Hear the story behind the name Share the Pants and what it actually means inside Nicole and Joel's marriage.

They talk about wanting a traditional courtship: chivalry, planned dates, clear pursuit, and intentionality without building a marriage around rigid gender roles or power struggles.

They also revisit the early dating moments that shaped their dynamic: Nicole breaking her own rules and asking Joel out, Joel telling her he wasn’t dating anyone else, Nicole admitting she still was, and the honest conversation that eventually helped them decide what they were building together.

In this episode, they unpack:

• Why traditional dating and traditional marriage are not the same thing
• How they handled different dating styles before becoming exclusive
• What sharing the pants looks like in real life
• Why healthy partnership doesn’t always mean 50/50
• How to build a relationship dynamic that actually fits both people

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t fit neatly into one relationship box — too romantic to be fully modern, too independent to be fully traditional — this episode will help you think about love, leadership, partnership, and compatibility in a more honest way.

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Our first listener question comes from a woman who's been with her boyfriend for 9 years and is wondering if she's wasting her twenties waiting for a proposal. 

In this episode, Nicole and Joel unpack one of the most common relationship conundrums:  How do you know if you're patiently waiting...or being strung along? 

They discuss:

• Why the length of a relationship isn't always the biggest red flag
• The difference between patience and moving the goalposts
• Why bringing up marriage isn't "pressure"
• How family history can influence someone's views on commitment
• Why love alone isn't enough to build a healthy, lasting marriage

 If you've ever questioned whether to keep waiting, start the conversation, or finally walk away, this episode will give you a fresh perspective on commitment—and the confidence to trust your own timeline. 

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If you think every breakup is a failure, this episode might change your mind.

We're diving into season four of Love on the Spectrum:  from Tyler's unforgettable Christmas-in-July proposal that had us both sobbing to the heartbreaking breakups that reminded us why love isn't enough.

Along the way, we unpack what these couples can teach us about compatibility, communication, vulnerability, love languages, and why sometimes the healthiest relationship decision is to let each other go.

Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or simply obsessed with Love on the Spectrum, this conversation is about much more than reality TV. It's about what healthy love really looks like.

Topics we cover:

• Tyler's proposal and the thoughtful details that made it unforgettable
• What Connor and Georgie's relationship teaches about feeling unseen
• Why Abby and David's breakup was the right decision
• Love languages, unmet needs, and communicating before resentment builds
• Why ending the wrong relationship is an act of love, not failure

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If you've ever said, "The apps are trash," you're not alone. As a dating coach, Nicole hears it every day. And while dating apps can absolutely be frustrating, she and her husband, Joel, met on Bumble.  They believe modern dating gets blamed for the wrong problem.

In this episode, they compare the male and female experience of online dating, share what it was really like dating before they met each other, and explain why rejection, unrealistic expectations, and quick assumptions make dating feel harder these days.

You'll also hear:

• Why men and women often think they have it worse on dating apps
• The surprising "red flag" Joel got judged for
• Why you shouldn't spend weeks messaging before meeting in person
• How to build resilience instead of burning out
• Why the dating app is just a vehicle to get you on the date, not the place to build the relationship

Whether you're exhausted by modern dating, thinking about deleting the apps, or trying to figure out why finding a healthy relationship feels so difficult, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective and a little hope that your person might still be one swipe away.

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Welcome to the very first episode of Share the Pants!

When dating coach Nicole Powers started swiping and chatting on dating apps for her clients, the internet gave her an unexpected nickname: "The Catfish Coach."

In this episode, Nicole and her husband, Joel, explain what she actually does and how a simple idea turned into one of the most unique dating coaching businesses online.

But this episode is about more than dating apps.

You'll also hear:

• Why Joel inspired Nicole to become a dating coach
• How their relationship changed the direction of her business
• Why Joel has become Nicole's secret weapon when evaluating men and dating situations
• What makes their perspectives on love, dating, and healthy relationships so different and why that combination is the foundation of this podcast

Whether you're single, dating, happily partnered, or just fascinated by relationships, this episode will introduce you to the kind of conversations you can expect every week on Share the Pants.

In this episode:

• Why Nicole gets called the “Catfish Coach”
• What she actually does when she swipes and chats for clients
• How Joel feels about Nicole swiping for clients
• Why Joel became Nicole’s secret weapon
• What listeners can expect from Share the Pants

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Hosted by dating coach Nicole Powers and her husband, Joel Everitt.

Share the Pants is a podcast about love and relationships.

Whether you're happily partnered, single-as-a-pringle, cautiously curious, or somewhere in between, you're welcome here.

Subscribe now and join us for honest conversations, plenty of laughs, a few disagreements and our take on this crazy little thing called love.

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