits at the centre of everything he has built since, including an anonymous online memorial wall and a mental health campaign voiced by thirteen different actors giving sound to self doubt.
This conversation moves through the promise Justin made to his grandmother before she died, the choice he made at his lowest point in high school to keep that promise rather than give up on it, and the two doors he now believes lead into grief.
One door is internal, the one where we can say I am grieving, I am sad, I am afraid. The other is external, where grief is processed through what we build, create or do. Justin explains why not everyone, particularly men raised to suppress vulnerability, can walk through the first door straight away, and why that does not mean they are avoiding their grief.
Bron and Justin also talk about anticipatory grief, the grief carried by carers, family members and anyone sitting in a waiting room fearing a loss that has not happened yet.
Justin shares what he wishes someone had told him in that season, and why he built an anonymous memorial wall so people could honour someone they had lost without needing to explain themselves.
Throughout the episode, Bron and Justin return to a theme that runs through Serenity Rising: that gratitude and grief are not opposites. It is possible to be shattered by a loss and, at the same time, grateful for what it built in you.
Your healing matters every day.
In this episode, Bron and Justin explore:
Make every day count friends.
Connect with Justin
Website: https://vaelorinverse.com/
Instagram: @jvaelorin https://www.instagram.com/Jvaelorin
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/vaelorinverse/
Substack: https://substack.com/@jvaelorin
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