106 - SEX - High libidos, low libidos + mismatched libidos + the 30% rule- Ft. Dr Massimo Fontana

How much sex drive is too much of a sex drive? Do we use orgasms as a release from day to day life? Can you have a problem with too many orgasms? What if your partner whats to have sex and you don’t?Today, we ask you - have you ever stopped to ask WHY you or your partner wants or needs to orgasm, or orgasm so much? It’s a fascinating, often undiscussed question.

In the episode, Louise Rumball and Dr. Massimo Fontana, therapist and sexologist, dive into various aspects of high sex drive the WHY behind your orgasms. They look at:

The dopamine hit of orgasm and the allure of orgasmic escape

Orgasms as coping mechanisms, distractions, connections, and self-soothing techniques

Difference in libidos and the root cause of high and low libidos 

How painkillers and mouthwash might make orgasming harder

Justin Bieber's sex addiction 

The concept of ‘penetration’ and using penetration for validation

Louise also brings Dr. Massimo a question from the community area, The House. They discuss a couple who feel that their sexual intimacy has been limited recently after one of them contracted an STI and they can’t be intimate. The pair delve into *why* that partner are struggling and whether sex can ever be *too* integral for a relationship? ⭐ THE  PLEASURE PLAYBOOK -  ⭐ the ultimate guide to understanding and revolutionising your sex life with Dr. Massimo Fontana & Louise Rumball: purchase here: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/therapy-shop/p/0m17z75cf69di5c3nc90vki0zlkjeq 

⭐ Want more Home Truths, Voice Notes from Lu and bonus content? Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM for weekly bonus episodes, a full back catalogue of episodes, access to our Community Area 'The House,' and our exclusive 'Ask A Therapist' room with guaranteed therapist responses. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/Additional recommended listening:70 - Sex happens in our bodies, so why do we get so damn stuck in our heads?66 - If casual sex traumatizes the f**k out of you, you are not alone - but why? –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumballConnect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcastConnect with Dr Massimo Fontana: @massimo.stochi.fontanaSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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