My very first guest on the show, Patrick Lee (aka my husband), discuss our very tumultuous 8+ year journey. Conflicts in relationships are normal. But screaming, name calling, and playing the blame game (to name a few) don't make up a healthy relationship. However, these things--and more--are exactly what my husband and I did in our relationship for years. Going from a toxic relationship to a healthy one is not easy. It takes work, a generous amount of time, and a whole lot of patience.