Shalom Sessions

On today's episode, Osheta and Cara talk to their favorite literary matchmaker, Anne Bogel, the mind behind the What Should I Read Next podcast and Modernmrsdarcy.com. She has a created a fabulous Summer Reading Guide, which is her sixth summer reading guide that she has created. She tells Osheta and Cara what they should read next for the Shalom Book Club.

Reminder!

Osheta and co-hosts are going to take the summer off. Starting July 19 through September 1, the podcast will be on break. The podcast will resume in the fall, with "Shalom Sessions" focusing on the Shalom Sistas' Manifesto.

Want to be on the podcast?

Osheta is going to do a deep dive on the Shalom Sistas' Manifesto this fall and we have an exciting opportunity for you to be a part of the show. Osheta is going to host conversations with Shalom Sistas around all twelve points of her Shalom Sistas' Manifesto and she would love to talk to YOU about it! So if you have a question about the Manifesto, this is your opportunity to have Osheta give you curated Shalom Steps for you in your context. Just complete the following survey and someone from the team will be in contact soon.

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Links mentioned in the episode:

Modern Mrs Darcy Summer Read Guide

Shalom Sistas Facebook Hangout! Come to Camp Shalom Sista!

When Dimple Met Rishi

The Almost Sisters

Osheta's Episode on "What Should I Read Next"

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On this episode of My Sistas' Keeper, Abby and I discuss how to hopefully resist the spirit of despair when talking about race, specifically on social media. We share our honest, raw emotions about the Philando Castile verdict and the killing of Charleena Lyles. We also discuss Scripture about despair and respond to listener questions about to respond to race-related tragedies and police brutality:

How should Shalom Sistas talk to their children, students, etc., about these events?

What should a Shalom Sista do if her church is silent in the face of injustice?

How can white Shalom Sistas be allies right now?

Is there a way for Shalom Sistas to engage with their local police departments to talk about racial profiling, etc.?

How can Shalom Sistas leverage whatever platform they have (blog, community office, leadership position, ministry, relationships) to shed light on these tragedies and say what needs to be said?

What are you longing to hear spoken or named--what do you think God is longing to hear spoken or named from pulpits?

We mention:

• Trust talks: http://www.trusttalks.org/

• The documentary 13th

• • View it here.

  • "But if you dismiss black complaints of mistreatment by police as being completely rooted in our modern context, then you're missing the point completely. There has never been a period in our history where the law and order branch of the state has not operated against the freedoms, the liberties, the options, the choices that have been available to the black community, generally speaking. And to ignore that racial heritage, to ignore that historical context, means that you can't have an informed debate about the current state of blacks and police relationship today, 'cause this didn't just appear out of nothing. This is the product of a centuries-long historical process. And to not reckon with that is to shut off solutions." - Kevin Gannon on 13th

• Diversifying your children's books

• Reading about the history of black and brown people in America

• • http://www.scrapingraisins.com/2016/07/70-race-resources-for-white-people/

  • https://electricliterature.com/34-books-by-women-of-color-to-read-this-year-581eda906a76

  • http://www.refinery29.com/2017/02/141801/best-books-by-black-female-authors

  • http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/10-new-books-by-women-writers-of-color-to-add-to-your-must-read-list_us_58b49a75e4b060480e0b1184

• Prayer: "The Death of Someone Killed in the Neighborhood"

Want more Shalom in your life? Follow Shalom in the City on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest @shalominthecity. You can find me, Osheta Moore, on Twitter @osheta, Instagram @oshetam and Pinterest. Abby is on Facebook @AbbyJoyAndersonPerry, on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest @abbyjperry and online at joywovendeep.com.

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Today I sit down with my co-host Jerusalem to talk about FOMO, Benedictine Monastic traditions, learning to love the life you have, and husband who are weary of our BIG ideas. She just released her second book, "At Home in this Life: Finding Peace at the Crossroads of Unraveled Dreams and Beautiful Surprises" and it's amazing. Take a listen and come on over to the Shalom Sista Facebook page to tell us which of the three Benedictine Vows resonate most with you as you seek shalom in your home!

"At Home in this Life is the story of how everything I thought would make me happy came undone, and how I then found a way to make myself at home in this beautiful, messy, amazingly tender, completely unbalanced life, by imperfectly practicing one spiritual discipline at a time—smack in the middle of raising kids, mending the sweaters and burning the bread. It's the story of how I finally realized that the "problem" with my life was not my house, my job, or my marriage, my problem was me. Only a Conversion of life - a Transformation of spirit and heart - would help. So I jumped, with both feet, into an experiment where I tried to follow God's leading instead of my plan, an experiment that resulted in a lot of fits and false starts, gut-level honesty and true change. Beautiful, messy, chaotic, daily… this is the story of how I learned to make myself at home in my life."

Shalom Steps:

1: Choose a Benedictine Vow To Work On

2: Create Spaces to Listen

3: Curate Your Life

Check out:

The At Home in this Life Curated Collection - Handmade Items from Peacemaking Women Inspired by At Home in this Life by Jerusalem Jackson Greer

Watering the Ground Beneath Our Feet,

In episode 35 we're having the Shalom Book Club, where Cara and I discuss Anne Lamott's latest book, Hallelujah Anyway. We talk about what we mean when we speak or dream of mercy, and we look at differences between Lamott's definition of mercy and a biblical definition of mercy. Finally, we get REAL with our own stories of mercy, and offer four Shalom Steps to help you rediscover mercy, too. As per the usual, you can connect with Cara on her blog, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and you can connect with Osheta on her blog, "Shalom in the City", Facebook, and you can see Osheta rocking lots of yellow on Instagram.

Happier Podcast: Choose your Signature Color

Traveling Mercies by Anne Lamott

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott

Join us in the Shalom Sista Facebook Hangout for Cara's turkey burger recipe.

Shalom Book Club Survey

Singing Hallelujah Anyway as my practice of Shalom,

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On this episode of My Sistas' Keeper, Abby and I discuss how to hopefully resist the spirit of defensiveness when talking about race, specifically on social media. We consider some practical ways to emulate Jesus' posture toward others described in 1 Peter 2:23, "When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly."

We also discuss the terms backfire effect and confirmation bias, and engage listener comments and questions such as how to know when to enter into an online conversation, when to just keep scrolling, and how to encourage offline extensions of online dialogu

We mention:

• The nonprofit organization Abby works for, His Grace Foundation, which serves patients and families on the Bone Marrow Transplant Unit of Texas Children's Hospital: www.hisgracefoundation.org

• The Beautiful Creatures book series: http://thenovl.com/BeautifulCreatures

• The Backfire Effect as described in a comic strip: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe

• Confirmation Bias: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-choice/201504/what-is-confirmation-bias

• Books Lists

• • http://www.scrapingraisins.com/2016/07/70-race-resources-for-white-people/

  • https://electricliterature.com/34-books-by-women-of-color-to-read-this-year-581eda906a76

  • http://www.refinery29.com/2017/02/141801/best-books-by-black-female-authors

  • http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/10-new-books-by-women-writers-of-color-to-add-to-your-must-read-list_us_58b49a75e4b060480e0b1184

• The Turner House by Angela Flournoy: http://www.nationalbook.org/nba2015_f_aflournoy.html#.WRyYkRPyuRs

Want more Shalom in your life? Follow Shalom in the City on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest @shalominthecity.You can find me, Osheta Moore, on Twitter @osheta, Instagram @oshetam and Pinterest. Abby is on Facebook @AbbyJoyAndersonPerry, on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest @abbyjperry and online at joywovendeep.com.

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Hey Sistas!

On today's book club episode, Cara and Osheta talked about ONE by Deidra Riggs.

They discuss the history of women in the church and the current conflict over the last couple of weeks on Twitter, and they also share our histories of being a woman in the church. They also talk about whether to keep or discard the book, and invite you to join in reading Hallelujah Anyway by Anne Lamott.

*Jerusalem's Instagram challenge

*Join the Shalom Sistas Hangout on Facebook

*Go see Everything, Everything with a Sista!

*ONE: Unity in a Divided World by Deidra Riggs

*Explanation of complementarian vs. egalitarian - or choose a third way like Osheta (and, as this article suggests)

*CT Women article, "Who's in Charge of the Christian Blogosphere?"

*Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey

*Read Hallelujah Anyway by Anne Lamott with us in May!

*Connect with Cara: on her blog, Facebook, Twitter or Instagram

*Connect with Osheta: Shalom in the City, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram

Join the Shalom Sista Facebook Hangout

Help a Sista find the show...leave a review for the show on iTunes here.

Happy Reading and Shalom Seeking,

Osheta

Won't You Be My Neighbor?

What Mr. Roger's can teach us about peacemaking in our communities when we feel divided.

Today we're going to use neighborliness to practice hopeful resistance in the face of division. Wanna know what that means? It's a really great episode and I hope you take a listen:

Three Lessons of Neighborliness from Mr. Rogers

Welcoming - Assuming a posture of neighborliness

• Mr. Roger's did this when he changed from his "work" clothes to his comfy clothes. How do we create body language that is comfy, welcoming, neighborly
• Remember Nathan's habit of greeting people by name
• Shalom in the home - music on, sitting on the couch - no phone or book,

Learning - Going into community to learn about those in the community.

• Mr. Roger's always went to into the community to learn about peoples work
• Frequent small businesses especially ones that might be off your regular radar
• Ask questions
• Volunteer
• Shalom in the Home - teach kids to ask questions instead of making assumptions

Land of Make Believe

• Mr. Roger's used the Land of Make Believe to teach understanding
• Storytelling is so important - read, watch movies, go to plays, listen to music that are outside your norm
• Do these things with your kids - watch travel shows, children's books about other cultures, eat in restaurants where you are the minority

Resources:

Falling Free by Shanna Martin

Strangers at My Door by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

The World According to Mr. Rogers

TV Shows

Blackish, Fresh off the Boat, The Real O'Neals, Speechless

Chef's Table,

Customer Service Shalom

http://theartofsimple.net/customer-service-shalom/

Mr. Roger's Neighborhood Sharing Episode

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOS5pcStP0E

For Kids:

Everybody Cooks Rice

Follow Jerusalem:

You can always visit Jerusalem at http://jerusalemgreer.com

Join the Facebook Hangout Here:

Won't You Be My Shalom-y Neighbor,

Osheta and Jerusalem

Hey Sistas,

Join Abby Perry and me for our second episode of My Sista's Keeper: Shalom in the City's Monthly Conversation on Race and Unity. This month we're exploring the idea of hopefully resisting division.

When it comes to racial reconciliation conversations, what words seem to make us aware of division unlike any other? You got it, race/racism/racist. As challenging as those words are to discuss, we think it's worth it to really press in to what they mean in order to have a common, working definition as we go forward. So, on this episode, we're diving deep and getting all kinds of uncomfortable as we look at how race and racism operate in the world today. And we promise you, every word we say and question we ask - it's all in the name of peacemaking.

We'll be honest with you, this episode had us pretty sweaty! We share stories, ask questions, and speak truths that we are confident are necessary for bringing about true Shalom in racial reconciliation. It's a deep one, but we think it's a good, too.

We want to know what you thought about this episode and what this conversation has you thinking about: Come join us on Facebook at the Shalom Sistas' Hangout and share your thoughts!

Read: White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack, by Peggy Macintosh

Join us for the Shalom Book Club this month as we read Deidra Riggs' One: Unity in a Divided World. Invite a local friend to join you! Click here for a discounted copy of "One".

Christena Cleveland

Christena Cleveland is a social psychologist, public theologian, author and professor. She is the first Associate Professor of the Practice of Reconciliation at Duke University's Divinity School and the author of Disunity in Christ: Uncovering the Hidden Forces that Keep Us Apart.

Connect with Christena on her site:

christenacleveland.com (note Christena is spelled)

You can follow Christena on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook

For my White Sistas:

Attend one event this month where people who do not look like you will be. So, maybe visit a black church, go to the library in a predominately black community, visit a black history museum.

For my Black Sistas:

Pick one white friend you have who has shown interest in this conversation and pray for her. Pray that God gives her courage, that he gives you compassion, and that he provides opportunities for you both to talk about your experiences with race.

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Today on the show, I'm chatting with Katherine Willis Pershey, pastor, storyteller, raconteuse and one of my new favorite authors. Her book, "Very Married" is my favorite marriage resource... ever!

Today's episode is what happens with two marriage geeks sit down and chat! We talk about living wholeheartedly in our marriage, what happens when one of us get has a crush, what is our responsibility to seek justice for those on the margins who desire whole and healthy marriage, and how we're choosing to befriend the things our husbands do that we don't love as an act of hopeful resistance in our marriage.

It's a really great conversation and I hope you listen.

Links we mention in the episode:

Hot Bean Water

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How to Find Katherine Online

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Shalom and Untying Knots in my Marriage

Hey Sistas,

Join Cara Meredith and I as we discuss "The Sun is Also a Star" by Nicola Yoon. With our theme of Hopeful Resistance in mind, we talk through some of the tough issues (young love, college admission, and deportation) that Daniel and Natasha face.

From Amazon: Natasha: I'm a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. I'm definitely not the kind of girl who meets a cute boy on a crowded New York City street and falls in love with him. Not when my family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won't be my story. Daniel: I've always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents' high expectations. Never the poet. Or the dreamer. But when I see her, I forget about all that. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us. The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true? In this episode Cara and I invite you to a fun night out,ask ourselves how we can tell better stories, have a brief debate on the correct pronunciation of Nicola's name (spoiler alert...we both think we're right)! Speaking of spoilers, this episode is full of spoilers so listen accordingly, Sistas! Also, we read an excerpt from the show, so there's one cussword, so heads up! Want more Shalom in your life? Follow Shalom in the City on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest @shalominthecity. Come join us on Facebook at the Shalom Sistas' Hangout. You can find me, Osheta Moore on Twitter @osheta, Instagram @oshetam and Pinterest. Cara is on Facebook @bemamabecarameredith, on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest @caramac54 and online at carameredith.com