She Made Herself a Home

In today's episode, I talk about how to overcome burnout. We are in the newborn phase again, after several years out of it, and life works differently. I'm sharing 8 different tips to help limit burnout and allow yourself to reconnect with the life you are living today. There is always a solution to any problem and today I share my insecurities and burnout to encourage you to make positive changes in your home.

• If I can accomplish something I feel good about myself but with a newborn life moves slower and lack of sleep impacts everything, which led me to burnout. (2:00)
• There are adjustments I'm making to juggle my business, growing family, and responsibilities that require me to change what I was doing before. (4:09)
• Whether it is with work, daily routine, or even kids, my number one tip for burnout is to walk away and get a change of scenery for a little while. (8:39)
• Tip number two for burnout is do something meaningful, get outside of yourself and do something for someone else that is not part of your family. (12:43)
• Another way to reduce burnout is to lower your expectations and reduce the amount of pressure you're putting on yourself each day. (14:40)
• Change your pace or routine, sometimes we need to reroute things in order to not feel burnout. (15:50)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In this episode, I share five different ways to love yourself and teach your body and brain to care for yourself. If we begin to treat ourselves better then maybe we can be kinder to others, and that would be a great goal for 2021.

• The first way to love yourself is to stop saying negative things inside your mind and begin retraining the brain how to think positively toward ourselves. (3:09)
• Pause and look in the mirror, straight into your eyes, and focus on past achievements and celebrate what you have today. (4:30)
• Take time to write down all your accomplishments from the week, whether big or small, and remember what you have done. (6:30)
• Even though it can be hard, find time each day to do something you love because it's one way to teach your brain and body to love yourself. (8:20)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In today's episode, I explore the importance of self forgiveness and the gift we give ourselves when we accept and give forgiveness. I'm sharing an Oprah Magazine article that resonated with me and I take some time to walk you through the different steps of forgiveness, because I want you to break free from the shame and guilt keeping you stuck in the past.

• Many of us struggle to forgive ourselves from past mistakes, decisions, and situations which prevents us from moving forward with our lives. (1:20)
• An article on how to forgive ourselves really resonated with me and I walk you through the different steps. (2:11)
• Guilt is an emotion that teaches us something, it is the first step in the healing journey and serves a purpose. (3:01)
• There are several tools to assist in forgiveness, whether writing it out for someone or visualizing how forgiveness will feel. (5:08)
• Self compassion is another piece of forgiveness, talking to yourself as you would a friend because healing can not happen in a guilty shameful environment. (11:25)

Article referenced by Caitlin Abber: https://www.oprahmag.com/life/a26028888/how-to-forgive-yourself/

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In today's episode, I am sharing a little bit about what our family has been up to in January and my goals for 2021. I encourage you to take time to create your intentions for the year and allow yourself the opportunity to let the creative juices flow and discover your next adventure.

• In January we welcomed our new baby girl into the family and are enjoying the presence of this new life in our house. (1:19)
• Setting intentions for the new year is part of who I am and this year is no different, but I will be carrying with me the 6 lessons I learned in 2020 I shared on the last episode. (3:07)
• Personal goals, and some decor and design goals Richard and I have for events and more spec houses. (5:00)
• The importance of finding time to develop creativity and plan your week without distraction. (8:08)
• Why it's important to write down your goals and set intentions even if you don't reach them. (12:00)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In this episode, I am giving a recap of the year and with a send off of love. I'm taking the month of December off for good reason to rest rejuvenate and to prepare for a big event in our life coming soon.

I know 2020 has taught you something too. Ask yourself what that is. We all have to collectively find the good in this year. There are always positive outcomes even in negativity and I believe we have to focus on that.

I'm praying you can take some time to reflect truly on what you want next year to look like and what this year of ups and downs has taught you. Thank you as always for supporting me and my family and this business. I'm praying you all have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. See y'all in 2021!!

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In today's episode, I share a Forbes article by Kathy Caprino I read several years ago that continues to be relevant even today. In response to the eight most desired things, I share how I navigate those wants in my daily life. Today I want you to know that it is possible to rise up and change an area that rings true for you today.

• Happiness was the number one thing people desired most and unfortunately people don't know themselves well enough to identify what makes them happy. (4:17)
• Take time to understand your money story and the habits around spending so that it's possible to have the second most desired thing, money. (8:53)
• Freedom requires following your own authentic values and beliefs, building strong boundaries, and forging your own path in life and work. (8:53)
• In today's chaotic world the only way to have peace is by committing to take time and build in daily practices to support that. (15:03)
• Even if your personal and family life bring you joy, if what you're doing in your day to day work doesn't, you can't help but feel joyous. (15:03)
• If you're searching for balance, then revisit your priorities because if you meet your priorities, you will feel more balanced. (19:03)
• To live up to our highest potential, which leads to fulfillment, we have to leave our comfort zones behind. (19:03)
• Confidence comes from acknowledging our own magnificence, not shying away from it and deciding to learn about the topics and ideas that interest us. (23:44)

Read the article here: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/05/24/the-top-8-things-people-desperately-desire-but-cant-seem-to-attain/?sh=4853fec97086

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In today's episode, I continue to open up about my journey with fear and anxiety by sharing 5 ways I'm coping that may help you where you are today. At the end I share a resource I have found helpful. Listen in and be encouraged to find ways to cope with your anxiety and fears.

• In response to people reaching out about coping with anxiety, these are 5 different coping methods used to manage fear. (2:19)
• First thing to do is intentionally turn off the noise, like IG, FB, all news channels, so that you can be present with those around you. (7:06)
• Another way to cope with fear is to gain knowledge by writing down your thoughts then ask questions and learn from trusted sources. (8:25)
• Only you can make health a priority: pay attention to sleep patterns, schedule the doctor appointment, move your body, and cut out the excess. (11:25)
• Find someone who listens, like a counselor, and say the thoughts out loud so that someone who does it for a living can ask you good, insightful questions. (15:00)
• Truly forgive yourself for things you've done in the past and let go of something so that you can embrace the person you were created to be. (16:18)
• Encouragement from Dr. Weeks is to not run from your fear. Instead acknowledge it, live in it, and know what's coming from it and you're more likely to cope with it. (18:16)
• Listen in to the 16 do's and dont's of coping with fear and anxiety. (18:57)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In today's episode, I am sharing five ways to cultivate a legacy in your home. No matter what life stage you are in it is possible to create a space of comfort and safety. Listen in and be encouraged to find ways to nurture the legacy within your four walls.

• Your legacy of home is up to you to create; you have the ability and the responsibility to pass on a wonderful legacy to those you love. (1:57)
• The home is a sacred space where memories are created, personalities are cultivated, privileges are earned and lessons are learned. (3:03)
• No matter what feelings our home evokes now, we can create a foundation on solid rock and cultivate a new legacy. (3:24)
• A home is built around love, forgiveness, anger, intimacy, joy, sorrow, and so many more feelings, which is an intangible piece of creating the legacy. (5:41)
• One way we cultivate our legacy of faith is having scripture around the home so the words are imprinted on our hearts. (6:24)
• There are simple ways to create comfort through smells, textiles, and spaces in the home. (11:08)
• We created a legacy rhythm of conversation with our children that allows us to give forgiveness, to seek out trust, and to share hopes. (13:20)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In today's episode, I am sharing a topic that has been on my heart and importance of female friendships in our lives. As we get older, it can be harder to have those close friendships and be there for them when they need us in the midst of our busy lives. I hope this episode encourages you to reach out, encourage your friends and check on those who may be hurting.

• Listening to Jen Hatmaker share a story of elephants inspired today's conversation about the vision of female friendship. (1:05)
• Female elephants close ranks when a mama elephant gives birth so she and the baby are protected from predators during a vulnerable time. (1:47)
• Sometimes we feel vulnerable and want to share it with others so they can pick us up. (1:47)
• It can be difficult to step out of our circle and reach out to others in a time of vulnerability but also when we see friends in difficult seasons. (1:47)
• I want to be the friend that sees those that are vulnerable and hurting and be brave enough to stand up and say, I've got your back. (6:46)
• The story of elephants wraps up with the young elephants copying their mamas, which is a lesson that our children are watching how we show up in friendships. (8:47)
• Don't hesitate to nurture your friendships: encourage your friends, love on your friends, seek out new friendships and be a better friend yourself. (12:36)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.

In today's episode, I am encouraging fellow mamas in the daily battle we face today as we juggle all the things. I share with you one of my mentors that guides me in my journey and brings me hope and perspective. Today I want you to know that your sacrifice is seen and known and making a difference.

• Encouragement especially for the mamas out there during this season from a favorite author, Sally Clarkson. (1:27)
• The devotion centered around mamas as the wonderful heroes because they take on this enormous task of subduing and civilizing your home. (2:08)
• An open and honest account of life as a mother and choosing to not spiral into the negative thoughts and feelings in the face of all the demands. (4:25)
• One habit that helps provide perspective is writing down the "why" of a decision or commitment. (8:23)
• Part of enjoying the journey is to try and not fill your plate so much that you forget to see and hear what your family is asking. (9:20)
• Remember, if it feels hard and difficult that's because it is. Motherhood is a battle and we are armed and ready. The work we do in the mundane really does matter. (11:02)

This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book.