“When women don’t have a voice, everyone loses. When women don’t feel safe, they don’t want to have sex."

When I read these words, I suddenly remembered the pain I felt in the lovemaking with my two partners, I lived together. Maybe it started with my first relationship, but how ignorant was I then?

The pain became obvious in my first marriage. I felt not listened. I felt not asked.

I look back and I look at the presence. How much has really changed in the way we approach each other sexually or in the lovemaking?

LOVE is what we most care for.

Do we CONSCIOUSLY take time for it ?

And as Dave Booda writes: “ … we start playing games to coerce each other to get something we both already wanted in the first place. Welcome to the insanity of today’s culture.”

A young man asked me this today and he added: “..and they keep them hidden!!”

We got so many different choices nowadays: monogamy, open, free, polyamorous…which we are able to choose. 

So why hidden?

Because even having these choices, all of them can bring a lot of pain and confusion, if you are not prepared for it.

And what has Eros to do with it?

Eckhart Tolle wrote:

“Relationships aren’t here to make us happy – for true happiness lies within.

Love gives us the incredible opportunity to grow beyond anything we ever believed is possible.  Intuitively we know it holds a key to our expansion, because it has the profound capacity to bring out the best and worst in us. However, we have not yet fully understood. Most couples give up when the "shit hits the fan".  Now with Corona, the number of people who wish to divorce has risen immensely. 

When it comes to romance, the most significant misperception we suffer from is the idea that love is the sensation you experience when you *think* you’ve met the person of your dreams. But that is not love. That is a mix of chemicals firing off and expectations being met. It is a biological high combined with a psychological idea of what this new relationship could mean for your potential happiness. Neither of those things are really love.

Love is something you create, not an emotion. Many people fall in love, but few know how to develop it into something that lasts.

Being in love is not a feeling, but instead a consistent display of actions, followed by words and experiences that two people share with each other.

Love is connection

Eckhart Tolle wrote:

“Relationships aren’t here to make us happy – for true happiness lies within. They’re here to make us profoundly conscious. To break us, to humble us, to make us whole again.”

Love gives us the incredible opportunity to grow beyond anything we ever believed is possible.  Intuitively we know it holds a key to our expansion, because it has the profound capacity to bring out the best and worst in us. However, we have not yet fully understood. Most couples give up when the "shit hits the fan".  Now with Corona, the number of people who wish to divorce has risen immensely.

When it comes to romance, the most significant misperception we suffer from is the idea that love is the sensation you experience when you *think* you’ve met the person of your dreams. But that is not love. That is a mix of chemicals firing off and expectations being met. It is a biological high combined with a psychological idea of what this new relationship could mean for your potential happiness. Neither of those things are really love.

Love is something you create, not an emotion. Many people fall in love, but few know how to develop it into something that lasts.

Being in love is not a feeling, but instead a consistent display of actions, followed by words and experiences that two people share with each other.

Love is connection

How can the knowledge of it be beneficial for your relationship?

We usually give love as we like to receive it.

What is your way to love?

And how can you turn this love into your biggest gift?

We learn how to get love from early on, unconsciously.

These become our patterns and they get engrained in us.

And we continue to use these in our adult life.

Do you know yourself?

Do you know who you are?

Do you know what you really want

And what your values are?

Because if you don’t know yourself, how do you know what you are looking for in the other?

One of the best ways to empower yourself is to learn to set healthy boundaries.

Is Restlessness something new?

How often have I personally doubted where is the path, where to focus on, which decision to take professionally or personally.

And my mind just wanted to know, wanted security.

I am sure you know what I am talking about.

Now, the restlessness is about “When can we go back to our normal life? Socialise again?”

And with any restlessness, we need to try to get out of our head.

How do I do it?  

Maybe it serves you too.

It’s truly the most sincere question I can ask myself.

There is so much miscommunication in relationships.

So much based on hurt, blame and false perceptions.

All blame, judgement and resentment are based on false perceptions of our ego and do not come from our true self.

If we have NOT been releasing hurt, nor judgement, we go into PROJECTING. 

This is the perfect timing for finally raising our awareness our consciousness to who we are and what we do. What is not healed, what needs to be healed.