Feminine Energy requires strategy AND energy to really shift. It’s like shining up your true inner compass and honouring what you know is true for you.

Becoming magnetic to your life allows you to powerfully step into the person you came here to be, your dharma.

MarLisa and I talk about these 3 questions:

Join me in this conversation with MarLisa. 

I had the honour to be interviewed by Neil Wilkins Communications and we talked about how we can make decisions through love not fear, to reframe our lives.

In my past, I had extensive experience in empowering leaders across the world, with the tools and techniques to become more self-aware, empathic and confident in their abilities.

Nowadays, at the heart of my work,  is the importance of approaching situations and others with heart and love, instead of mind and fear.

Neil and I discuss the fear of failure and how the skill of living with love can be taught and at any time in our lives.

#leadership #decisions #love #fearless #living #working #fear

Leading Your Life from the Heart!

Matt is sharing very vulnerably,  I am asking him questions around these topics:

· Self-sabotage and mistakes affecting his past marriage

· Poor decision in the first place of marriage and he thought he can’t get out of it

· Learning from the divorce, the sabotaging behaviour and what doe he bring forward into the new relationship

· Communication is the key: Men’s difficulty to communicate: What did you learn about communication?

· The importance of Alignment

· Taking ownership vs blaming

Breaking through these walls to create a better relationships. 

Our unconscious definition of love is the source of all pain, lack of love and of all dramatic experiences we manifest in our life when we actually long for love.

When I hit German ground after 40 years being abroad and back to my mother’s home, I heard my inner voice saying: you have still not learnt to be your own number one priority.

Unconditionally.

It hit me hard inside and it hit home.

I had to go deeper and being with my demented mother for almost a year now, gave me a good chance to dig into unhealed wounds.

And then one day, I had a realisation:

My unconscious definition of love was not the same as my conscious definition of love. What I believed love is.

My inner little child had no role model for what unconditional love was.

It’s difficult to recognise exactly what our unconscious definition of love is, since even the definition is unconscious – it has accompanied us from our very early days.

It arose from the relationship to our caretakers, from the interaction of our parents with each other and towards life, since they were our role models.

Our unconscious definition of love is the source of all pain, lack of love and of all dramatic experiences we manifest in our life when we actually long for love.

However, I realised, that  In the end,  our unconscious definition of love manifested in our daily life experiences is actually helping us to experience unconditional love.

If we would only recognise it!

Listen to this podcast to wake up to your unconscious definition of love, which keeps repeating our painful experiences.

Love is the physical, emotional, sexual, intellectual, or social affection one person holds for another. Intimacy is achieved when we become close to someone else and are reassured that we are loved and accepted for who we are.

Children usually develop intimacy with parents and peers. As adults, we seek intimacy in close relationships with other adults, friends, family, and with a partner. Intimacy is a close relationship where mutual acceptance, nurturance, and trust are shared at some level.

Alexandra Kreis invited me to her podcast Outer Travel - Inner Journey to talk about love and intimacy.

I love talking to young people and open their feelings about love and intimacy. My heart's calling is to raise awareness on the necessary conversations about sexuality between parents and their children. And to establish deep trust, openness, and vulnerability between parents and their offspring.

In this podcast, I also discuss feminism, masculinity, authentic feelings, and parents’ role to their children about what love and sexuality are or can be.

When you encourage conversations about feelings, friendships, and family relationships, it can help your child feel confident to talk about teenage relationships in general. If your child knows what respectful relationships look like in general, they can relate this directly to romantic relationships.

Conversations like this hope to make your child feel more comfortable sharing feelings with parents even as they start to get romantically interested in others. 

And there’s a lot more direction than this can go: treating other people kindly, breaking up kindly, and respecting other people’s boundaries.

How?

Stop pleasing others!

Are you concerned of being liked by everyone?

Are you worried about what others may think of you?

Saying “yes” to all of others people’s requests so they find you cool?

That is pleasing!

A blueprint protection Survival Strategy learnt as a child to get love, to belong, to feel safe!

At what costs?

You are living  cut off from your TRUE Self!

Your authentic Self!

You may never feel heard or seen. That is one cost.

Or feeling overwhelm, maybe even taking for granted for. Or even feeling others take advantage of you?

The worst scenario is being involved in constant problems and struggles in relationships.

All signs of living unauthentically.

Step out

Step up for yourself ️

Invest in Your Authentic Life!

Trust the process.

Trust you are able to live life EVEN if:

- some people think the way they want about you - so what?

- some friends fall away... (wondering if they were true friends anyway)

- Not everyone likes you

Only true authenticity allows the beauty of deep relating and intimacy.

PS If you don’t know what I am talking about or how to get there, reach out to me. Always happy to have a free first chat).

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I am not sorry to make this sharp statement.

It’s time we wake up.

Over and over I witness women in relationships and marriages where there is hardly any intimacy and if, it is fast. They also know their men watch porn and often they wake up noticing their partner is masturbating.

AND they feel bad, guilty: I am not doing it good enough for him,  I am not attractive enough.

Do you recognise this?

If you do, maybe you have never spoken it out. Most women I speak to, they haven’t ever spoken about this deep pain.

It’s breaking my heart over and over again.

How can we wake up and get out of this loop of not knowing what real intimacy is?

When do we stop making Sexuality a Taboo when it is all over the place, but no-one really dares to speak about it.

The most beautiful experience we can have here in 3D form is intimacy in full presence in full body experience and love. The most beautiful journey and yet we have no clue how to get there.

Women, we need to wake up to be able to lead men to presence.

We owe this to our future generations to come, our children.

Wake up to a hidden belief  “to make it best for him”!

Men, become conscious of what it does to women, when you enter her being in thoughts, or in fantasies or in any performance issues.

AND: Become aware of what porn really does to you. To us!

Making love without presence is like a rape.

It is so harmful, people can’t even think how harmful it really is.

I invite you to wake up to make love with presence, care and deep connection.

Sometimes I can't see in my relationship.

I have no idea what to do.

That is leadership.

Self-leadership.

The only way I have found which works for me is Conscious RE- CONNECTION to my innate navigation tools.

What do I mean by this?

And then we get so attached to these stories, they not only become our truth, our reality, they start forming our identity.

Most of the time, these stories have made us victims in one form or the other.

I like to share some of mine so you get the idea of what I am talking about, because we all have our ‘stories’ and we even remember our emotions perfectly. Our stories create our personality.

It is absurd that one moment of our life affects us so much.

The first story:

I was abandoned at age 2 in an orphanage.......

Do you recognise a moment in your life you felt alone?

Who did you decide to become in this moment and what did you give up in order to live into this story?

Find out more here.