Your conversations feel fake.

Empty.

Forced.

You know the feeling:

- Dreading awkward silence

- Giving advice nobody wants

- Wondering why it never lasts more than a minutes?

Here's the truth:

Most people make the same 7 mistakes.

But fix these?

Everything changes.

7 conversation techniques that actually work:

1/ REFLECTIVE LISTENING

SITUATION:

Your friend: "My boss keeps shooting down my ideas"

You: "Just find a new job!"

(Dead end. Conversation over.)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

"Sounds frustrating when your ideas get dismissed. What ideas did you share?"

(Watch them open up)

WHY IT WORKS:

→ Shows you actually heard them

→ Creates instant trust

2/ EMBRACE SILENCE

SITUATION:

Friend pauses mid-sentence...

You: "I think that’s because..."

(You missed their breakthrough moment)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

Count to 3. Stay quiet.

Wait for "...and you know what really bothers me?"

(That's where gold happens)

WHY IT WORKS:

→ People share deeper thoughts in pauses

→ Shows you're listening, not waiting to talk

3/ BE GENUINELY CURIOUS

SITUATION:

Friend: "I'm thinking of starting a business"

You: "In this economy? That's risky..."

(Dreams crushed. Trust broken.)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

"Tell me more about your idea. What inspired this?"

(Watch their energy light up)

WHY IT WORKS:

→ Kills defensiveness instantly

→ People share their real vision

4/ “YES, AND…” RESPONSE

SITUATION:

You: “Yes, but that might not work.”

Instantly shuts down collaboration

(Sounds defensive or dismissive)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

Swap “Yes, but” for “Yes, AND…”

“Yes, and we could also test it with a smaller team first.”

WHY IT WORKS:

→ Keeps momentum positive

→ Turns disagreement into dialogue

5/ THOUGHTFUL QUESTIONS:

SITUATION:

You: "How's work?"

Them: "Fine."

(Conversation dead on arrival)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

"What's the best thing that happened at work this week?"

(Watch how they actually want to answer)

WHY IT WORKS:

→ Makes people think differently

→ Creates real engagement

6/ LET THEM SPEAK

SITUATION:

You: "So this happened, then that happened, and you won't believe what happened next..."

(15 minutes later, still talking)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

Share one point.

Then: "What's your take on this?"

(Create tennis-match rhythm)

WHY IT WORKS:

→ Keeps others engaged

→ Shows you value their input

7/ BODY LANGUAGE

SITUATION:

They are speaking.

You: Half-listening while checking your phone or texting

(Sends a “you don’t matter” signal)

✅ DO THIS INSTEAD:

Lean in, maintain eye contact, match their energy.

(Sends “I’m really interested, tell me more” vibe)

WHY IT WORKS:

→ Creates subconscious alignment

→ People feel truly understood

Try ONE technique tomorrow.

Watch what happens when you stop talking AT people.

Start connecting WITH them.

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