There’s a reason the windshield in your vehicle is bigger than the rearview mirror: where you’re going needs more of your attention than where you’ve been.

Too many men are trying to move forward while constantly staring backward. They’re still living under the weight of an old failure, addiction, divorce, crime, rejection, broken relationship, abuse, or something they deeply regret.

This episode has a particularly strong message for men who feel trapped by failure, addiction, broken relationships, incarceration, or simply years of bad decisions.

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Podcast, Tom talks about one of the most important truths a man can understand: your past may explain where you’ve been, but it does not have to determine where you’re going.

2 Corinthians 5:17 says that if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature. That isn't positive thinking or simply believing in yourself. Our hope is in Jesus Christ, and genuine newness is possible in Him.

Following Jesus doesn't magically erase the consequences of yesterday. Broken trust may take time to rebuild. Damaged relationships may take time to heal. Some consequences may remain. But you can still make a different decision today.

You can become dependable.
You can become sober.
You can become honest.
You can become faithful.
You can become responsible.
You can become patient.

You don't have to spend the rest of your life proving everybody's negative opinion of you correct.

Today's Challenge: Identify one thing from your past that is still controlling a decision you're making today. Then ask yourself: If my past didn't get to make this decision, what would obedience to God look like today?

Then do that.

One decision. One act of obedience. One step forward.

Join Us Saturday - If this message hits close to home, there is a chair for you at the Sharpening Men Breakfast.

We meet every Saturday at 9:00 a.m. in the back building/fellowship hall at Ruddle Road Church of God, 1400 S. Ruddle Rd., Blytheville, AR 72315.

The breakfast is completely FREE and open to men age 18 and older.

Whether your story includes addiction, jail, divorce, failure—or maybe you simply know you're not yet the man you need to be—come as you are and come willing to grow.

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Your past does not have to be your future.

Nobody gets sharp alone.

God didn’t save you merely so you could survive another week. You were created for a purpose - and your life is supposed to produce something.

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Breakfast Podcast, Tom challenges men to take an honest look at the fruit their lives are producing. Are you becoming more dependable, honest, disciplined, generous, and useful to the people around you? Is God’s grace changing the way you live when nobody is watching?

Using Ephesians 2:10, we look at what it means to be God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works. We aren’t saved because of our good works, but genuine grace should produce change in the way we live, work, serve, forgive, give, speak, and take responsibility.

You don’t need a title, a platform, or a perfect past to make a difference. You can encourage someone, keep your word, help a man who is struggling, become a better father, make amends, mentor someone younger, or be the first man in your family to break a destructive cycle.

Today’s challenge: Do one good thing deliberately that you would not have otherwise done - and don’t look for recognition. Just do it because you’re learning to walk in the good works God has placed in front of you.

Join us for the Sharpening Men Breakfast!
If you’re near Blytheville, Arkansas, come join us every Saturday at 9:00 a.m. for a completely FREE breakfast for men 18 and older. We meet in the back building/fellowship hall at Ruddle Road Church of God, 1400 S. Ruddle Rd., Blytheville, AR 72315. You don’t have to have your life together. Come as you are—but come willing to grow.

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Nobody gets sharp alone.

How do you decide whether you're doing okay as a man? Is your measuring stick your job, your bank account, your marriage, what people think about you—or the failures and mistakes in your past?

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Podcast, Tom challenges men to examine where their sense of worth really comes from. Your performance can change. Your possessions can disappear. Relationships can struggle. People’s opinions can turn. And your past may contain things you genuinely regret. But none of those things have the authority to determine your value.

Your worth begins with the God who created you.

Using Psalm 139:14, we look at the difference between honestly admitting, “I’ve done wrong,” and accepting the destructive conclusion, “Therefore, I’m worthless.” Sharpening Men isn't about making excuses for failure. If you've hurt someone, make it right. If you're dealing with addiction, deal with it. If you've been irresponsible, start becoming responsible. But don't turn repentance into a life sentence of shame.

This episode challenges you to identify the false labels you've been carrying, reject their authority to define you, and take one practical step that agrees with the man God says you're becoming.

With God, people change.

Come Have Breakfast With Us - If you're around Blytheville, Arkansas, you're invited to the Sharpening Men Breakfast every Saturday at 9:00 a.m. We meet in the back building/fellowship hall at Ruddle Road Church of God, 1400 S. Ruddle Rd., Blytheville, AR 72315.

It's completely FREE and open to men age 18 and older.

You don't have to be a “church guy.” Maybe you've been away from church for years. Maybe you've never been involved in church. Maybe you're fighting an addiction, you've been locked up, or you've simply made a mess of some things.

You're still welcome.

Come eat breakfast, sit down with some other men, and start moving forward. No pretending. No perfect men. Just men learning to follow Jesus and become the men God created us to be.

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Email Tom: [email protected]

Listen, share this episode with another man who needs it, and join us as we keep sharpening one another.

Nobody gets sharp alone.

Getting older happens automatically. Growing up doesn't.

A man can be 18, 30, 50, or 70 years old and still blame other people for his problems, refuse correction, lose his temper when he doesn't get his way, break promises, avoid difficult conversations, and expect somebody else to clean up his mess. At some point, a man has to decide: It's time to grow up.

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Breakfast Podcast, Tom looks at 1 Corinthians 13:11 and Paul's words: “When I became a man, I put away childish things.”

Notice that Paul says, “I put away.” That's intentional.

Other men can encourage you, mentor you, confront you, pray for you, and walk beside you—but there are some things nobody else can put away for you. Eventually, you have to take responsibility for your own life and decide that some things end here.

So this episode asks some uncomfortable questions. Maybe it's time to stop explaining it, stop defending it, and simply say: “That ends here.”

Come Have Breakfast With Us

If you're anywhere around Blytheville, Arkansas, come have breakfast with us Saturday morning at 9:00 a.m. We meet in the Fellowship Hall/back building at Ruddle Road Church of God, 1400 S. Ruddle Rd., Blytheville, AR 72315.

It's completely free and for men 18 and older.

You don't need church clothes. You don't have to bring a Bible. You don't need to know anybody. And you don't need to clean yourself up before you walk through the door.

Maybe you haven't been to church in years. Maybe you're struggling with addiction. Maybe you've been in jail or prison. Maybe you've made some mistakes you're not proud of. Maybe you're trying to rebuild your marriage, family, finances, or life. Or maybe you're simply a man who knows there are some areas where you need to grow.

Come anyway. You're welcome at the table.

We're going to eat, talk, open the Bible, and help each other become better men. We aren't gathering because we've arrived. We're gathering because we haven't. Every man has something that still needs sharpening.

Think of One Man

Before you move on to something else, think of one man who might need something like this.

Send him this episode and say:

“Breakfast Saturday at 9. Come with me.”

That's it. One man reaching out to another man.

Visit SharpeningMen.org for breakfast information, podcast episodes, resources, and ways to connect.

Have a question, comment, prayer request, or something you'd like us to discuss? Email Tom at [email protected].

No pretending. No perfect men. Just men learning to follow Jesus and become the men God created us to be.

Nobody gets sharp alone.

What does real strength look like? Is it throwing a punch—or having the self-control to walk away? Is it intimidating someone—or protecting someone? Is it winning the argument—or having the courage to admit when you're wrong?

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Podcast, we look at the kind of strength God calls men to develop. 1 Corinthians 16:13–14 tells us to stand firm, “act like men,” be strong—and do everything with love. Biblical strength isn't weakness, but neither is it uncontrolled anger, pride, or brutality. Sometimes courage means standing your ground. Sometimes it means walking away from an addiction, telling the truth, setting a boundary, admitting you're wrong, or simply saying, “Brother, I need help.”

Today's challenge: do one courageous thing governed by love. Make the call. Have the conversation. Tell the truth. Ask for help. Stand your ground.

Come eat breakfast with us! The Sharpening Men Breakfast meets every Saturday at 9:00 a.m. in the back building/fellowship hall at Ruddle Road Church of God, 1400 S. Ruddle Rd., Blytheville, AR 72315. It's completely free and open to men 18 and older. Come as you are—no pretending and no perfect men required.

-  Visit SharpeningMen.org for breakfast information, episodes, FAQs, resources, and ways to connect.

-  Need someone to talk to or have a question? Email [email protected].

-  Think of one man who needs to hear this message about real strength and send this episode directly to him.

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-  You don't have to do life alone. You don't have to keep living the way you're living today.

Nobody gets sharp alone.

Your worst decision, biggest failure, or darkest season does not get the final word about who you are—God does.

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Breakfast Podcast, we confront the shame and labels that can follow men for years. Whether your story includes prison, addiction, a broken marriage, failure as a father, financial struggles, or simply disappointing yourself, your past may be part of your story, but it does not have to determine the man you become.

Scripture teaches that God has crowned man with glory and honor and entrusted him with purpose and responsibility (Psalm 8:4–6). Repentance matters. Consequences are real. Making things right matters. But there is a tremendous difference between saying, “I did something wrong” and believing, “I am worthless.” Identify the label you've allowed to define you, then take one specific action today toward becoming the man God is calling you to be.

Join us for the Sharpening Men Breakfast every Saturday at 9:00 a.m. in the back building/fellowship hall at Ruddle Road Church of God, 1400 S. Ruddle Rd., Blytheville, AR 72315. Breakfast is completely free and open to men 18 and older. No pretending and no requirement that you have your life together—come eat with us and grow alongside other men.

Visit SharpeningMen.org for more information and our FAQ, or email [email protected] with questions, comments or if you just need someone to talk to.

Oh, and if you know a man who believes his life is over because of something he's done, send him this episode.

We need each other. Nobody gets sharp alone.

What has God put in your hands—and are you taking responsibility for it?

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Breakfast Podcast, we talk about one of the foundational marks of biblical manhood: responsibility. Your work, family, finances, relationships, word, abilities, and spiritual life all require a man willing to stop making excuses, quit blaming others, and take ownership of what God has entrusted to him.

Obviously, the Bible teaches us that a man’s primary duties before God are to: fear (respect & be in awe) God, obey Him, love Him completely, and love others. (See Ecclesiastes 12:13, Matthew 22:37-40) – but that is requires us to do our responsibility in other areas as well.

The challenge today is simple: identify one responsibility you've been neglecting and do something about it. Make the call. Apologize. Pay the bill. Finish the job. Show up. Take ownership.

If you're near Blytheville, Arkansas, join us Saturday at 9:00 a.m. for the free Sharpening Men Breakfast—men 18 and older. No perfect men required; just men willing to grow.

Visit SharpeningMen.org to learn more.
Questions, comments, or need someone to talk to? Email [email protected].
Share this episode with another man who needs to hear it.

Nobody gets sharp alone.

What does it really mean to be a man—and who gets to decide?

Culture has plenty to say about what a man is supposed to be. Maybe your definition came from your father, other men you grew up around, movies, television, sports, the streets, or simply from trying to survive. But there's a more important question: Does our definition of manhood line up with the One who created men in the first place?

In this episode of the Sharpening Men Podcast, Tom goes back to Genesis 1:26–27 and the beginning of manhood: God created man in His own image. We were created by God, for God, to reflect God, to be loved by God, and to love Him.

Biblical manhood isn't about having big muscles, growing a beard, acting tough, never showing weakness, or pretending you've got everything figured out. It's about becoming the man God created you to be.

So here's the challenge: Where did you get your definition of what a man is? What ideas about manhood have you picked up along the way that don't line up with Scripture? What masks, expectations, and false definitions need to come off?

That's what Sharpening Men is about. We aren't gathering because we've arrived or because we've figured everything out. We're men trying to learn, grow, follow Jesus, and help sharpen one another along the way.

Come Eat Breakfast With Us

If you're in the Blytheville area, come eat breakfast with us Saturday morning at 9:00 a.m. It's 100% free.

You don't have to belong to a church. You don't have to know the Bible. You don't even have to own a Bible. And you definitely don't have to have your life together.

Maybe you haven't been inside a church in years. Maybe you're fighting addiction. Maybe you've recently gotten out of jail or prison. Maybe you've made some serious mistakes. Maybe you're trying to put your family or your life back together. Or maybe you're simply a man who realizes there has to be more to life than what you've been living.

You're welcome at the table.

Just show up. Grab some breakfast. Meet some men. Sit down with us. Nobody is expecting you to pretend to be something you're not.

Don't Come Alone

As you listen to this episode, think about one man.

Not everybody in your contacts. Just one guy.

Maybe it's a coworker, brother, son, neighbor, old friend, or somebody you know who's going through a rough season. Send him this episode and tell him:

“I thought about you when I heard this. Come eat breakfast with me Saturday.”

That's how brotherhood starts—one man reaching out to another.

Learn more about the Sharpening Men Breakfast & Podcast, including what we do, when and where we meet, and answers to frequently asked questions at SharpeningMen.org.

Questions? Want to talk? Have something you'd like us to address on the podcast? Visit our website at www.sharpeningmen.org or Email Tom directly at [email protected].

No pretending. No perfect men. Just men learning to follow Jesus and become the men God created us to be.

Nobody gets sharp alone.