This is another episode under my series: Sex yes and I wanted love….

In my personal life I never was able to feel anything by being entered by a man in short penetration. Of course, many of you could say, I am frigid. I knew I was not, because I could have all kinds of pleasures while masturbating or being touched on the clitoris.

What brought a total change in to my life, was to understand this truth:

· The full circle of love has a missing piece: PRESENCE. Sex is Not an orgasm driven performance act

I suddenly understood how most of us,  men and woman approach our intimacy: we are  in fantasies, pictures. A "home movie" as I call it nowadays. 

I never understood what I was missing, until I finally experienced it: PRESENCE.

It’s the magic key

And there is another truth in my own sex life: the Clitoral Fatigue… I was hit with that in my personal life too. Maybe it had to do with either getting older or getting more aware.

That meant, I was starting to fake orgasm. 

Yes, I was hit with shame when I realised this, because actually I have not been authentic and honest to myself nor the one I am with. Instead of helping my lover to understand my body better (for that of course I needed to know my body first) and where and how to touch me, I left him in the belief he is amazing.

I like to invite you here to reflect for just a minute with me with these questions and exercise.