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Setting Realistic Expectations
Here are some things you need to do to set realistic expectations:
1). Examine The Expectations Of Yourself. You should always strive for growth and improvement, but are your goals planned and executed in small, achievable steps or big unmanageable actions?
Trying to get everything perfectly done all at once will keep you from taking consistent action toward your goal(s). Likewise, it will often leave you feeling depressed and disappointed in your abilities, which will only breed negative self-talk!
Reasonable Expectation: Start walking 30 minutes a day to move toward your weight loss goals.
Unreasonable Expectation: Stressing about losing weight all day, every day and being strict and rigid about what you eat and how often you exercise.
How To Adjust: Begin by taking things one day at a time and not beating yourself up if you fall off the wagon. Also not beating yourself up because you messed up at one meal, here or there. Will the weight fall off all at once? No but it will come off eventually. Your unrealistic self-expectations will only prevent you from dealing with the actual situation and keep you feeling stuck and powerless.
2). Reconsider Your Expectations Of Others. If you go through life trying to decide what everybody in your life, should and shouldn’t be doing you will drive yourself crazy. When we hold expectations of others’ behavior to a higher standard and link it to our own happiness, it’s a huge recipe for disaster.
Reasonable Expectation: You will attend Bible Study twice a week.
Unreasonable Expectation: Everybody in your house should be attending Bible Study with you and attending church all day on Sunday.
How to Adjust: Remember that just because you choose to attend Bible Study twice a week and attend Church all day on Sunday, not everybody needs to and/or wants to do it with you. Mind your business and stop worrying about what other people need to do or not do. Focus on letting them see the new you and your actions will encourage them to change how they live.
3). Release Your Expectations Of Events. Be mindful of putting your expectations into the outcome of events (such as elections). When you put all your hopes and dreams into the outcome of a specific event, you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. Anything that can go wrong, usually will go wrong.
Reasonable Expectation: Going on a date expecting to have a good time, while eating great food and sitting in a relaxing atmosphere.
Unreasonable Expectation: Going on a date because you are looking for marriage and fairytale wedding and happy ending.
How to Adjust: Stay focused on just going out to have fun and not worrying about if you will marry this person or not.
Contact Me:
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/coachchelle
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Here are some things you need to do to set realistic expectations:
1). Examine The Expectations Of Yourself. You should always strive for growth and improvement, but are your goals planned and executed in small, achievable steps or big unmanageable actions?
Trying to get everything perfectly done all at once will keep you from taking consistent action toward your goal(s). Likewise, it will often leave you feeling depressed and disappointed in your abilities, which will only breed negative self-talk!
Reasonable Expectation: Start walking 30 minutes a day to move toward your weight loss goals.
Unreasonable Expectation: Stressing about losing weight all day, every day and being strict and rigid about what you eat and how often you exercise.
How To Adjust: Begin by taking things one day at a time and not beating yourself up if you fall off the wagon. Also not beating yourself up because you messed up at one meal, here or there. Will the weight fall off all at once? No but it will come off eventually. Your unrealistic self-expectations will only prevent you from dealing with the actual situation and keep you feeling stuck and powerless.
2). Reconsider Your Expectations Of Others. If you go through life trying to decide what everybody in your life, should and shouldn’t be doing you will drive yourself crazy. When we hold expectations of others’ behavior to a higher standard and link it to our own happiness, it’s a huge recipe for disaster.
Reasonable Expectation: You will attend Bible Study twice a week.
Unreasonable Expectation: Everybody in your house should be attending Bible Study with you and attending church all day on Sunday.
How to Adjust: Remember that just because you choose to attend Bible Study twice a week and attend Church all day on Sunday, not everybody needs to and/or wants to do it with you. Mind your business and stop worrying about what other people need to do or not do. Focus on letting them see the new you and your actions will encourage them to change how they live.
3). Release Your Expectations Of Events. Be mindful of putting your expectations into the outcome of events (such as elections). When you put all your hopes and dreams into the outcome of a specific event, you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. Anything that can go wrong, usually will go wrong.
Reasonable Expectation: Going on a date expecting to have a good time, while eating great food and sitting in a relaxing atmosphere.
Unreasonable Expectation: Going on a date because you are looking for marriage and fairytale wedding and happy ending.
How to Adjust: Stay focused on just going out to have fun and not worrying about if you will marry this person or not.
Contact Me:
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/coachchelle