Serves You Right

This episode with Riana Milne MA, CCTP, Global Life & Love Coach goes straight into the emotional architecture behind love, trauma, and patterns we swear we “grew out of.” She explains how childhood environments silently shape adult relationships and why successful, disciplined, high achieving people often crumble the moment emotional intimacy is required.

Riana breaks down the ten core childhood traumas that affect nearly everyone, why some people repeat toxic patterns without noticing, and how to spot the personality traits that lead to heartbreak. She moves through jealousy, anxious attachment, shutting down, perfectionism, love bombing, boundaries, and the difference between chemistry and compatibility.

Expect to Learn

• Why childhood trauma is universal and why most people minimize it
• How early experiences turn into adult fears, triggers, and patterns
• Why you can be fearless at work but terrified at home
• The hidden signs of narcissists, sociopaths, and love bombers
• Why chemistry pulls you toward the wrong people
• The essential qualities every healthy relationship needs
• How to communicate without shutting down or escalating
• How to protect your partner inside service industry environments
• How to date with clarity instead of chaos

Links:

• Riana's Website
• Lessons in Life and Love podcast

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost. Check out the Podcast Website ⁠Here⁠ and get in touch with me!

Classic Episodes You May Like:

• #22:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doug Frost MW MS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #23:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jeffrey Morgenthaler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #31:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ET: Entrepreneur (and creator of Surfer on Acid)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #38:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaron Goldfarb Hunting for Ancient Booze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #39:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Edward Slingerland's Masterful work on Intoxication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #46:⁠⁠⁠Andrew Hurley of Vegas.Wine⁠⁠⁠

As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers

What if happiness isn’t the goal at all?

Dr. Scott Haas joins Serves You Right for a conversation that moves from Tokyo bathhouses to Boston kitchens to the quiet psychology of joy. We talk about what Japan gets right, what Western culture keeps missing, and why true happiness might start where comfort ends. And of course, why sometimes the reverse of all of those are true too!

He reveals how his years inside Michelin-level kitchens became a masterclass in empathy, structure, and chaos management. From chefs who live like artists to the servers who hold the world together, restaurants seem to be the perfect mirror for human life: loud, messy, and full of meaning.

Expect to Learn

• Why chasing happiness makes us miserable
• The Japanese concept of acceptance and belonging
• What kitchens teach us about purpose and community
• How great chefs balance art, ego, and discipline
• Why contradiction, not certainty, might be the key to peace

Links

Scott Haas on Amazon

Why Be Happy?

Back of House

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost. Check out the Podcast Website ⁠Here⁠ and get in touch with me!

Classic Episodes You May Like:

• #22:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doug Frost MW MS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #23:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jeffrey Morgenthaler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #31:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ET: Entrepreneur (and creator of Surfer on Acid)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #38:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaron Goldfarb Hunting for Ancient Booze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #39:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Edward Slingerland's Masterful work on Intoxication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #46:⁠⁠Andrew Hurley of Vegas.Wine⁠⁠

As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers

Most people think hospitality is about smiling and serving. Eddie Heintz says they’re wrong.

He’s the Director of Hospitality at Caymus Vineyards and the author of Making Welcome, a book that blends Buddhist insight, Hawaiian spirit, and hard-earned lessons from decades in fine dining. He believes kindness is a skill, not a trait and, most importantly, that it can be trained, practiced, and measured like any craft.

In this conversation, Eddie reveals how he went from bartending at TGI Fridays to running service at one of Napa’s most celebrated wineries. He talks about the managers who promoted him with no training, the heartbreak that led him to The Four Agreements, and the angry guests who taught him more than any leadership seminar.

We unpack the real definition of hospitality, the power of seeing people when they feel invisible, and why the spirit of aloha changed how he leads teams and lives his life.

Expect to Learn

• Why “you can’t teach hospitality” is a lie
• The difference between service and genuine care
• How Eckhart Tolle and Buddhist practice show up in restaurant life
• The Four Agreements as a management framework
• What to do when a guest melts down
• How to lead people you might need to let go
• Why small kindnesses build real profit

Links

• Get in touch
• His website ()
• His book, Making Welcome   
• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost. Check out the Podcast Website ⁠Here⁠ and get in touch with me!

Classic Episodes You May Like:

• #22:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doug Frost MW MS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #23:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jeffrey Morgenthaler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #31:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ET: Entrepreneur (and creator of Surfer on Acid)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #38:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaron Goldfarb Hunting for Ancient Booze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #39:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Edward Slingerland's Masterful work on Intoxication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #46:⁠Andrew Hurley of Vegas.Wine⁠

As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers

Most people just see a cocktail. Camper English sees centuries of science, danger, and human obsession frozen in a glass.

He’s the author of Doctors and Distillers and The Ice Book, two incredible works full of adventure and fun (and drinks, lots of drinks). In this conversation, we explore what happens when curiosity becomes a full-time profession: why clear ice became a cultural status symbol, how bartenders almost poisoned people in the name of creativity, and what ancient monks knew about medicine that modern science had to rediscover.

Camper breaks down myths about “fancy ice,” reveals the shocking truth about tobacco bitters, and tells stories that connect scurvy, malaria, and gin and tonics in ways that will make you rethink your next drink. We even wander into the strange world of alchemy, where distillation was once seen as the key to immortality.

Camper English has spent nearly two decades turning bartending into a scientific pursuit. From perfecting clear ice to exposing dangerous cocktail trends, his work bridges chemistry, curiosity, and culture. His projects: Alcademics and CocktailSafe have redefined how professionals and home bartenders think about safety, science, and the strange beauty of booze.

Expect to Learn:

• The only real way to make clear ice at home
• Why alcohol was once seen as medicine and magic
• How tobacco bitters nearly killed bar guests and bartenders
• The science behind “directional freezing”
• What alchemy and monks taught us about distillation
• How quinine, scurvy, and malaria shaped modern cocktails
• Why curiosity might be the most important ingredient in any drink

Links:

• Alcademics
• CocktailSafe
• Doctors and Distillers — Camper English
• The Ice Book — Camper English

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost. Check out the Podcast Website ⁠Here⁠ and get in touch with me!

Classic Episodes You May Like:

• #22:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doug Frost MW MS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #23:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jeffrey Morgenthaler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #31:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ET: Entrepreneur (and creator of Surfer on Acid)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #38:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaron Goldfarb Hunting for Ancient Booze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #39:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Edward Slingerland's Masterful work on Intoxication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• #46:Andrew Hurley of Vegas.Wine

As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers

Andrew Hurley is the wine director at Guy Savoy inside Caesar’s Palace: a world famous temple of service where $800 tasting menus and $500 wine pairings are normal nights. But his story isn’t polished. It’s not stuffy, it’s something rare in the wine world: spontaneous, unpolished, and (shocking) fun!

He started bussing tables just to get out of the heat. Now he runs one of the most prestigious wine programs in the country, serving DRCs and Krug to guests who wait a year for a seat. Along the way, he built a social media empire that spans millions of followers watching him open bottles.

As the wine director at Restaurant Guy Savoy in Las Vegas, he curates a massive cellar, leads the majority of guests through multi-course pairings, and somehow finds time to record it all for all his fans online.

This episode dives deep into how Hurley turned everyday service moments into viral art, built trust in a luxury setting without pretense, and taught a generation of servers and aspiring somms that mastery doesn’t mean losing your personality.

Expect to Learn:

• Why he crawled across as a teenage busser, scissors in hand…
• How a random restaurant job turned into a lifelong calling
• The thought behind offering perfect wine pairings
• What it takes to run a world class wine program from the inside
• Why humility is Hurley’s secret weapon in a world of egos and pretense
• How authenticity and social media made him the face of modern wine service

Links:

• Vegas Wine on Youtube
• Vegas Wine on Instagram @vegas.wine
• Vegas Wine on TikTok @vegas.wine 
• Vegas Wine on Facebook
• Court of Master Sommeliers
• Guy Savoy
  

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost. Check out the Podcast Website ⁠Here⁠ and get in touch with me!

Classic Episodes You May Like:

-#22:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doug Frost MW MS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#23:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jeffrey Morgenthaler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#31:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ET: Entrepreneur (and creator of Surfer on Acid)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#38:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaron Goldfarb Hunting for Ancient Booze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#39:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Edward Slingerland's Masterful work on Intoxication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers

Chef Franck Desplechin’s journey defies logic. From a young apprentice in France to executive pastry chef in Hawaii, from Michelin kitchens to building Incrementum, his story is a masterclass in reinvention. He talks about failing forward, learning languages under fire, and turning discomfort into the engine of growth.

This episode dives deep into the psychology of leadership, burnout, and the addiction to fixing what’s broken. Franck reveals how luxury hospitality taught him empathy, how he rebuilt himself outside the kitchen, and why chasing balance is harder than chasing stars.

Expect to Learn:

• How to transform failure into your strongest credential
• Why most “natural leaders” aren’t actually leaders
• The hidden language of world-class hospitality
• How to thrive when you don’t belong anywhere
• The mindset that turns chaos into mastery

Links:

• ChefFranck.com

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost. Check out the Podcast Website ⁠Here⁠ and get in touch with me!

Classic Episodes You May Like:

-#22:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doug Frost MW MS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#23:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jeffrey Morgenthaler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#31:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ET: Entrepreneur (and creator of Surfer on Acid)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#38:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aaron Goldfarb Hunting for Ancient Booze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-#39:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Edward Slingerland's Masterful work on Intoxication⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers