When you haven’t been able to resolve hurt, - of which I spoke the days before -  we go into judgement.

We want to feel superior, better, we want to prove, we are right.

When there is judgement there is no connection.

We stop listening.

We loose respect.

That is the moment when we use words or making decisions which lead to heart broken-ness.

So how to get out of judgement when we all just want the same thing: 

Being heard, being seen. 

We want to matter. We want validation.

The acknowledgement of our inner child is so important in the subject of love.

I spoke about hurt and how Hurt played out in relationships is killing them.

Why?

Because, the inner child is still alive in us.

Most of human adults are not aware of this when acting out their shame, their neglect, their hurt and abandonment they suffered as a child.

In this episode I show you how to take care of "hurt". 

This Episode includes a meditation, so please do not listen to it while driving. 

There are 3 stages of disconnection which make our relationships fail

Hurt is the first one.

How do we deal with hurt when we feel terribly triggered?

Video link here: https://youtu.be/v0DRX_S-Zp4

Relationships fail because we disconnect.

And how do we disconnect and why? 

There are 3 stages of disconnection. 

We all wish for deeper, longer lasting connection in our intimate relations and often wonder how to create such space.

How does a complaining partner affect you?

What does complaining actually do to us?

I like to invite you to check how, when and where do you complain?

Become aware, especially in this time of lock-down.

When we meet s.o. who could become a friend or lover, we feel vulnerable and nervous at first.

When we feel a stronger attraction, that is when we get really afraid.

We pick and choose whom we want to open emotionally because we are so afraid to choose wrong.

Yet that choice is based on insecurity and distrust from begin with. That is how we start our love - / relationships.

Therefore that kind of love is never reliable.

Is your mind non-stop busy?

You got difficulties to concentrate?

Unsure which decision to take?

Coming out of our mind is the basic step for love and relationship.

Imagine a child is trying to drive a car. 

What is the potential outcome?  An accident. 

In the same way the "accident" can happen within relationships if we do not "secure" our own inner child.  Soothing one self, soothing your inner child, really taking care of one own’s triggers,  is the one of the basis for love, for Self-Love and the basis for healthy relationships. 

It is easy. I show you how you can achieve it.

You may feel the world is against you,  you may feel alone and overwhelm.  Or maybe you're  having issues with your partner, family or with work. Everything seems to mount up… 

How to reach a new perspective?

 What to do right now? 

How to access again your inner wisdom and to become calm and true to Self again?