Well, today we’re being really open and honest with you.

We want you to know:

- We argue with our partners.

- We use the 4 Horsemen at times.

- We get emotionally flooded and overreact.

- We get triggered and lash out at our partners because of past experiences in our relationship or childhood.

We do these things because we’re human beings having an imperfect experience of life.

However, we have mastered a critical skill:

Repair.

When a disagreement goes south, the fallout does not last for days or even hours. We take space, are responsible for calming ourselves down, and then reconvene with our partners to explain, apologize, and move forward from the situation.

This is key.

How you handle conflict just needs to be “good enough,” not perfect.

You need to have a good enough balance in your emotional bank account, a good enough point at which you stop an escalating argument, good enough strategies to calm yourself down, and a good enough habit around initiating and accepting repair attempts.

And you need a partner who is invested in doing these things good enough, too.

Be sure to listen to this week’s episode to hear our latest not-so-pretty conflict stories and learn more about how we resolved them.