I'm recording this on the way to my first antenatal class of 2026. I'm all for New Year's resolutions, but here's what I care about more: the quality of your relationship with yourself while working towards your goals. We set these black and white objectives without thinking about the cost. Are we already judging the old version of ourselves? Setting ourselves up for shame?

I think about it like driving a kid to their first day of grade one. You wouldn't tell them kindergarten was useless. But that's how we talk to ourselves with resolutions. The road to goals isn't linear. If we've decided the old version is bad, we create constant opportunities to shame ourselves. Find phrases that feel like a supportive parent rooting for you, making it clear you don't have to prove anything to be loved. You're already worthy right now.

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