To celebrate the New Year, Ella Boleynn explores the process of finding yourself after leaving the church. Join Ella as she explores the most important goal that every ExMormon should have -- getting in touch with who they really are. Topics discussed include:

Meet Angie, an ally betrayed. Angie has been distanced from the church for awhile, but her now ex-husband was deeply embedded, serving as a bishop in their ward and working for years as a therapist with LDS Family Services. He blamed her faith transition and her lack of interest in sex for the problems in their marriage and never spoke up in support the many times she loudly took issue with the church’s stances on homosexuality. So imagine her surprise when her husband of 23 years told her he wanted a divorce — coming out of the closet and confessing to years of infidelity in one roller coaster of an evening.

Listen as Angie goes back through the events of that evening and the painful episodes before and after that led to her newfound freedom. As a longtime ally, her pain is a particularly poignant reminder of the collateral damage caused to so many spouses of those who are closeted.

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The Mormon church has been undergoing a massive rebranding effort ever since 2018 when they literally updated the style guide to stop referring to themselves as Mormons. The changes have been pervasive.

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Celebrate the fact that Ella is no longer bound by the mistake of a temple marriage with an in-depth discussion of her temple trauma, exclusion in LDS temple sealings, the insidious nature of endowment timing, why people repress doubt, and rebuilding your authentic self after leaving the church.

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I wasn’t planning on releasing an episode this week, but I couldn’t stop thinking about how many of you are facing holiday celebrations that are anything but comfortable. This brief episode is for you. I’m proud of you for breaking free, and this holiday, I hope you find the peace and joy you deserve.

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A discussion of sexual repression, masturbation, confession, and wasted intelligence.

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Sit in as Ella Boleynn interviews Stephanie Taylor, author of Silenced in the Name of God. In this interview exploring her new book, Stephanie opens up about abuse, making her own support, and finally speaking out. Other topics discussed include healing after trauma, the church’s toxic doctrines on forgiveness, the power of anger to motivate creation and change, and the importance of finding joy.

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Stephanie’s website: StephanieTaylor.net

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Join Ella Boleynn in a discussion of how sexual repression breeds harm.

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I’m watching them prepare for missions, church schools, the temple, and marriage, and I just can’t stay silent any longer. Find the shareable version of “An Open Letter to the Primary Kids I Taught Who Are Now Grown” on the blog at: https://livinginretrospect.com/to-primary-kids-i-taught/

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